How do you like your head? Male or female preferences for receiving oral

There are a dozen threads here that touch briefly on this subject, but nothing with a real focus or where the topic is treated in depth. Since becoming active with multiple partners this year I've been reminded of how many different 'techniques' there are & the variety of skill levels. It would probably be more than useful if folks shared their thoughts on how they like it done, how they do it, and 'special' moments.

Most of the folks giving to me have been aggressive and 'vigorous'. Is this common? I prefer slow and more sensual & lean that way when giving.

I'd have to lean towards slow and sensual. I usually don't orgasm from oral no matter what the style is, and there was one playmate early in our swinging career who took that as some sort of personal challenge. I had mentioned that in the talk leading up to the playdate, and she was convinced that with her skills, she would be different. I tried to explain that it was totally ok, I like oral, that's for sure, but how it ends is of no concern to me. She wasn't really listening. So, the night arrived, she was giving me oral, I was liking it, but no orgasm. I was ready to move on to the main event, but she wasn't until she made me come, despite what I had told her. I kept letting her go at it for a while, but the longer it went, the more aggressive and vigorous she got, until finally I had to cry uncle on that deal once it definitely crossed the pleasure to painful threshold.

When giving oral sex to a woman, from what I've been told, my style is "sooooo attentive" I focus 110% on making HER feel good for as long as she wants to feel that way and don't try to rush things along or ignore what I'm sensing she likes best in favor of what I like.

You too huh. When I was in my twenties I usually got off from a bj. Not since. Oral has been foreplay but not completion for me.

When I give oral to a woman, I like to start slow and a little "teasey", meaning that I don't hit the button right away, but work my way there and pay a little attention around the inner thighs and outer lips, before touching the clit. Different women like different kinds of touching on their clits; some like more pressure or faster tongue flicking, while others like slow licks or a lighter touch, or some other combinations (I have one play partner who likes a pretty firm lick, but a slower pace). Whichever the particular woman prefers, I try to offer sustained and consistent action, with short side-trips from her clit to her inner lips, up and down her vagina, or a little side-to-side wiggle of my head with a firm tongue across her clit. I am not usually adding fingers inside her vagina while licking her clit, but I'll give that a try if I know she likes that! Whatever I'm doing, I like to keep it going until she is satisfied, or hopefully grabs my head and tells me to fuck her now!

As far as receiving oral is concerned, I'm in with those of you who really like how it feels (and looks, and sounds!), but it's not at all common for me to cum from oral. If the oral is happening before we've fucked, I think I somehow feel a little selfish having an orgasm at that point. Anyway, my favorite way of someone going down on me would include nice, long strokes, plenty of moisture, attention to the balls along with my cock, a somewhat faster pace, and consistent stroking, either with the hand, the mouth, or a combination.

There is a definite difference between head as foreplay and head as the sex act. For me to come from head requires a 'list' of things that need to be going right. My mind has to be at ease, meaning recently showered so I'm not stressing about some odor, the house quiet, and a little high. The position has to be comfortable, laying on a bed rather than standing on the stairs in the garage. I have to feel that the giver is doing this because it's something they really want to be doing. I could never orgasm from 'obligatory' head, no matter how good the technique. But that said, seeing someone enjoying my dick, looking at the orgasm as a reward, can get me off, even with mediocre skills.

I prefer slower and sensual when receiving head. I like full stroke with one hand fully gripping my cock not too tight, not too lose. Her mouth up against her stroking hand and my cock sliding through both her hand and lips while she is sucking with moderate suction. Sloppy wet is fine with me. I want her to look at me often. I want to see her eyes while my cock is in her wonderfully wet mouth. I love it when she moan with pleasure knowing she is making me fell great. I like when her other hand is gently, I say gently caressing my balls. And gently tickling my taint or asshole. I'll allow a woman, or my woman to finger my ass. It makes me cum hard as fuck. Just like when you have anal sex and the woman cums and you can feel the anus contractions, so can she on her finger when you are cuming. My ex girlfriend loved knowing how good it was when I was cumming while she gently and not too deeply fingered my asshole. If I was laying on my back she would gently lick and tease my taint and asshole with her tongue too. Oral is just so much fun to give and get. Love it! Almost nothing I live more then eating my woman pussy and any of the past women I've been with too. It's my favorite past time lol.

Have seen nothing from any ladies yet. Must be too shy & embarassed to tell how they like their likker

If I type about how I like to give it to my lady it will be a novel lol! I LOVE giving head to my woman whoever that may be at the time.

If I type about how I like to give it to my lady it will be a novel lol! ...

Bring it on!

Ok, I'll chime in...I mostly like my tongue lashing with manual stimulation. An eager mouth suckling my clit and a pair of fingers inside stroking my g-spot does it every time.

Of course there's also the slow tease of hot breath and a light tongue tickling my labia, my inner thighs, my clit. A full mouth covering my mound leads to the want of a hard cock and explosive orgasms.

