Hello, I am new to the board, I have been reading (wow lots to read) since we booked our first trip to Desire (next month)
Anyway, I have a couple of questions that hopefully some of you can help me out with. First off... we are happily married & secure in our relationship for 10 years now, we have been in the Lifestyle (off and on, on right now) for the past 8 years. My major problem, is watching my hubby having intercourse with the other females, I really want to enjoy this sooo bad, but have a hard time eccepting it as its happening... I love our sex afterwards when we are alone, & I fantise about it later (its a major turn on) But just difficult at the time. We always swing with other couples, so I am having my fun too! But I always seem to end up with another man that either gets stage fright or just can't last past the oral... My hubby on the other hand, can last forever.... his problem is actually that fact that he has a hard time ejaculating. We have had an experience one time were he just seemed to go on for along time , while myself & the other male where finished... I think it just got to be too much for me. (Since then I have found my comfort level much worst.)
One more!.... Is it unusual for me to expect him to hold off & only have his orgasm with me? Is there anyone else that has these feelings? I want more then anything to get over this bump in the road, & enjoy this whole experience to the fullest.
Did you go through times, but had to grin & bare it so to speak.. And keep trying until swinging became better?
*****Sorry, I know I said I only had a couple of questions.****