Would You Still Swing without your current partner?

[Ashley]

Another thread made me think of this.
If something happened to your relationship with your partner(death, divorce, etc.) would you still swing? Why or why not? If yes, would you swing single or seek out a new like-minded partner?

[Roxysbayou]

If anything ever happened I would definitely still swing. At this point in my life I can't help but think that if forced into that kind of freedom again, I wouldn't give it up. I would be like Blanche from The Golden Girls. Single and having a blast. No steady boyfriends, no live-ins, no husbands. Maybe an occasional swing buddy to go to parties with but that is it.

[OhioCouple]

I definitely would. I really don't like the dating scene and the emotional baggage that you have to sort through to find 'the' right person. If I could have my sexual needs fulfilled with partners that I enjoy being around, then I doubt seriously at this stage in my life that I would seek a 24/7 relationship again.

And it sure beats playing the 'bar' game.

[Brit_Pair]

Good question.

I (Mr B) don't think I would as a single. If I entered into another serious relationship, and that partner was interested, then I'd consider making a re-entry to the lifestyle.

[CLITFRIEND]

It would still be very difficult if the male became single again. What will proably make the diffrence--is that the newly single male who had swung, will already have some established swinging companions. If they do not have anyone established--- then they will be reguarded as "just another single male"--Who would be rude, pushy, obnoxious, or cheating on his S/o. Of course---I did not swing in my marriage--so I never had any established friends.---Those guys who are single now---and they did swing during thier relationships--am I right about this????

[Ashley]

Roxy and Lori,
How would you get your emotional needs fulfilled? Don't you feel that you would want a loving partner in addition to your sex partners?

[teknurse]

I agree with Brit_Pair.

I need the emotional stability of a relationship. The sex is great but I can get that anywhere as a single female. I think marriage is wonderful and I like having someone in my bed everynight.

[OhioCouple]

I would most certainly still date, I just wouldn't be willing to spend the time searching for MR. Right again. When I met my husband ten years ago, I wasn't looking to get attached then either. My emotional needs were met through my family and friends. I have a pretty good circle of both very dear male and female friends. Other than needing sex, it wouldn't bother me one bit to sleep alone at night again.

[CLITFRIEND]

The thing of it is---single females----reguardless of whether or not they have already been in a swinging relationship---would have no problems in the swinging lifestyle. They are already born marketable. Single males--both newly single--and never in a committed relationship single---have great difficulties. I have talked to a few guys that have told me this was true! I have even talked with a guy who was single after his wife passed away--and as soon he became single---about 50% of his swinging "friends" dropped him like a bomb! And he was only 39 years old!
Here is the thing guys in couple relationship---I envy you---I am not jealous of you--I just have a little admiration for you because u have a woman who is willing and able to share everything. Make sure you are counting your blessings--and you let her know how much you appreciate her. Because if God forbids--you should become single again----swinging will not be an often thing done.

[Roxysbayou]

Originally posted by Ashley
Roxy and Lori,
How would you get your emotional needs fulfilled? Don't you feel that you would want a loving partner in addition to your sex partners?

I got a lot of love to go around....lol. I honestly can't answer that, as of right now I feel like freedom would be enough. But I am in a loving relationship, so if I find myself alone it's hard to say what I might feel.

[bbcpl4cpl]

I have always told my husband that he is the last man I will be in a serious relationship with. If he dies or we divorce, I think that I will more than likely be the elusive bi single female for awhile and if I do ever settle down again it will more than likely be with a female partner.

Tigress xx

[Misty&Todd]

Tigress, i second that .. i dont think i could be married againor in a "serious" relationship if anything ever happened to todd

[naughty A]

Because we've moved around a bit most of my friends now are those I've met through swingers groups... as we know from this board alone swingers are some of the friendliest, open and welcoming around.

so more than likely I would continue... even if it was just to see them socially.

I anticipate it would be much more difficult for my husband as a single male... but I anticipate couples of our acquaintance would still welcome him...

Naughty A.

[velbuzz]

This certainly is not a subject to dwell on. I love my partner too much and would miss her.

However, for the sake of discussion....
As a then single male, I would hope to continue to meet with our swinging contacts. And, would probably be looking for another mate at some point.

Regardless as to where I found a new partner, I would want to keep swinging. So looking on this site would be a probability. Too many friendly people to have to give up. After all I would have lost my best friend, I wouldn't want to lose other friends.

Bill

[alabamafuntonig]

you make a valid point swing single ah the thought of fredom again on the flip side the emotional bond that is created between the partners would that not be a soft spot....it may be to much for one to handle...just think how hard it is going to be with out your patner ...now imagine having sex with your playmates ther and your patner not....some one bring the klennex its going to be a long night