What is off limits to you?

What kinds of things are off limits to you? We do not do Anal, Bathroom play, Humiliation, BDSM, or pain. These things just do not fit into what we choose to do with other couples.

Husband of CyberMWCouple

[watcherone]

I'll go with the same things you list plus maybe a couple more. I dont do bi-male in any form. Actually I only really get off on straight sex. As long as my wife gets off on it, the other man can play it anyway as long as it is straight sex, no crazy or weird stuff.

[LIZA]

No anal, no intercourse.......basically no penetration below the waist!

WISH my husband would try bi, has not happened yet.

A little B&d is ok......no pain.

And please, NO PUSHY GUYS!!

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by LIZA:
No anal, no intercourse.......basically no penetration below the waist!

So basically you are just soft-swingers..

Our limits are pretty much no anal, pain, bd/sm, bathroom play. When it comes to others (outside ourselves) we stick to regular intercourse and oral sex. Hubby has no desire to try bi.

Julie

[LIZA]

Well to me a soft swinger is couple who has sex in the same room but doesn't have sex WITH another couple. I don't think of us as "just" soft swingers.......or "just" anything for that matter!

I just prefer that my husband and I have something that is kept within our marriage and not shared with others!

But we certainly have a lot of good kinky fun......for being JUST softswingers!

I don't wish for hubby to have ANY bi desires! Personally, that just turns me off. Again, to each's own, and we respect other's fantasies & desires as well, just not my "cup of tea". *VBS*

As for "soft swinging"...There's no full swapping outside of your own sexual partners. Same room sex/NO full swap, is considered "soft swinging". If we wanna get technical, there's a dictionary/definition link to this site as well. ;-)

Now "kinky"...That's a whole nother matter. Sharing details would be just as kinky too! *LOL*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[LIZA]

Well I dont want to have intercourse with other men.........it's too risky.......Condoms give me a bad rash.......and I don't care for being that intimate with another man, i.e. letting him inside. But I don't think we are missing out on anything.....both my husband and I enjoy other sexual activity's a great deal more than intercourse, so it's no big deal.

As for male bi, I find it completely hot. 2 WOMEN together has been such a fantasy for men for so long, and it is accepted at clubs. I think it's a terrible double standard that 2 men together is not accepted as well

But I don't think we are missing out on anything.....both my husband and I enjoy other sexual activity's a great deal more than intercourse, so it's no big deal.

Really now. Until you have been there, you have no possible way to understand what you really are missing. Have you ever been to the bottom of the ocean, deep under the world, scuba diving? How about into the sheer blackness of space? The swinging world is just like anything else. It's how deep into it you want to get. And that's a good thing. The world would be pretty boring if we were all the same! *LOL*

[LIZA]

Well I would say I have had sexual intercourse with about 15 men in my 32 years and never found it an earth shaking experience. So I think 15 is plenty to judge from and decide I will just stay with my husband in the intercourse department. I don't think I need 15 more partners, or a gangbang, to decide........do you?

LIZA, these 15 men you've mentioned here, were you with them while you & hubby were in the lifestyle, in swinging activities, or when you were still single and dating?

To me, that makes a difference. I can't compare the males I've been with BEFORE hubby, they just DON'T compare! But, if it were while in the lifestyle, WITH your hubby, then that's a different story, and yes, comparison is understandable here...

Outta my 39 years of "experiences", including since we've been in the lifestyle, I have never had more than 10 men sexually...Does this make me less experienced than you? I think not. It depends on what we've experienced with others. They weren't earth shaking for me either! *lol* Until hubby came along...*VBS*

What does your hubby think about your desires for him to have/try a bi-experience with another male? Again, we've never tried it, and don't have ANY desires for my hubby to have this kind of experience with another male, but I won't "judge" you or others, because I'm not you...Again, to each's own, different strokes for different folks! *VBS*

And who said, "that 2 men together is not accepted as well"? As far as I know, from my experiences and observations, whatever is exceptable to all who are involved, is accepted. Or has this changed? *Worried look...*

We've chatted with other couples, who both are bi, and we let them know that hubby is not bi. We all respect each other's limits & desires, and that's SO cool! Friendships withOUT limitations and expectations of others, makes it much more comfortable & pleasing for everyone. *VBS*

As long as we're all mature enough to understand and respect others, no matter what it is, then we'll be better off, and have more time to enjoy ourselves in meeting and making new friends! ;-)


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[LIZA]

No I have not had intercourse with another man since my husband and I started dating 5 years ago, But before that it was my 1st husband, boyfriends and a few one-nighters.
Personally I find intercourse 1. too intimate to engage in with casual aquaintances 2. Dangerous (condoms are not foolproof.....I have twice had one either break or come off) 3. Not all that pleasurable with other men (I am deathly allergic to latex, plus it is not any spectacular sensation physically for me (yes I have been with Large, average and small men) So I say why bother? Even in our marriage we rarely have intercourse, it takes my husband WAY too long to orgasm thru intercourse and I end up raw and sore....To me, a gangbang sounds like absolute torture!

