Do you wonder...Who is, who isn't a swinger

[twoferfun69]

Well, I haven't seen this one yet in it's own thread, so I'd thought I try to get it started, just didn't want to hijack someone elses thread.
The longer we are in this, the more we wonder who of all those we see, know, whatever, are in the lifestyle.
Even when we take the dog for a walk, some of the houses we pass, knowing the occupants are either no kid couples or even couples with kids, we wonder.
It's like "hmmm.... do ya think they do?"
Anyway, just wondering. Anyone else think like that, or am I just a bit more out there than normal?

[sepacouple]

Sorta like the idea that when some one looks at you (or both of you) would they envision that you are the type that enjoy being naked in front of other people and having sex in front of other people and get excited about sharing yourself or your spouse with someone else, or would they think that you are just another cute, happy, couple that is part of the community and attends thier kids PTA meetings, scout meetings, church, etc.

So if your actions or appearances aren't screaming that you enjoy a wild sex life as described above, then it kinda makes you wonder how kinky everyone else could be if you act/look just like them.

I think what I said makes sense, doesn't it?

[Fantasy_Partner]

No it doesn't seem way out there to us, we wonder about the same thing.

[driveajeepnaked]

Funny topic right now...

I'm an accountant, and often small business owners will use their business debit card for personal things as well as business.... Working on an audit right now (well, not RIGHT now ) where the guy's dating membership is on his business account...as well as a local "toy" store purchases...

Haven't seen an Swing Lifestyle or AFF membership yet, but I'm sure I will...

V

[sexyshelby]

This happens to me all the time... I see people and I just can't help but wonder. There are two married teachers from my high school and I just cant stop wondering if they were in the lifestyle. I think in this case, I don't actually want to know.

But I do think it's normal to wonder what others bo behind closed doors...

~SS

[Vespertine]

When we first ventured into the lifestyle, we thought everyone was a swinger.

[WesternSwing]

We wonder sometimes. You see and know people that definitely aren't, but then there are those that maybe, possibly, if the circumstances were just right...

Knowing though that less then one half of one percent of the population is swingers, you'd have to have a room full of about 600 just to possibly get two.

Mr. WS

[Mike and Jan]

I think there are lots more couples than we'd think who have considered swinging at one time or the other. Over the years we've had, maybe 20 close vanilla couples for friends from our different jobs. Only one of those couples turned out to actually be swingers before we met them but we did swing, in one way or the other, with four others. That's 20% and who knows if things had fell into place maybe even more would have.

[sepacouple]

When looking at other people/couples and wondering what kinky things they may have done and who they may have been naked with you have to remember, that even though they may have experimented with or had a few encounters that we may refer to as "swinging" they most likely would not call themselves swingers.

So, that in that "room of 600", although you may not find a new playmate that's willing at that moment, there's probably many that have had some wild sexual experiences in the past. They just aren't always comfortable admitting to themselves, or anyone else, that they actually did something that "wild and crazy" .

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by sepacouple

So, that in that "room of 600", although you may not find a new playmate that's willing at that moment, there's probably many that have had some wild sexual experiences in the past. They just aren't always comfortable admitting to themselves, or anyone else, that they actually did something that "wild and crazy" .

I agree. Some people's norm is other people's kink. LOL I've seen where just less then half of people fantasize about swinging. Very few actually do. But if the situation was right.

Mr. WS

[xxoticangel]

Not to start an argument but 1/2 of 1% seems very low to me. I thought I read somewhere that an estimated 10% of couples are into swinging of some sort or another.
But to answer your question, yes we have talked about it before and wondered about people we see at the mall or school functions etc. It makes for interesting conversation over coffee.

[S&E]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

When we first ventured into the lifestyle, we thought everyone was a swinger.

Which might have been wishful thinking facelick

I think a very preceptive observation of the lifestyle made by, Western Swing, who said "We wonder sometimes. You see and know people that definitely aren't, but then there are those that maybe, possibly, if the circumstances were just right..." and might I add to that, when alcoholic beverages are introduced into the circumstances, their thoughts and fantasies are sometimes brought to the forefront and lived out. If the next day they have regrets , they blame it on the drinking vow to limit there alcoholic intake nextime and life goes on If they had a good/great time then they are hooked Thinking what the writers in these threads are discussing.

S & E

[cutetulsacpl]

I work in the all woman (or mostly woman) profession of nursing and I would swear by some of our conversations that the majority of my coworkers are swingers. Of course I have never 'outed' myself and would never ask any of them outright. I am just surprised that every time I go to a party I don't see someone from work there! Although, I do work at a 'catholic' hospital in the middle of the bible belt so no one there would dare admit to anything!

[purrbutrfly]

Maybe we should start up our own "badge/symbol/bumperstickers", like the pink triangle club or the rainbow club Maybe a purple cicle sticker? That way any seeing your sticker, purple bracelet would know...ahhh a swinger...

[twoferfun69]

Originally Posted by purrbutrfly

Maybe we should start up our own "badge/symbol/bumperstickers", like the pink triangle club or the rainbow club Maybe a purple cicle sticker? That way any seeing your sticker, purple bracelet would know...ahhh a swinger...

Actually, I remember reading in an old edition of Playboy (the articles, honey, I get it for the articles ) in the "advisor"....... something about swingers wearing a gold apple pin. Apparently it was similar to the "Mac" apple, bite missing, etc. but gold instead of rainbow. Anyone else hear of this?