Rules of Swinging

[frenzb4sex]

I realize that there's never any real "rules" to the lifestyle, but I picked this up on another forum, and wanted to see what everyone thought of these "guidelines" so to speak. Do you agree with them? Have anymore you would add? Take off? Are there any that you and/or your spouse/SO go by as a creed that maybe others do not that isn't on this list?

13 Rules For Swingers

1. Always show respect for the personal attitudes, feelings, & hang-ups of others & maintain a continuing desire to better understand them.

2. Exude human emotion & warmth, but understand the type of emotional involvement which is properly reserved for a spouse.

3. Never attempt to divide a home.

4. Help newcomers locate themselves within a relaxed social environment wherein a satisfying personal life may be achieved.

5. Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances.

6. Always keep the first meeting on a no strings attached basis, but be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreeable or to give an honest answer to your intended partner if something doesnt click.

7. If married, continue at every juncture to discuss openly your problems & views with your spouse.

8. Never, under any circumstances, exert pressure on a partner to swing.

9. Never disparage anothers religious convictions.

10. Restrict discussions of swinging in public places to known swingers & interested persons seeking information.

11. Protect the anonymity of others by refraining from unauthorized name dropping.

12. Always maintain the highest of standards in personal cleanliness and appearance.

13. Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would bring discredit upon swingers as a group.

-- From A Swinger Creed
The Book of Sex Lists

[Elusive BiFem]

If everyone lived by these rules, we wouldn't need a Swingers Board, would we?

- EBF

[yawanna]

Dito There are no swinger rules except between consenting partners be they couples or singles. some say cheating is not swinging, others say 'not my business if they are cheating'... for one example.

We have seen the worst perpetrators of rules or guideline violations espousing JUSt those rules as gospel. You can only set your own guidelines and rules that will preserve your relationship, and if you are so inclined, to use in respecting others and their relationships, and to fall back on and act upon in times, and there will be times, that you must vacate the premises and activity.

The existence of accepted Swinger Rules is a nice fairy tale to be honest. You can only take care for yourselves and if you are good people, as many swingers are, you will learn and respect the rules of those you play with.

[BiloxiCouple]

Then with the rules will come the licensing for swingers and the penalties for breaking the rules lalalalalalalala

And taxation, again.

[RW1F]

Wow, that's a lot of rules! I thought this stuff was s'posed to be for fun? Guess I'll have to start carrying a rule book and a score card with me.

[frenzb4sex]

Geez, all I was trying to do was start some conversation on something I saw on another board. If you look all you will see is that these were guidelines, I already tried to say that there are no rules in swinging.

It wasn't an ultimatum statement or even my own opinion, lighten up people.

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally Posted by frenzb4sex

Geez, all I was trying to do was start some conversation on something I saw on another board. If you look all you will see is that these were guidelines, I already tried to say that there are no rules in swinging.

It wasn't an ultimatum statement or even my own opinion, lighten up people.

Hey!! I'm light!! (well, OK - I'd like to be a few pounds lighter, but...moving on...)

Like I said, if everyone followed these rules, we wouldn't need the Swingers Board. And I wouldn't get to know you? Would I?

I did like Biloxi's comment....sure 'nuff, they would make us get annual inspection stickers or something...and tax it. I can just see it now in the newspapers...Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So had sex 5 times between 03/11/04 and 05/17/04 and have not paid their quarterly taxes for such activities.

LIfe is such...-EBF

[tazzie_n_truck]

That's not a bad list of "rules". We consider alot of those when we are looking to swing and meeting with other couples. Alot of the rules on that list we consider very important.

Hey frenzb4sex, don't worry about it. People love to joke around. We figure that sex should be fun, and people should laugh. We feel that when it don't feel fun for us anymore, it's time to not swing anymore.

We like the list of rules you posted, and we do agree with them.

We wrap all our rules into one rule.

The Golden Rule


We treat others exactly the way we want to be treated. If they cant do the same in return we move on.

[frenzb4sex]

Originally Posted by tazzie_n_truck

That's not a bad list of "rules". We consider alot of those when we are looking to swing and meeting with other couples. Alot of the rules on that list we consider very important.

Hey frenzb4sex, don't worry about it. People love to joke around. We figure that sex should be fun, and people should laugh. We feel that when it don't feel fun for us anymore, it's time to not swing anymore.

We like the list of rules you posted, and we do agree with them.

Thanks, guys. I am not worried about it, I think most people on here know that I am the last person to take many things seriously but do tend to speak my mind (as WR once said, "Tim's like me, he only opens his mouth to insert the other foot.") It's just that when some people say things that can be taken in a way that makes ya feel stupid for even posting it is when I take issue. And that's probably just my observation and it wasn't intended at all....I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning, and boy my wife sure didn't like it when I rolled over the top of her....STEAMROLLER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Anyways, I digress......back to my humble place in the world and my silly little "rules".....LMAO....


Tim

P.S. EBF-I seriously doubt that you need to lighten up in ANY way or form...!!! And even if these rules or guidelines existed, we would always need a swingers board...We have real laws, but those get broken every second, so the reality is that even if there were swinger commandments, our nature would be to break them anyway, because we're ALL already deviants...LOL

[RW1F]

Guess I shoulda put a bunch of smilies on my post..... Just funnin around

[yawanna]

It's just that when some people say things that can be taken in a way that makes ya feel stupid for even posting it is when I take issue.

oops! my bad? Probably and I'm sorry as my 'there are no rules' post wasn't intended as a slight against you at all. I must admit tho, discussion of roles always sets me off a little bit. Just my personal 'nails on a chalkboard sound.

I got burnt once, bad, and it was one of the bigger shocks of my life, and it was about swinging. I am ever hopeful that one day, the rules and guidelines about these activities will truly become more universal and adhered to, but I don't see it happening on any large scale. This is more like picking berries....you have to hunker down, get in the bushes and leaves to find those berries (good people).

Luckily, this site is a flourishing strawberry patch!

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by yawanna

This is more like picking berries....you have to hunker down, get in the bushes and leaves to find those berries (good people).

Luckily, this site is a flourishing strawberry patch!

Hmmm. Never saw searching for swinging playmates compared to berry picking before. I like to compare the eternal search for compatible swinging playmates to panning for gold. You have to sort through a lot of mud & slime to find the occasional nugget!

[wrnakedru]

Tim-
As one who [through personal repeated experience] has come to recognize foot in mouth disease, let me assure you none such exists here.
You begin your listing by saying you realized that no rules exist. And you end by giving credit to the source of the list you offered.
Further, let me say that I thought it was a damned FINE list. Along the lines of what we here on the board often suggest, especially to those very new and just finding their way.
No harm, no foul. No "pinkie breath" here!
WR