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What do you say when asked how you met your swinging friends?

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We're thinking of having a "swirl" party when the hockey season starts and wanted to invite a bunch of people we know. Some of these people would be our swinger friends and others would be vanilla.

 

It would also be the first time we would be introducing our swinger friends. The topic will eventually come up about how me know them. What do you guys tend to say in these situations?

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"At a club, just got to talking and figured out we had a lot in common, live nearby, get together for drinks now and then (all true)"

 

Actually, when we had a party earlier this summer and mixed family, vanilla friends, and swinger friends, we were surprised to find that nobody really asked. Many of the people present were from different "circles" and were just busy socializing and getting to know each other, so the issue of how they knew us didn't really come up.

 

When meeting other people's friends, we just went with what was comfortable for them and what they thought would be credible to their friends...which ended up being a slightly more elaborate story. We were asked in that case, which made me nervous, but I don't think we raised any suspicions.

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I've said "oh, we go way back, we just reconnected on facebook". Usually nothing is asked after that.

 

That's a great line!!! We have said we met them through other friends and seemed to have the same interest and began hanging out.

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I've said "oh, we go way back, we just reconnected on facebook". Usually nothing is asked after that.

 

Hehe, that's a tough line for us to use. If there's anyone we go way back with it's our vanilla friends.

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Facebook is good until they realize they are not listed as your friends on facebook.

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This actually happened to us about a week ago.

There is one swing couple that we are very close to, in that we hang out a lot whether we play or not. They have only lived in this area for a little over a year.

A couple weekends ago, they invited their extended family up for the weekend, and wanted us to drop by and "meet the gang".

 

While sitting at the table, the mother asked "How did you guys meet?".

Mrs two4you had the deer in the headlights look. Now, I'm not skilled at a lot of things, but, when put on the spot, like the Grinch, I can think up a lie, and think it up quick.

I said "The girls met each other in (Insert town name here), since they both work there. They just started chatting at the store one day, realized they had several things in common, and started chatting on the computer." During this explanation, Mrs Playmate walked in, picked up on what I was doing, and said "Yep, that's how we met".

"Mom" then said, "Well, I'm so happy that they found such good friends here!"

 

Our main go-to answer is, "We met them through another couple we're friends with, and just started hanging out".

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We have belonged to a number of wine groups, actually started soon before we started swinging. That is we were we "met" our swing friends, is the story. An we actually have a private facebook group called The Wine Group, lol. Funny thing is most of our friends do enjoy wine, and visiting wineries as a group one of the social things we do..so it's really not far from the truth!

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I got to thinking about this and realized that my friends must be afraid to ask me questions like that because of what the answer might be.

 

No one has ever asked us that question that I can remember in the last 30+ years. :rolleyes:

 

I also can not remember asking anyone that question.

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I think everyone that knows us also knows we are nudists. It's the perfect alibi. We actually have met a dozen or more couples from our home range while 250 miles from home at the nudist resort.

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We can usually try to claim that we met our current group of friend through so and so we went to high school with. The nice part about it, is that it's pretty much true.

 

We just leave the whole swinging aspect out, and tell the truth otherwise.

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When you arrive at a certain age, the children become the parents and the parents become the children. You hear things like, "just when do you two plan to be back home tonight?" Our four have all gone away to live somewhere else. But they do occasional visit. Upon the occasion of Thanksgiving Day, we have the daughter-with-the-curious-mind-that-must-know with us. Our list of Thanksgiving-feast guests includes two people of swing lifestyle acquaintance. "Who are these people and how did you get to know them," quips daughter who must know.

 

I know what she is thinking. During her time of neoteny, she recalls that Mom and Dad had never gone out anywhere and had no social life at all. What she failed to notice or does not care to remember is that raising children takes only 110 percent of your time and reserve of energy. It never dawns on her that after the kids are "let go", Mom and Dad might also "let go" in another figurative sense.

 

Well, the answer to who are these people and how did you get to know them is, "We know more people in more places than you can possibly imagine." Try it. It works.

 

~Michael

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We were having a party with mixed lifestyle and vanilla guests. Mrs. Alura, Mrs. Playmate and Mrs. Vanilla were in conversation.

 

Mrs. Vanilla: "How do y'all happen to know each other?"

 

Mrs. Playmate: "I'm not sure. Mr. Alura and Mr. Playmate met somewhere..."

 

Mrs. Alura: (Rather quickly, sending Mrs. Playmate a knowing glance.) "It was in a bookstore." (True, an adult book store, in front of the Swingers Bulletin Board.)

