Why would a man want to watch his wife with another man

My husband want to watch me have sex with another guy... I am just trying to get answers to why a man would want to watch his wife have sex with another man before I go any further with this.

Sasha

[coollatinos]

First of all, we have NEVER swung ,yet.But, to answer your question.I as a husband of 30 years,who sees his wife as a SEXY& BEAUTIFUL woman who knows a few things about FUCKING,have been encouraging and prodding (for the last 20 years) my wife to OK a MFM 3some,or full swap just so that I can watch her bring another man to a HOT,GRUNTING,HEART POUNDING ORGASM! At times I have fantasized that I was a 'stranger' getting his first fuck with her. I experienced a POWERFUL (and premature) orgasm that shook me!

[kevin&danielle]

Personally I love to watch my wife with other men. She is a very sensual woman in my eyes and I love the thought and site of other men enjoying her sexuality. Standing back and seeing her enjoy herself with another man is a huge turn on. I think I like the idea of sharing also. I Guess my parents always taught me to share and it stuck with me The biggest down fall has been that there seems to be very few single men in our area that are good lovers Lately she has been telling me that it isn't worth the effort. That I am the best that she ever has had and no one is even making it a race. Maybe I need to work on being a worse lover so she will get more excited at the prospect of being with other men Oh, I also love when she finds a man that she is interested in and gets this naughty look on her face when I ask her if she would like to take him home. Priceless.

Kevin

[Sweet_Candy]

I've seen that look on Candy! " The naughty look" facelick

[JDApopka]

Well, I(him) was my wifes first so she says and we married young and after a few years I felt she missed out on being with others even though she would not admit it. she would tell me that I was all she needed, but the way i looked at it was how would you know if I'm all you have ever had. Then after about 7-8 years of marrige( and a lot of talk/roll play during sex) I admitted to her that I really wanted her to have sexx with other men. if for no other reason to compare me or maybe tell me what i'm not doing right, it took a while for her to agree but she did. I must say the 1st time was not the best but it was enough for her to want more.
So now with that being said I really enjoy just watching her turn other men on and when they get to the prize they all say it was very good, I'm a lucky man,etc. so how much prouder can one be? speciay when the next morning she is in your arms.
oh yeah she said that was not not doing anything wrong

[Dolphins524]

I've never really thought about why. I guess the fact that when I'm w/ her, I can't watch like I could if I were away from the action. But the thought of watching her get naughty like a porn star just about makes me go thru the roof w/ excitement . Lucky for me, she feels the same way . Kind of hard to explain, other than the fact that seeing her in a different light other than the every day normal sexy woman, is just a huge turn on. When I imagine it, I see every detail, from the expressions on her face, her breathing, her body & how she moves, what a turn on facelick !All that on top of the fact that I just like seeing her happy & having fun. As someone else put it a while back, she's like my own personal porn star .

[WesternSwing]

Because it turns him on. Because he loves you and wants you to experience being the center of attention and ravished by him and and another guy. Because you are his favorite porn star. The short male version of it all.

Mr. WS

[tncinmd]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

Because it turns him on. Because he loves you and wants you to experience being the center of attention and ravished by him and and another guy. Because you are his favorite porn star. The short male version of it all.

Mr. WS

What he said. A big Dito

[seriously]

Kevin, I totally agree. Our first experience was a MFM 3some. I really enjoyed sharing her.

-seriously

[L&R]

{L here} I've been wondering about this myself, I've only been with R a short while and we haven't swung yet(I'm not ready to). The previous man in my life, hell, truthfully all would taken it out on me if I even looked interested in another man...I'm wondering if R will be able to handle it (watch me with another) after looking through his photo albums I would imagine so. But I don't know if I can do it.

[NakedInSeattle]

Too many threads on this site with this theme to try to mention. Do a search. You can ask Julie how if you don't know. Lots of guys (me included) have answered this same question.

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by kevin&danielle

The biggest down fall has been that there seems to be very few single men in our area that are good lovers Lately she has been telling me that it isn't worth the effort. That I am the best that she ever has had and no one is even making it a race.

What we've found is it isn't whether they are better or not, what makes it great is the whole scenario, everything going on around the screwing part of it. It's naughty, it's erotic, it's sexy. That is what makes the MFM so fun.

But you are right about it sometimes not being worth the effort, whatever the reason. Some just don't do it well (one guy just laid there expecting Mrs. WS to pleasure him and made no effort for her - no wonder he's single ) and others just don't seem to be able to handle the reality of the situation when it happens. We've found one guy that is golden, and for a while we're sticking with him.

Originally Posted by kevin&danielle

Oh, I also love when she finds a man that she is interested in and gets this naughty look on her face when I ask her if she would like to take him home. Priceless.

I have to agree. I love it when Mrs. WS gets that devilish look on her face. I chide her "you want him bad, don't you?" It's actually really cute, and a little naughty secret we share when in public. It's really fun.

Mr. WS

[CA91709]

The Mister half of Mr. & Mrs. CA posting...
We haven't swung yet. But is seems to us that there is a simple test one can do that may indicate how predisposed someone is to watching your partner having sex with another person. Mirrors. Set up some large mirrors so you can watch yourselves during sex. Do you find this `voyeurs view' exciting? Take it a step further. Put on a wig and look at the reflections of you and your husband. Is there any unusual arousal on the part of either of you? Does this arousal lead to the other partner becoming stirred up emotionally as well in a `feed back loop'? Experiment and have some fun.

[intuition897]

Unregistered, I hope you'll take some time to register (it's free!) so that you can come back and post again on this thread.

You sound just like me when we first started. I had NO idea why he would want to see me degraded like that! Didn't he value me? Didn't he respect me? I just couldn't understand the appeal of it. It turns out that he did indeed love, respect and value me; he just didn't associate sex with any of those things. And I think I had the impression that he was 'using' me somehow, like his own personal sex toy, to fulfill a selfish fantasy. It took me a long time and many long heart-to-heart discussions with him to discover that what he was actually doing was celebrating MY sexuality, not his. He just loves women and all that they are. And he loves me, and the fact that I am a woman. I learned how he appreciates the tremendous beauty and power of a woman who is at her fullest sexual self. And as was mentioned above, when you're involved in the act yourself, it's sometimes difficult to concentrate on fully appreciating your partner when you're distracted by your own body. By watching your partner with someone else - and this goes for both men and women - you get this kind of out of body experience, where you recognize the way your partner is touching his or her swing partner, and you remember exactly how it feels when he or she does it to you. It's sort of like watching yourself with him or her. Plus you get to see how strongly a new partner reacts to your partner, being with him/her for the first time. That discovery phase is really hot.

As long as you're not feeling afraid and insecure about your partner's intentions, and as long as you are confident in your relationship, you can actually feel a sort of kinship with your spouse's swing partner, and a feeling of pride in your spouse. Almost like saying, "See, I told ya he was good, didn't I?" [sly grin]. In this you and your partner are like extensions of one another. Your spouse's success in pleasing his/ her swing partner is, in a way, your success too. Yeah, that might be the best way I can think to describe it: you are extensions of one another, yet you still retain your individuality.

Hope I've helped shed a little light. There's still nothing anyone else can say that will take away your fears. You and your husband need to work that part out on your own.