... An eager mouth suckling my clit and a pair of fingers inside stroking my g-spot does it every time.

 

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So its "sucking" your clit vs licking or rubbing, plus the G spot stimulation that set you off. Not kept a precise count, but a number of women have communicated that to me, the sucking part. Some like it even rougher with teeth applied as well. Rare but there have been a few. Not quite my style but one does his best.

69 is my choice with a partner that enjoys 69 as much as me!

On 11/11/2015 at 5:13 PM, love2dp said:

I prefer slower and sensual when receiving head. I like full stroke with one hand fully gripping my cock not too tight, not too lose. Her mouth up against her stroking hand and my cock sliding through both her hand and lips while she is sucking with moderate suction. Sloppy wet is fine with me. I want her to look at me often. I want to see her eyes while my cock is in her wonderfully wet mouth. I love it when she moan with pleasure knowing she is making me fell great. I like when her other hand is gently, I say gently caressing my balls. And gently tickling my taint or asshole. I'll allow a woman, or my woman to finger my ass. It makes me cum hard as fuck. Just like when you have anal sex and the woman cums and you can feel the anus contractions, so can she on her finger when you are cuming. My ex girlfriend loved knowing how good it was when I was cumming while she gently and not too deeply fingered my asshole. If I was laying on my back she would gently lick and tease my taint and asshole with her tongue too. Oral is just so much fun to give and get. Love it! Almost nothing I live more then eating my woman pussy and any of the past women I've been with too. It's my favorite past time lol.

Yeah, this way!  Nice and slow with a well oiled hand and mouth imitating what her vagina would be doing if she were fucking me.

I enjoy the fact that different people eat pussy differently.  Some concentrate on my clit, and techniques vary (fast/slow, flicking/sucking, back-and-forth/circle), while others tongue my vagina more.  

7 hours ago, couplers said:

I enjoy the fact that different people eat pussy differently.  Some concentrate on my clit, and techniques vary (fast/slow, flicking/sucking, back-and-forth/circle), while others tongue my vagina more.  

I’m going to agree totally on this answer and add to it. 
I am blessed that my husband knows what to do every time and he knows my clitoris is the way to my heart and pleasure. Whether it is soft or hard or me grinding onto to his face, oral can me very happy. 
Years of being together taught me what makes Alan happy too. I know he enjoys me leaning on his belly and having him in my mouth while I can stroke him and cup him, yet the way to make him cum from head is to get between his legs and go deep on him while looking him in the eyes. 

Since we started meeting others I enjoy the variety which can mean that not all are great in what they do. I used to think that men would know what to do and react to signals I give, unfortunately that’s not true. My new excitement comes from women who only know what they like use their feelings in trying to please me. Being a first for these women are a big reward. Almost every woman is nervous to do this and most only want to show they know how to please. I am sure they all replicate what their partners do to them. What I have learned is women are more likely to take signals and direction in trying to please. 

15 hours ago, cplnluv1 said:

the way to make him cum from head

Most of the time, I'm trying to make my guys not cum from head.  Although I don't mind and I'm a swallower, I much prefer he ejaculate in my vagina.

15 hours ago, cplnluv1 said:

women are more likely to take signals and direction in trying to please

Discovering my Lesbian side is one of best things that has ever happened to me.  It's not just the sex with women (although that is a world unto itself), but the deep relationships I have with Clair and Lora in sharing children with the same men and raising them together. 

15 hours ago, couplers said:

Most of the time, I'm trying to make my guys not cum from head.  Although I don't mind and I'm a swallower, I much prefer he ejaculate in my vagina.

This is my husband and I have a good read on what he likes and when. I am satisfied if he is satisfied. He satisfies me plenty without being in me. 

I like it slow and sensual to kind of moderate.  Definitely slower if it's just foreplay and there is no expectation of cumming and maybe a little more moderate if it's to completion.  However my GF actually loves and prefers to be facefucked as hard as possible.  Occasionally I do this with her but it's best left to the other guys who are much more aggressive and appreciate it more.

On 12/21/2022 at 3:43 AM, couplers said:

Most of the time, I'm trying to make my guys not cum from head.  Although I don't mind and I'm a swallower, I much prefer he ejaculate in my vagina.

 

 

How about both? Personally I would probably cum in the pussy first and go 69 for the second but I would be open to the lady's favorite combo.

5 hours ago, J&Wu said:

How about both? Personally I would probably cum in the pussy first and go 69 for the second

Yes!  For me (us women generally) having an oral orgasm before and/or after the main event is easy and routine, no need to reload like the guys.

We women like tending to a sloppy spent dick, especially when it's just finished in a different pussy (it's a bi thing).  But if he's got more to give, it's usually going back into a vagina.  Our family is three women and two men, so we conserve resources. 

5 hours ago, J&Wu said:

I would be open to the lady's favorite combo.

🙂  As it should be.  Mine is FFM.