Whats your motivation?

Ciki123 · 05-28-2003, 06:13 PM

I was reading about why you all swing, and it made me wonder, whats your motivation? Is it to find a couple to hang out with and play with, or just purely sexual, with no relationship outside of the bedroom? I wondered if there were any couples out there that exclusively play with one couple.

Im nosy LOL

Nosy Ciki

OhioCouple · 05-28-2003, 09:00 PM

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Originally posted by Ciki123

Im nosy .....

You are going to fit in well around here! We are all real nosey!

Our motivation was to try and put some life back into our overall relationship. We had been severely bogged down dealing with family issues and our sex life had deteriorated. (Important to note here, we had discussed the possiblity long before we reached the point that we did.)

At first the fun came from just trying to learn more about it (which really perked us up) and then an incredible excitement occurred when we found out is was actually an acceptable 'hobby'. Our own lives perked up even more when we took the leap to place an online ad and began meeting people. Our situation is probably much different than most as we were not in a first marriage and we are older. All I can say for sure is that we have probably truly found ourselves, where we can be comfortable about our sexuality with each other and with other like minded people and feel darn good about it.

What more can you ask for?

danc694u · 05-28-2003, 09:24 PM

I can only speak for myself.

My motivation at first, was purely sexual. Now it leans toward finding a nice couple, and settling in for awhile. The bed hoping gets old really fast.

It adds a lot to our relationship.....keeps it fresh, and sensual.

Vjklander · 05-28-2003, 10:54 PM

I think the thing that really appeals most to both of us is that its nice to know we are still desirable in a sexual sense. You kind of expect it from a spouse whether you still have it or not, but when another person finds you desirable, its a huge ego boost.
J

OhioCouple · 05-28-2003, 11:13 PM

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Originally posted by Vjklander
I think the thing that really appeals most to both of us is that its nice to know we are still desirable in a sexual sense. You kind of expect it from a spouse whether you still have it or not, but when another person finds you desirable, its a huge ego boost.
J

Jamie, are you some sort of kindred spirit? No kidding, your postings constantly amaze me.

ArcaneReference · 05-28-2003, 11:33 PM

Honestly?

My vanity.

His appetite.

**Alura** · 05-28-2003, 11:37 PM

Of course Jamie's a kindred spirit, Ohio. He understands Ayla and Jondular and "sharing pleasures."

We were both pretty sexually active before we met and both like having sex with an attractive person, not because we love them, just for fun. We learned this about each other on our second date and decided then that we'd probably always be together but some occasional "strange stuff" would be fun, especially if we could do it together. Although some of our rules have evolved over time, we've never looked back.

Alura

Roxysbayou · 05-28-2003, 11:40 PM

Our motivation was exploration, then we realized that it boosted our relationship as well. I think that so far it's been strictly sexual, but I think it would be nice to have some friendly pals. I get so tired of the endless search.

Ashley · 05-29-2003, 01:25 AM

I think Arcane Reference is my kindred spirit. L seems to go for the "volume" of the experience...lol. Seriously, he's just a very sensual, sexual, open person. I like the attention, I love the clubwear and the dancing and the feeling that I'm pretty well preserved for an old woman of 48. Together, we love to share our experiences and impressions and it makes our lovemaking oh so hot!

Brit_Pair · 05-29-2003, 05:44 AM

We enjoy the variety it adds to our life, both sexually and socially, and the sharing of those experiences. We also enjoy the exploration, the (if you'll forgive the pun) probing of forbidden pastures and pleasures. The adrenal rush of this kind of play is hard to resist.

BradAndJanet · 05-29-2003, 09:19 AM

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Originally posted by Vjklander
I think the thing that really appeals most to both of us is that its nice to know we are still desirable in a sexual sense. You kind of expect it from a spouse whether you still have it or not, but when another person finds you desirable, its a huge ego boost.
J

Absolutely Jamie, that's one of my motivations. It's also the scary part, as I have not been with another woman yet and I don't know if any will find me desirable.

I hope so!

The other motivation, more from J's side (we just talked about this the other night), is that there are things that she wants to do that two people just can't do.

-B

OhioCouple · 05-29-2003, 11:37 AM

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Originally posted by BradAndJanet
..... I have not been with another woman yet and I don't know if any will find me desirable. I hope so!

"BRAD"!!! How can you say such a thing? You've already got half of the women on this board going ga ga over ya!

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The other motivation, more from J's side (we just talked about this the other night), is that there are things that she wants to do that two people just can't do.

That is truly what gave me the inspiration to give swinging a chance...... calculating mileage here..... DING, DING! What are ya'll doing this afternoon?

The flirting ' MS. O'

Roxysbayou · 05-29-2003, 12:42 PM

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Originally posted by BradAndJanet
Absolutely Jamie, that's one of my motivations. It's also the scary part, as I have not been with another woman yet and I don't know if any will find me desirable. I hope so!

