Swingers Rings? - Way to identify other swingers?

is the something like a pin out there that swingers could where to show other swingers that they where in the lifestyle.

my wife and i where talking about it and just decided to ask the question in a place where the people are nice and know what they are talking about.....

thxxx in advance

[Stratecpl]

sexusdgystyle,

Most people really don't want the general public to know that they are involved in the lifestyle. It's kind of a "hush-hush" thing. I like to liken it to the old "speak-easy's" of the roaring 20's or 30's... LOL

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with it in MY book, and I'm always excited to meet and talk with others who are also lifestylers. Most of us have jobs that would be in jeopardy if others knew of our hobbies or recreations.

Still, I think it would be very nice to have a nice gold pin to wear, say, on your cap, collar, or tie. A distinctive touch, for sure...

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

Why is it that people feel their jobs, friends ect. would be in jeopardy? Can't people do what they want on their own free time? Pending of course, its not illegial!!

we also don't want everybody to know we are swingers {family, friends,} would not like the idea of it. but it would make meeting people out in the real world alot easier and not be wondering about this person or that person. wondering if they are having the same thoughts going though their minds that we are.

but thxxx for the response

it was just a thought

[Stratecpl]

Why,

Of course they can do anything they desire as long as it's legal! LOL It's just that most of the ones who swing would rather keep it secret from their place of employment, especially from family... Many of them have jobs that put them in contact with the general public, and an employer would frown on getting negative feedback from some customer who was "offended" because this person was a swinger!!

It's sad, but many people associate swinging with immorality, sin, and (in general) filthy living. I've heard this before....

Of course, it's not true at all. Most swingers have much higher moral fibers than those who accuse them. I can't speak for everyone out there, you know, but for those who I personally know of.

Maybe that's why so many who put up ads will never put pictures up showing their faces!!

In my own opinion, if someone saw me on an ad and recognized me, then I should ask him or her WHY they were there, looking, in the FIRST place.... this makes them just as guilty as I'd be! LOL

Just my opinion here....

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

Yeah Ron, "distinctive touch, for sure..." *lol*

And why, adding to what Ron mentioned about "offending" the public, etc...Can you imagine how a parent would feel if they heard that their child's teacher was into swinging?! Or the principal of a school?! OMG! The scary thoughts that run thru an educator's mind, more the reason to push discretness!

And to the original poster, sexusdgystyle....I guess that's where clubs cum into play. A place where everyone gathers for mutual enjoyment, not having to worry about who "is" and who's "not" into the lifestyle, etc.

Besides, I don't mind the "seeking" part of the unknown of the lifestyle with the general public and having fun with it too! Like this one evening, we were just about to have dinner when this young college female came soliciting at our door. Hubby told her in a nice way, that we weren't interested in whatever she was trying to "sell" us, and she just kept yaking on and on, in other words "flirting" with him, trying to "persuade" him to say "yes". WELL, I said BOLDLY to her, "NO THANK YOU, WE SAID! What part did you NOT understand?!" She then said to me in this so called innocent soft-sweet girly voice, "What's the matter? Don't you love me?!" I then took the "opportunity" to answer her and said, "EXcuse me?! We didn't even SLEEP with you YET, and you're asking if we LOVE you?! *LMBO*

She was pretty cute too...Oh well. *Shrugs shoulders LOL* Gotta have FUN with it!

And btw....For those of you who are wondering what she had to say about what "I" said to her? She asked, "What time did you wanna take a nap?" *LMBO*

OH GGEEeeezzzz.....*RLMBO*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[LIZA]

Personally, If my sons teacher was into swinging it would not matter in the least as long as she is a competent and kind teacher, and discusses nothing inappropraite in class!
Same as a gay or lesbian teacher...........An adults sex life and sexual preference has NOTHING to do with their ability to teach children. Give me a break, aren't we supposed to be OPEN MINDED here?? A 45 year old virgin who was wound so tight she was about to explode would probably make for a much WORSE teacher~
Gay people put rainbow stickers on their cars, or pink triangles, etc. The only reason I would NOT want a pin or bumber sticker or whatever is because you would probably get too many people trying to start a conversation, at the store or gas station, and it would get a little overwhelming.
Besides, I seriously doubt that a teacher would wear her/his "swingers pin" to class!...and we have met more than one swinging couple where one was an elementary school teacher

[Stratecpl]

Liza,

We (as intelligent adults) all understand and realize this.... it's all those others out there who have absolutely no clue what it's all about who we are trying not to aggravate. We personally KNOW some teachers who are active, avid swingwers. Very nice folks, highly educated, and would NEVER try in any manner to influence their students. I also agree with you, a sexually-suppressed person is a LOT more dangerous to our children.

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

Originally posted by Stratecpl:
Liza,

We (as intelligent adults) all understand and realize this.... it's all those others out there who have absolutely no clue what it's all about who we are trying not to aggravate. We personally KNOW some teachers who are active, avid swingwers. Very nice folks, highly educated, and would NEVER try in any manner to influence their students. I also agree with you, a sexually-suppressed person is a LOT more dangerous to our children.

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

EXACTLY! And thank you, Ron for re-directing Liza's thoughts here. Merely a misunderstanding of the discussion of "educators".


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[JustAskJulie]

Actually there is a symbol.. there used to be a site that sold pins, necklaces, etc that had a symbol on them that allowed you to be reconized as a swinger to others who were also swingers and knew what that symbol was.

That would be key.. it would have to be something that not everyone is aware of. I don't think the site exists anymore. Someone else had asked this question a while back and I had tried to look it up and couldn't find it.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[JustAskJulie]

And a simple search on Yahoo found that website I mentioned and it is still up (whether or not it's running may be another story).

The URL is http://www.swingring.com
of course keep in mind that a swinger symbol only works if other swingers know about it...lol.. which it's obvious from the posts below that not too many people do (maybe the people who created this site, just created the jewelry as a marketing ploy and haven't done the greatest job of marketing it..) personally I think it's a great idea

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

thxxx Julie
you have been a great help
we will go check out that site now
maybe it's what we are looking for

[JustAskJulie]

This is from an email that I recieved in response to this topic.

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years ago when swinging "first" began to become "public" and publications such as Select, and Latent Imagine printed swing contact ads: the fuzzy creature
with hairy legs fastened to a mans body (pied piper)became the official symbol of being a swinger: one would often seen this little critter as a bumper sticker, or a pendant between low cleavage in night clubs and bars: women who dressed like a swinger THEN
were dubbed as sluts..a term that now seems to turn husbands on rather than make the fighting mad even tho then it was true.


Also: at a table in nightclubs etc., if a blue candle was sitting on the table, this also signified that the couple/single sitting there was looking to get laid: if the candle was lit they were actively "seeking": they'd often blow out the candle when someone was
sitting at their table, or "she" was on the dancefloor being fondled etc.
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Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

Wow! That's interesting Julie. But all those "secret messages" of the candles being lit, not lit, blue candle holders, etc....That would confuse me! *lol*

I prefer the direct approach... I guess we have it made now, huh. With swing clubs and all...


CyberWife

[Close Encounters]

The NASCA (North American Swing Club Association) lapel pin and charm have been around since 1968. There are many companies who produce on design or another, trouble is only someone who has seen that particular design will recognize it. We've met couples at nudist resorts, casinos and regular night clubs thanks to their recognizing the NASCA Apple.