Ladies...why do you swing?

[MrYaWanna]

Ok, now we've heard from the men as to why they swing. Ladies, why do you swing?

[Tarnished Halo]

I find this very curious that there are no responses from the ladies point of view. I am not sure what that means as far as the ladies motovation. Doubt?, unsure of why you are swinging? Perhaps an unimportant question?
T.H.

[windsor4fun2]

I suspect the lack of response has a lot to do with it being Easter Sunday and having many family plans. I know we have been busy and not on line.

In our case it was my wife that initiated our exploration into swinging. She needed no convincing from me, just the opposite.

Jesse

[meowkittyhascla]

Looks like I am the first lady to respond. Why do I swing? For the fun, baby! I was the one who initiated the idea of swinging into our life. I had noticed when hubby hit the mid-40 range that he was checking out the honeys. I thought, mmmmmm why not give him some fun and I know I wouldn't mind exploring my own sexuality. I do enjoy watching him with other ladies and I found out that I like joining him in pleasing her. It's all about pleasure.

[tazzie_n_truck]

Well for me (Tazzie) I swing because it's fun, and it's my way of exploring my sexuality, but as far as getting the ball rolling, it would have to be equal from both of us about wanting to get started in it.

[yawanna]

I have been a very sexual woman, since my divorce umpteen years ago As I was single for a very long time, friends and co workers knew something of my being an active dater, and yes... I usually had sex on the first date. Why not? It's not like I had to save that for marriage lol. I also wasn't looking for anything long term so why not have some fun .

I was participating in 'swinging' long before I realized that's what I was doing. The first couple I ever met, socially at first, led me into the whole swinger world.

I had many wild years then, including other avenues of sexual exploration, including the gay underground and dabbling in BDSM and such. I got very used to a social circle of sexually open and explorative people. It's definitely a comfortable place to be for me. Many of our friends are swingers and while we have slowed down our participation to a few private get togethers and house parties, we have maintained our swinger friendships, too.

It's a lovely blend of open minded friends and sexual participation, as we choose. It can be a total and complete lifestyle or a hobby - an occasional dalliance. The choice is mine.

That's why

[aklovers]

Again, it was my idea!

I love having sex, and I wanted to experience a woman. However I love men, so a couple sounded great. He wanted to see me with another woman (BONUS).
We had thought about it for a long time, so it is like a dream come true. That and we love trying new things, so what better than to have new people show you new things?

Mrs AK

[yawanna]

TH... have the responses answered your questions (doubts...fears...) yet....?

I would like to hear more......

[OhioCplLooking]

I swing because in my first 2 marriages, the sex started out great, then after time became boring.. I realized (finally) that what i missed was that excitment of first time..variety, a little bit naughty. So with my present relationship, while our sex life is amazing, we decided (together) that we would explore other options to keep us fresh. And so far, its working.,.. we have great one-on-one making love together, and wild crazy 3 & 4-way sex as well. Who couldnt go for that?

[Miss_Piggy]

It all started when I told Kermit that I dig the ladies. I knew full well that I wanted to stay with him and I also wanted to do a bit of experimenting. Yes I wanted to have my cake and eat it too. If you have a cake, why not eat it? I suppose I stick with it becuse I have a lot of fun at it. And I keep on learning new things.

[Roxysbayou]

Originally posted by Miss_Piggy
I wanted to have my cake and eat it too.

Dito

I like men and women, and my bi-sexuality just eventually led up to swinging.

[biblonde]

We got into this because of ME!! I wanted to explore a fantasy of being with women. I stay because we both have way to much fun and get to live out every fantasy we both have!! So why do i swing? FUN FUN FUN and lots of hot sex!!! With my hubby and with playmates.

[jcbicouple]

Two reasons:
1st is the reason we got into this to begin with and that is to explore bisexuality
2nd is the attention....love it! Both from others and from my husband. I love that I am making him want me and turning him on. It doesn't matter who we're playing with, I know he thinks I'm sexy and that is a wonderful feeling.

[Sadie6969]

As with most of the ladies response....I am the one that started it. My husband knew I was bi-sexual before we got married. But when we got married any chances of me being with another woman was over. He thought that if I was with another woman, it was cheating (at least that's what he told me!)
Then, not too long ago I met a couple through another friend. As a side note she told me they were swingers. I never thought anything of it after that. Then we were wondering a porn shop and I saw an instructional video on swinging. I pointed it out to hubby and he snickered. Nothing more was really mentioned. Then a few days later he pulled up an article on swinging, what it's all about, and who's it for and why. We thought that swinging was perfect for us. As Miss Piggy says, it allows me to have my cake and eat it too! I can have sexual experiences with other women....which have led into other men too, and still be with my husband, in a loving, committed relationship. It also REALLY helps our own sex life. After any party, we have the best sex for weeks afterwards.

Sadie