Brad, you are a doll! Give me a break! And I thought women were bad. I am going to have to start flattering you guys more. All of the sudden everybody is down on themselves lately.

I know...you need to get lai... I am not going to say that! I'll just say cheer up! I saw your profile and you and J are both very attractive. I can't wait to see those racy ones we talked about.

ciscosv · 05-29-2003, 02:18 PM

Ashley summed it up for us. The wife loves to flirt and loves to flirted with at dance parties. I on the other hand love to meet other couples that are as open as I. Plus we are two very sexual people. Why must we keep it to ourselves?

Who says there is no life after marriage!

EXPLOSIVE O's BABY.....

OhioCouple · 05-29-2003, 03:08 PM

:::::THUD:::::: !!! That is the sound of me hitting the floor!

Ciscosv, our reigning king of one liners here on the board gave us a paragraph and used a 'kinky' word! "EXPLOSIVE"!

Have you changed your diet recently Ciscosv?

Ms. 'O' ~ (Who is just teasing you!

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05-28-2003, 06:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
Ciki123 Active Member Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 13 Location: San Antonio Status: Couple	Whats your motivation? I was reading about why you all swing, and it made me wonder, whats your motivation? Is it to find a couple to hang out with and play with, or just purely sexual, with no relationship outside of the bedroom? I wondered if there were any couples out there that exclusively play with one couple. Im nosy LOL Nosy Ciki
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05-28-2003, 09:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
danc694u Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 546 Location: Birmingham, AL Status: couple	I can only speak for myself. My motivation at first, was purely sexual. Now it leans toward finding a nice couple, and settling in for awhile. The bed hoping gets old really fast. It adds a lot to our relationship.....keeps it fresh, and sensual.
	__________________ Phonies and Fakes Need not apply. We're as real as it gets, and don't have time to be wasting on dumbasses.

05-28-2003, 11:37 PM	#7 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,136 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Of course Jamie's a kindred spirit, Ohio. He understands Ayla and Jondular and "sharing pleasures." We were both pretty sexually active before we met and both like having sex with an attractive person, not because we love them, just for fun. We learned this about each other on our second date and decided then that we'd probably always be together but some occasional "strange stuff" would be fun, especially if we could do it together. Although some of our rules have evolved over time, we've never looked back. Alura
	Last edited by Alura; 05-29-2003 at 12:22 AM.

05-28-2003, 11:40 PM	#8 (permalink)
Roxysbayou Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,376 Location: Louisiana Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:likethat	Our motivation was exploration, then we realized that it boosted our relationship as well. I think that so far it's been strictly sexual, but I think it would be nice to have some friendly pals. I get so tired of the endless search.
	__________________ I put the "grrrr" in swinger baby, yeah! --Austin Powers

05-28-2003, 10:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
Vjklander Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 834 Location: VA Status: Couple, Straight M, BiFem Swing Lifestyle Name:Vjklander	I think the thing that really appeals most to both of us is that its nice to know we are still desirable in a sexual sense. You kind of expect it from a spouse whether you still have it or not, but when another person finds you desirable, its a huge ego boost. J

05-28-2003, 11:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
ArcaneReference Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 157 Location: British Columbia Status: Couple	Honestly? My vanity. His appetite.

05-29-2003, 01:25 AM	#9 (permalink)
Ashley Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 207 Location: Arizona Status: Couple	I think Arcane Reference is my kindred spirit. L seems to go for the "volume" of the experience...lol. Seriously, he's just a very sensual, sexual, open person. I like the attention, I love the clubwear and the dancing and the feeling that I'm pretty well preserved for an old woman of 48. Together, we love to share our experiences and impressions and it makes our lovemaking oh so hot!

05-29-2003, 05:44 AM	#10 (permalink)
Brit_Pair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 3,635 Location: UK Status: Couple	We enjoy the variety it adds to our life, both sexually and socially, and the sharing of those experiences. We also enjoy the exploration, the (if you'll forgive the pun) probing of forbidden pastures and pleasures. The adrenal rush of this kind of play is hard to resist.

05-29-2003, 02:18 PM	#14 (permalink)
ciscosv Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 755 Location: Redford, Michigan Status: Married Couple	Ashley summed it up for us. The wife loves to flirt and loves to flirted with at dance parties. I on the other hand love to meet other couples that are as open as I. Plus we are two very sexual people. Why must we keep it to ourselves? Who says there is no life after marriage! EXPLOSIVE O's BABY.....
	__________________ M&M Melts in your mouth, not in your hand

05-29-2003, 03:08 PM	#15 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	:::::THUD:::::: !!! That is the sound of me hitting the floor! Ciscosv, our reigning king of one liners here on the board gave us a paragraph and used a 'kinky' word! "EXPLOSIVE"! Have you changed your diet recently Ciscosv? Ms. 'O' ~ (Who is just teasing you! )
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