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I've been doing "edging" several times during my self-love times in bed before I even knew there was a term for it. The reason for doing so was because I wanted to wait for a really good moment in an erotic story to let myself go. After giving this some thought, I realized that Mr. Sun does this quite often when we have sex and sometimes it frustrates me because it will feel really fantastic and then he stops! And he always says it's because he doesn't want to orgasm yet.

 

So, who has "edged" during masturbation and who has done it during sex?

 

Edit: Gosh darnit! I was in such a rush to post this that I forgot to include my link for edging.

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Hi, Petra here. I have seen references to "edging" and somehow thought it was more than just holding back, (perhaps an urban myth) like a guy being able to orgasm without ejaculating then keep going with an erection. I would say we all in the poly family hold back, we all have good control, make it last, and let go at a good moment.

 

 

As for masturbating, I can only speak for myself since it's something we do almost exclusively when the person is away from the others, like on a business trip. I definitely go slow and enjoy it for quite a while until it seems it is just the right instant. Although when at home I usually have sex once in the morning and once at night, when away from home I usually masturbate only right before I go to bed then fall asleep. Occasionally I'll have a quick one in the morning, and sometimes after a particularly stressful day out-of-town I will pop a quick one, then go slowly on the second orgasm a little while later.

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I too am new to the term "edging". I know this, holding back (my term) never works. A woman's pelvic thrusts are too stochastic to allow me to consciously control the timing of an orgasm. And all of the women in my life seem to get into crooning and pleading, "don't stop, don't stop, etc., etc."

 

In regard to "practicing on my own", to borrow a Woody Allen phrase from Annie Hall, I have been able to take myself almost all the way then back off a little. Maybe that's the reason I needed eyeglasses when I was only 10.

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Hey, to me, my thrusts are never stochastic.

 

 

Woody Allen said, "Don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone you love."

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He - occasionally during masturbation, but when it happens it would be for the same reason, i.e. waiting to get to the really good part :) Hardly ever during sex, at least not intentionally taking things to the edge and backing off. If I don't want to finish too soon, then I'll take that little break to calm things down, but a few steps back from the edge since once there, things can sneak up on you and get out of control pretty quick. That happens more with playmates than it does with us since 1) when she is feeling good, she'd rather just keep going at it instead of interrupting things even very briefly even if it means it might end a little sooner, 2) I'm not as worried about it with us since there is always tomorrow if things got a little hasty tonight.

 

Her - when she masturbates, she does something like the edging, although we had never heard that term either. She doesn't do it as a tease, because she doesn't care much for that (see above), but says it gives a much stronger orgasm, and multiples of them. If she just powers on towards the first one, then it seems like she can't totally trip the trigger, or else if it does happen, then it's once and done and she can't reach that multiple orgasm happy place that can go on for a long time if she gets in the groove just right by off and on building slowly up to it, and then after the first arrives, she can just keep bringing them.

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I also was not familiar with the term, but I do practice it when masturbating while watching a porn DVD. I find that getting up to the brink and backing off a couple of times really increased the strength of my orgasm and it allows me to cum exactly where in the DVD action I want it to occur. Yes, my orgasms are much stronger when they occur in sync with the sex I am seeing on my TV.

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A female partner I had was able to give me the most amazing "edging" experience. She taught me a breathing technique that uses the stomach and as I did that, she would give me oral and manual stimulation. She would "edge" me several times and when I did cum, I actually felt a sense of euphoria and a tingly sensation all over. I did a little research online and found out that's a "full-body orgasm" usually achieved through tantric sex. I always thought that's just urban legend.

 

I was never able to reproduce that sensation with anyone else. I do try "edging" when I masturbate and although it makes the orgasm really intense, I don't get that same feeling.

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I do it quite a bit while jacking off. Especially with a good porn flick. I can get to the point where I just jack it two or three times and stop, and it feels like short little orgasms but without cumming. I can do this for about 20 minutes on the last one I'll take it just a little further to the point where I can stop just at the right spot and let get a good amount of cum to ooze out all over my cock. Then I'll start jacking it slowly with all that cum coating my cock until I explode. I'll also do it with the wife if I know she's not anywhere close to cumming yet. I can get to the point again where I just start to ooze a lot of cum but don't orgasm. I'll let it either ooze onto her tits or pussy and then proceed to spread it around with my tongue. For some reason this really gets her off and she's able to cum pretty soon after that.

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We've found that many men take orgasm control to an extreme and hold back, hold back, even when she cums. She may be tired and not want to fuck anymore. Or he may have held back too long and simply can't cum now. That has led to some disappointing moments. My wife enjoys making a man cum almost as much as cumming herself. So when a man controls his orgasm too much, it lessens the experience and fun.

 

I find Tantric a bit too much in the head. So much is about control. I enjoy the loss of control, being totally in the moment, and letting go. Sure we can all back off and time our orgasms. However I love when my wife cums and her pussy does those wonderful pulsations that always make me cum. We love quickies also. For me being older means holding back for long periods can result in losing an erection. She has a younger lover who can last forever and does it in a way she enjoys, but sometimes he doesn't cum and she's bummed when he leaves. By that time I'm usually sound asleep.

 

One of our favorite intimacies is me going down on her after I've cum or another man has cum inside her. She can have wild screaming orgasms that way. So it's not as if me cumming or another guy cumming before she does deprives her of pleasure. There is something magical about the taste/energy/intimacy of mixed orgasms. Her taste and my taste joined is much greater than the sum of the parts in every way.

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When I feel close to cumming I'll stop. This is usually very frustrating to her at first. The more I stop and recover from that feeling of cumming the longer I can go without having that feeling to the point that I can go for as long until she is satisfied.

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Edging is very beneficial to building a mans stamina. What is actually occurring is you are giving your kegel muscles a work out which gives you much stronger erections and control. When masturbating I would say I edge 90% of the time and the longer the better. Aside from the good work out it makes for a very strong orgasm and huge load. Hey gotta clean the pipes out...

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I haven't heard the term before but masturbating, I'm pretty much doing that to get off because a book or movie or pool boy or whatever has made me really horny. Hubby has become quite good at "edging" me. He gets me right on the edge and keeps me there for the longest times,perhaps getting me to have just a little one here and there before I break though with multiples. Sometimes he does this before we go out but doesn't take me over the edge; says I then have a hungry look in my eyes the rest of the evening and makes me more receptive if we are going to a couples club or out drinking with a possibly MFM for a night cap.

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A friend my wife and I play with is a master at edging while masturbating. Unfortunately it can become a problem. He has no problem getting and maintaining an erection but finds it extremely difficult, if not impossible, to orgasm through intercourse. It really frustrates him but not enough to stop edging while masturbating.

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I just had my wife do this too me on Sunday. Had her stroking me really slowly while little waves of pleasure came over my body. It was great, I think we'll definitely repeat. I do do it while mastrebating but not all the time.

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