Creating an intimate atmosphere that doesn't threaten relationships

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

The best thing is if you decide to stay in the lifestyle as a single female you will be the golden egg. Wives can trust you and knowing you from all your posts you would be a nice addition to a couples play (I mean that in the nicest and most respectful way).

I think this says a lot about the original question...

Treat someone the way that you would want to be treated... Unless, of course, you have a serious verbal humiliation fetish... If you can look at the couple and imagine what your boundaries would be as part of that couple, you'll go a long way.

We meet a lot of single males who will say at some point in the conversation, "I couldn't do this if I was married." Nothing wrong with them feeling that way - in fact I am impressed that they recognize that in themselves - but if they know what would make them insercure about swinging as a couple, they should easily be able to know what they should not do/say/ask/try as a single male being invited into a couple's sex lives.

Spoomonkey

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

We meet a lot of single males who will say at some point in the conversation, "I couldn't do this if I was married." Nothing wrong with them feeling that way - in fact I am impressed that they recognize that in themselves - but if they know what would make them insercure about swinging as a couple, they should easily be able to know what they should not do/say/ask/try as a single male being invited into a couple's sex lives.

Excelent point.

[just1gurl]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Unless, of course, you have a serious verbal humiliation fetish... Spoomonkey

just to lawyers, ack! I MEAN LIARS!!!!

[BodyScape02]

Originally Posted by Mrs Spoomonkey

The best thing is if you decide to stay in the lifestyle as a single female you will be the golden egg. Wives can trust you and knowing you from all your posts you would be a nice addition to a couples play (I mean that in the nicest and most respectful way).

As far as finding a well hung male playmate... After saying that here I wouldn't be surprised to find you pm box full

Mrs Spoomonkey

Thanks Mrs Spoo... I appreciate your comments. Yes I guess I would be the golden unicorn or egg... cool...I have a higher value than a true "single"..lol

I think I might... as I really don't want to get back into a realationship and ...well... I have a really high libido.

The problem is in my area, so far...my Darter is the only man who I really felt the heat for.

And that begs the question... should you swing with your recent ex? I somehow think it would end up ruining a good freindship... but damn it is hard ( pun intended) not to think about carressing his body and making whoopie all night long.

It is not going to be an easy transition for me in that area... I have lost my favorite food... so to speak...I can see it on the shelf... but I am forbidden from eating it.

That begs the question ( and perhaps I should start a new thread) Should you ever continue to "play" with an ex? Under any circumstance ?

the ever questioning

~Cat