What rules have you had or heard of?

[SoulmatesNky]

I was reading the "Rules went out the Window" on here earlier and had a curiousity. We had rules in the beginning and still have a few self imposed rules still.

What are your rules... or what is the oddest rules you have had or heard of?

Some obvious
1.) Keep anal intercourse between us (I am the only one to ever with my wife, and want to keep it that way) (IT'S MINE I TELL YOU, MINE!!!!)
2.) Protected sex only (now this is a case by case... however we keep to it mostly)
3.) No cuddling (we had this one... just didn't seem natural)
4.) No hand holding (ditto)
5.) No kissing (YUCK!!!! to this rule) (never had it -- Don't know how I would get erect without kissing... and I would feel like I am 'using' the lady without it -- which really is a feeling I would want to avoid)

ODDEST: Man can have as much intercourse as he wants... no orgasm!!!

[spankem69]

We haven't had any experience yet, but we have talked rules for when we do numerous times. All the ones you mentioned were talked about. The safe sex / condoms always rule is the only one I will not budge on. At least not until we've been at it long enough to get REAL good & comfortable w/ a couple. But one you don't have that, in our case, I'd insist on is no playing w/ coworkers or x's. Just seems way to risky to me . Other than that, when it finally does happen, it's all good brotha!

[FLnewlyweds]

The only rules that we decided on was the use of protection and that this is something we always do together....
BTW, I agree with you about the kissing.

[meandher2go]

at first for me she had a rule of NO penetration of any girl besides HER. now that is out the window...

I never had any rules for HER. just that she HAD to have fun!

[bear_and_babe]

I have a rule for myself. We do all of our swing activities at a club, and for the most part we tend to go to separate rooms. My rule for myself is that I will not play with a guy if his wife does not like me. Sounds funny I know, but I have a situation where the guy really wants to play with me, I want to play with him, but his wife can not stand me. They play separate also, but I know if I played with him, she would make his life a living hell. I don't know what I have done to her that she dislikes me, but there it is.

So, is that a strange rule?

[Dynamar]

Originally Posted by bear_and_babe

So, is that a strange rule?

Absolutely not, IMO, especially if y'all are frequenting the same club. No sense in adding to the drama. You've correctly surmised she'd be bringing it and no doubt she'd bring it to the club.

[wiscpl]

The only rules we have are:
a) same room only - tried the swinging seperately for a while and it just wasn't as much fun for us.
b) no one takes "one for the team" - were doing this for fun and excitement, it's not a sport for us.
c) no anal. - gotta save something for ourselves.

Other than that the most important rule us to just have fun!

[KenRachel]

Well our basic rules are fairly simple at this point:

- I can play with any female that Ken hasn't put on the "no" list.
- He can play with any man that I haven't put on the "no" list.
- Either of us can play with people not of the "no" list, from that waist up.
- Play below the waist requires approval.
- All intercourse uses condoms.


Rachel

[dave1234]

Sounds like most are on the same page ours are:

0. This is for sex not love
1. Condoms for intercourse
2. Anal is for us only (both a personal and safety issue)
3. No orgies
4. Leave immediately if either one of us calls a "red flag"
5. Talk about how we felt about each encounter
6. Keep a sense of humor about the lifestyle
7. No friends, acquaintances, or ex's (tends to violate rule 0)

[VegasLee]

We do our best to keep life simple. We have one rule.

When the playing is over we ALWAYS leave together.

I don't own Laura, I don't make rules for her. Laura does not own me, She does not make rules for me.

[dave1234]

Forgot the primary rule:

We always do it together!

[wiscpl]

Dito Since our experience swinging seperately we've found we enjoy swinging together more pleasureable.

[KenRachel]

VegasLee

I agree with you comment about each not owning the other. But I don't think that precludes one person putting forth rules for the other. A relationship is a partnership. There are some rules that I have put to Ken because I wouldn't feel comfortable in a partnership where these rules weren't followed. So it is less a matter of putting rules on the person, and more on the relationship.

Rachel

[VegasLee]

Rachel,

Sorry, I don't agree but that is what makes this life great, we all live it by our own rules.

Laura has her own rules for herself, I have mine for me. Niether of us goes out on "dates" alone. Not because the other asked us not do, but because that is how we both feel. I don't want to go out without her.

Partnership or not, I don't feel that I have the right to tell Laura she can or can not do something. I don't do it in any other part of our life and I won't do it in our lifestyle either.

When she agreed to be with me she did not agree to be ruled by me or follow some made up set of rules for her life that I may or may not have. It works for us. Not saying it is right for anyone else but has worked for many, many years for us.

[meandher2go]

Partnership or not, I don't feel that I have the right to tell Laura she can or can not do something. I don't do it in any other part of our life and I won't do it in our lifestyle either.

When she agreed to be with me she did not agree to be ruled by me or follow some made up set of rules for her life that I may or may not have. It works for us. Not saying it is right for anyone else but has worked for many, many years for us.

AMEN. luckily me and HER BOTH agree on this.