Well, like the title says, we're the definition of newbies. We've been married just over six years, and I've never been with another man in my life. When I was 18 I did have a FFM threesome with my husband (bf at the time) and enjoyed it a great deal. After discussing the idea of being with other couples, we agreed to do our research, and really take our time with the decision since jumping too fast could be a bad decision.
After doing some digging, being in our mid twenties, it appears that we're younger than most swinging couples, which can be intimidating because ideally, the other couple would be close in age. At first I figured it would be a pretty straightforward conversation, but once I registered here I realized how many different situations there are.
The more reading I do, the more I realize that there are a million ways to enter the lifestyle. I am pretty sure that soft swinging would be easy for me to handle since I am not shy about being seen nude (been to nude beaches abroad and done some artsy nude modeling in the past), so starting off there seems like a good choice, and since it was something we hadn't really thought of it could be a good ice breaker that brings us a sense of arousal without plunging all the way. That said, we're eying a full swap at some point, but probably only with other married couples because it feels the most natural and least likely to cause problems on either end knowing our would be partners are in the same boat as us.
The biggest question that I keep searching for an answer to is do we try to get involved with people we already know and interact with, or attend a club/party and mingle with strangers? At first I thought for sure it would have to be people we're familiar with, but now I'm seeing the other side of the coin as well. It could complicate friendships, and people outside our circle could be more discreet which is very important to us. We're not looking for a ton of partners, just one couple, maybe two that we can swap with once in a while. Down the line it may evolve, but right now we're not looking to dive in and get involved with too many people, which is why familiarity might be best for us. To add another layer to it, we're an interracial couple (I am mixed race, white, black and Spanish... only missing Asian to be a little bit of everything lol) and feel like it could pose a problem in some places which makes me nervous about parties.
There weren't too many questions in there, but just getting it off my chest felt pretty good lol The summary is basically, I'm only experienced with my husband, but I fantasize about the normal stuff, a MMF threesome with myself as the female, dp, watching my husband with another woman again, etc., but I haven't seen too many under 30 couples in my area. I'm also leaning towards wanting to break the ice with a newbie just to help with jitters, but we also see the benefits to someone experienced. Our sex life is great, but the thought of expanding intrigues us, at least in theory, so I'm hoping to learn some things here, and maybe even meet some friendly people. Thanks for reading!