 

Mrs. Playmate: "Oh! Yes. I remember. Each was looking for something for his wife." (True, another man to fuck her.)

 

Mrs. Alura: "They decided to compare ideas over coffee." (True. Both were quite sure full-swap would be the way their women would want to go.)

 

Mrs. Playmate: "They made plans for the four of us to go out to dinner." (True, after which we went to the Playmates' house and fucked each other's spouses silly.)

 

Mrs. Alura: "We've been friends since." (True, and swapping once a week or so.)

 

Alura

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When you arrive at a certain age, the children become the parents and the parents become the children. You hear things like, "just when do you two plan to be back home tonight?" Our four have all gone away to live somewhere else. But they do occasional visit. Upon the occasion of Thanksgiving Day, we have the daughter-with-the-curious-mind-that-must-know with us. Our list of Thanksgiving-feast guests includes two people of swing lifestyle acquaintance. "Who are these people and how did you get to know them," quips daughter who must know.

 

I know what she is thinking. During her time of neoteny, she recalls that Mom and Dad had never gone out anywhere and had no social life at all. What she failed to notice or does not care to remember is that raising children takes only 110 percent of your time and reserve of energy. It never dawns on her that after the kids are "let go", Mom and Dad might also "let go" in another figurative sense.

 

Well, the answer to who are these people and how did you get to know them is, "We know more people in more places than you can possibly imagine." Try it. It works.

 

~Michael

 

Our youngest is approaching 16, the other three are of adult age. Two have just gone back to continue their college education, but what they kept saying was "You two party more than we do!"

 

Yep. It's our turn.

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Well, the answer to who are these people and how did you get to know them is, "We know more people in more places than you can possibly imagine." Try it. It works.

I like that one, Michael. Nothing like keeping the kids guessing :hahaha:

 

We usually give one of two responses when asked "Where did you meet Bob and Carol?"

If they've been to Hedo or Desire, we say "We met them on vacation." Otherwise, we just say we met them at a club.

 

Brett

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We haven't really mingled swingers with our vanilla friends, so that part isn't really a question. Same goes for extended family pretty much, although our family does know we go out, they don't know with whom or anything of that sort.

 

Our kids have asked where we met various friends, and we say either online or at work. They (and babysitters) have commented that "boy you guys sure go out a lot", and at this stage they think it's cool that mom and dad go out. Who knows what they will think when they are older.

 

Online is an easy excuse since I actually met several of my vanilla friends online. Way back in the 90's... haha

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Liking the we have more friends in more places line. ;) May have to start using that one. We are literally surrounded by people who are far too curious for their own good though, and they would likely ask for details. We've actually joked with each other that instead of trying to come up with answers for their unabashed nosiness we should start simply telling them the truth. "We met them at a swing party and we like to get together with them from time to time so that we can have sex with each others' partners" would either get them to stop asking questions, or get them to stop coming anywhere near us altogether. Either way, problem solved, unless they decided to hold an intervention and attempt to heal us of our wicked ways. :D

 

"Mixing company" can make for some uncomfortable situations for sure, LOL. But sometimes uncomfortable situations can be fun. Hehehe.

 

One that we've used a few times is that we met them at a bar and found out that we had a lot in common.

 

Old friend from way back is another.

 

One that becomes our favorite more and more as time goes on however, is to simply hang around with vanillas as little as possible. :lol:

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We are "out" to most of our friends. We drift towards open/poly, so it was important. If one of us is with both a "special" friend and vanilla friends, we don't want the vanilla friends to think that cheating is happening. It's really hard to hide the chemistry if you are with a regular lover. For example, I know one of my closest girlfriends though political circles. Sometimes we go to political events or fundraisers together. In the world, I'm not out...lol. On more than one occasion, I've had friends ask what's going on between me and that woman, and I'm pretty sure a few of my politico friends thinks she is my mistress. Well, I guess he's right (he's also kinda jealous!).

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We're members of a "supper club". Only one defect in this invented scenario -- what to say when the inquiring mind says, "oh, can we join this club too?"

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When a co-worker found out I knew the receptionist where he used to work and asked how we met....I truthfully told him "At a club."

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We have been nudists for 40 years. Since we have been open about it, even to the extent of being interviewed as nudists for our local newspapers a couple of times, most people know it, so we would say we met them at our nudist club, and that would probably be true in most cases.

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At an orgy works as most just laugh and figure we are making it up, then again every once in awhile you get a knowing look.

 

If that does won't work we still try to tell the truth, like "at a party", "Through friends", "at a club" or while traveling.

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