As for my interest in male Bi, yes, I bring it up to my husband often. Sometimes in a teasing way or just to open up the topic. My best friend in the world is a Bi (90pct gay) man and I am trying to arrange a night out for the three of us .......also, my husband has a good friend who is actively bi. He usually laughs about it.......I have even rented Gay porno's. He says I will have to get him drunk, which is a joke because he is a non-drinker. But no, I do not think he is interested. But I don't think I am doing anything different than a man would do with his wife....i.e. rent porno's with bi scenes, etc.

As for male bi not being accepted, I have NEVER seen it take place at a swing club. I have seen some swing clubs where the website SAYS no Male bi activity allowed! But in the clubs we have gone to, it is not a stated rule but believe me, it would be very unacceptable. Im sure there are some couples outh there with a Bi male but they probably would just tell you about it on a one to one basis.

To me, that would be the ultimate threesome, I have fantasized about it since I was a kid. But a MFM threesome where I am getting all the attention and the guys avoid each other........leaves me ice cold

We've seen a few ads, where couples advertised about the male being bi, and/or looking for 1st bi-male experiences, etc...

The one couple that we've chatted with, we found this out by getting to know them better, as friends first, then whatever happens, happens. We did explain to them, that hubby wasn't bi and that we don't have this desire either, and that we respect their preferences, but don't expect us to change in this manner, and won't expect the same of them either. We were all cool about this, if anything, we've gained friends from this relationship, which is SO cool too! *VBS*

Sorry to hear this...As for you "ending up raw and sore" through intercourse with your hubby, due to his prolonging in an orgasm...Do you not get as wet? Do you use any lubricants?

From personal experiences with my 1st husband...I was the same way, lack of natural lubricant, he had to spend more time orally on me, before we could engage in intercourse. Comparing with hubby now...I just THINK of him, and gets me all wet! *VBG* His touch, his smell, his face, his body...He makes me twitch ALL over, and gets me soaking wet! MMMmmmm...It's starting again! *lol*

Sorry, back to you LIZA! *VBG* Hope we can be of help. *VBS*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[LIZA]

Well honestly I can easily have up to 5 or 6 orgasms orally or manually.......One night I had 13. And I am wet....But I get a painful feeling deep inside, like I feel a THUD and then every thrust hurts deep inside. Like maybe I have an unusually short vagina?

I hate Lube, ALWAYS give me yeast infection. But during intercourse it can take him an hour or more to orgasm....changing positions every 10 minutes... and that is just too much...if I had to try and satisfy 2 or 3 or 4 guys......God, sounds like a nightmare!!

I think because my husband was circumcised as a teenage he has this slow-orgasm thing, one other boyfriend I had was also circumcized late in life and he had the same thing.

So hubby's cock is long? Does this only happen with cocks longer than what, 7-8 inches or more? This happens to me sometimes, the "THUD" feeling you mentioned, but for the most part, with hubby I have no problem. Personally, I can have more than 5 orgasms in a minute, let alone MANY orgasms in one night! *VBG*

As for satisfying more than 1 male at a time, that's too bad that it's a "nightmare" for you. What you call a "nightmare", some of us can only wish for the same for us, lasting almost all night in intercourse! I find it EROTIC! Of course, hubby calls me a Nympho...*lol*

Does your hubby orgasm faster orally/manually? Do you have orgasms faster by intercourse or orally/manually? HHhhmmm...*Wondering look...*


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[LIZA]

Well for me manually or orally I can reach orgasm in about 2 minutes. My husband roughly 30 minutes manually or orally........which is a lot of work. I don't mean 30 minutes total including, I mean 30 minutes of intense stimulation, with orgasm as the goal. I do think it has to do with being circumsised to late in life, it's maybe a problem of losing sensitivity. He has no problem with an erection but just takes a lot of work!

I have been with women who took a long time to reach orgasm, or couldn't at all, and that I found frustrating.

I guess a man who reached orgasm in 2 minutes and then rolled over and went to sleep would be much worse, huh?