Is "no oral sex" a deal breaker? - Page 2

Snake 'n Bunny · 07-01-2006, 09:35 AM

Excellent! Well thought reply. Thanks. Yes we are looking around and starting to realize that there are MANY ways to "swing" and, since WE are in the drivers seat so to speak, we can choose what and when we wish to do it!!
I dont fully agree with you on the STD subject but we all realize there is a risk involved in what we are doing. OK! I am impressed that we all at least REALIZE this. I should say that I am an Ex-Sailor an have seen or done MOST of what we all imagine and , yes, I have been educated the HARD way on STD's. What's that got to do with it, yo usay!?? Gald yo uasked!! I don't like 'em. And I love Bunny so much that I won't inflict it on her in the name of love!

LOL!

Inanna · 07-01-2006, 11:52 AM

Well, here's my 2 cents. The no oral rule would not be a deal breaker for me - and I don't get that at home!

If I felt attracted to the person and comfortable, then I would let it play out. Could be intercourse, could be oral, whatever. Really great sex can be had without having oral sex. I wouldn't want anyone to do things they were not ok doing - that would kill the enjoyment of the moment. facelick

RDfnd · 07-01-2006, 02:29 PM

Watching, being watched, touching, caressing, massage, oral, intercourse, activities only limited by the imagination. Having all partners totally comfortable with the interaction should certainly be the rule. Anything less would distract from the experience. I agree with you Inanna.

mickey&minnie · 07-03-2006, 12:48 PM

Ditto to all above. Its about you two as a couple. What you 2 feel comfortable with. There are lots of swingers out there and I am sure that you will find the ones that will play by your rules. We are newbies also, no experience and have set our rules for when the time comes. When we first started talking about the lifestyle, one of our rules was no kissing. Well after much research on this site and lots of talking to each other we have decided that it would be hard to have sex with someone and not kiss them. I have read that couples start with some rules and the drop a lot of them when they are more comfortable. So stay with whatever you are comfortable with only edit them when you are ready. And no it wouldn't be a deal breaker for us.
Minnie
(this is post #20, am I still a lurker?)

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07-01-2006, 09:35 AM	#16 (permalink)
Snake 'n Bunny Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21 Location: Boston Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:SnakenBunny	Re: Another newbie question Excellent! Well thought reply. Thanks. Yes we are looking around and starting to realize that there are MANY ways to "swing" and, since WE are in the drivers seat so to speak, we can choose what and when we wish to do it!! I dont fully agree with you on the STD subject but we all realize there is a risk involved in what we are doing. OK! I am impressed that we all at least REALIZE this. I should say that I am an Ex-Sailor an have seen or done MOST of what we all imagine and , yes, I have been educated the HARD way on STD's. What's that got to do with it, yo usay!?? Gald yo uasked!! I don't like 'em. And I love Bunny so much that I won't inflict it on her in the name of love! LOL!

07-01-2006, 11:52 AM	#17 (permalink)
Inanna Registered Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 6 Location: Arkansas	Re: Another newbie question Well, here's my 2 cents. The no oral rule would not be a deal breaker for me - and I don't get that at home! If I felt attracted to the person and comfortable, then I would let it play out. Could be intercourse, could be oral, whatever. Really great sex can be had without having oral sex. I wouldn't want anyone to do things they were not ok doing - that would kill the enjoyment of the moment. facelick

07-01-2006, 02:29 PM	#18 (permalink)
RDfnd Come on down! Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 139 Location: Dominican Jungle Status: vine swingers Swing Lifestyle Name:RDfnd	Re: Another newbie question Watching, being watched, touching, caressing, massage, oral, intercourse, activities only limited by the imagination. Having all partners totally comfortable with the interaction should certainly be the rule. Anything less would distract from the experience. I agree with you Inanna.
	__________________ "No clothes, no problem" Last edited by RDfnd; 07-01-2006 at 02:30 PM. Reason: spelling

07-03-2006, 12:48 PM	#19 (permalink)
mickey&minnie Here to Stay Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 42 Location: Florida Status: married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mickey&minnie	Re: Another newbie question Ditto to all above. Its about you two as a couple. What you 2 feel comfortable with. There are lots of swingers out there and I am sure that you will find the ones that will play by your rules. We are newbies also, no experience and have set our rules for when the time comes. When we first started talking about the lifestyle, one of our rules was no kissing. Well after much research on this site and lots of talking to each other we have decided that it would be hard to have sex with someone and not kiss them. I have read that couples start with some rules and the drop a lot of them when they are more comfortable. So stay with whatever you are comfortable with only edit them when you are ready. And no it wouldn't be a deal breaker for us. Minnie (this is post #20, am I still a lurker?)

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