What are your rules or limits?

JustMe. · 01-11-2005, 04:20 PM

Tell us what are the limits that you had stablished with ur lovely mate.....

**TNT** · 01-11-2005, 04:38 PM

Could you elaborate a little more with your question?

I'm not real sure what your asking as there are no limits between Ted and I.

Teresa

JustMe. · 01-11-2005, 04:45 PM

Ok...sorry...

When i say limits....i mean the rules that you and your partner had stablished ( as no play alone, play only with males or females.... ). The rules that you and your partner had to play or to go to a club or resort.

Hope you have my idea.....

BradAndJanet · 01-11-2005, 04:48 PM

Ours are:

- We play together
- We don't go for anything painful
- Condoms for intercourse, unless we know and trust you really, really well

- Bathroom stuff belongs there and not in the bedroom
- No emotional entanglements
- No cheaters (yes, you will need a note from your wife.

)

That's about it.

This question comes up a lot. Here are some other threads:

Is there anything off limits with others that you only do with your partner?
Setting Limits for sexual encounter.
What is off limits to you?

-B

**TNT** · 01-11-2005, 05:06 PM

Yep, that helps out a bunch

Our main rule is we only play together...however, recently we have amended this rule but only the two of us understand the amendment so I won't get into it as it would make no sense to anyone else.

Condoms (unless we are really comfortable with the people we are playing with) and both of us have total veto power, no questions asked.

Basically that's it.

Teresa

**two4youinswva** · 01-11-2005, 05:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TNT

Our main rule is we only play together...however, recently we have amended this rule but only the two of us understand the amendment so I won't get into it as it would make no sense to anyone else.
Teresa

Is that one of those "shipwrecked alone on an island and there's this REALLY cute couple" deals?

Ours are the same as Brad & Janet, with the addition we don't do penetration with the other couple, Except for one couple with play with. Penetration is allowed with them.

Funny how these limits somehow get amendments and exceptions huh?

ALilOEverything · 01-11-2005, 09:08 PM

Most of our rules are flexible with the right couple.

Generally we always use condoms, play together, same room but we've ammended all of those as we see fit for the situation. We've never felt regret after bending our own rules. We always communicate it before we do so.

DBL D · 01-11-2005, 09:14 PM

I like ALiOEverything's approach;

Flexible but open...except for the condom thing. That's a given, much to my chagrin, but I try to understand and make the most of it. Surrender (See some of my other posts for that.)

I don't think the answer to your questions lie in our answers, JustMe. You two must set your own boundaries. It's not like there is a formula for success, though some would like to have some of these guidelines for themselves.

I think my ideal is to go into it all with a completely open mind. Don't act surprised if your mate does something you don't expect.

THEN facelick!!!

Male D

ALilOEverything · 01-11-2005, 09:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DBL D

Flexible but open...except for the condom thing.

We did it one time with long time friends of ours who have been in a monogamous relationship for years and years (they wanted to try to see what it was all about). I no longer can say it's an absolute and we have no other friends we would consider swinging that rule will probably go back to being an absolute.

DBL D · 01-11-2005, 10:17 PM

Thank you AlilOEverything,

I appreciate that response.

I keep hoping that we will meet a few couples that we would feel secure enough to go bareback. Until that happens, it's not the end of the world.

Male D

gsu22 · 01-11-2005, 10:59 PM

If I could jump in here as a single guy....

Mine are:

1.) EVERYbody is comfortable(sexual and otherwise)
2.) Condoms
3.) No pain or anything close to it
4.) Everyone's on the same page as to what each one likes
5.) Everyone's free and relaxed

looking2swing · 01-12-2005, 12:08 AM

We have many of the same basic rules that everyone else has
Condoms, We don't play alone

, We only move forward if both of us agree, No singles, No emotional attachments, and we only play in the same room. Since we follow our agreed upon ground rules, we have had nothing but positive experiences in the lifestyle.

HotMoCpl · 01-12-2005, 06:33 AM

No sex without protection, same room only, only play with couples.......and she makes all the decisions about picking.
Cheers.

xxoticangel · 01-12-2005, 07:58 AM

Quote:

- We play together
- We don't go for anything painful
- Condoms for intercourse, unless we know and trust you really, really well
- Bathroom stuff belongs there and not in the bedroom
- No emotional entanglements
- No cheaters (yes, you will need a note from your wife. )

Ours are the same as Brad and Janet's except that we add No anal with a swing partner.

Spoomonkey · 01-12-2005, 08:05 AM

Ours are pretty much the same - condoms, play together, no M/M, etc...

Of course - all of these rules are subject to change in the event that Gwen Steffani requests something special

Spoomonkey

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01-11-2005, 04:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
JustMe. Active Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Fla	What are your rules or limits? Tell us what are the limits that you had stablished with ur lovely mate.....

01-11-2005, 04:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,559 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 38	Re: Tell us your limits..... Could you elaborate a little more with your question? I'm not real sure what your asking as there are no limits between Ted and I. Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

01-11-2005, 04:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
JustMe. Active Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 18 Location: Fla	Re: Tell us your limits..... Ok...sorry... When i say limits....i mean the rules that you and your partner had stablished ( as no play alone, play only with males or females.... ). The rules that you and your partner had to play or to go to a club or resort. Hope you have my idea.....

01-11-2005, 04:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
BradAndJanet Only slightly cracked... Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 7,072 Location: Seattle Status: Married Couple	Re: Tell us your limits..... Ours are: - We play together - We don't go for anything painful - Condoms for intercourse, unless we know and trust you really, really well - Bathroom stuff belongs there and not in the bedroom - No emotional entanglements - No cheaters (yes, you will need a note from your wife. ) That's about it. This question comes up a lot. Here are some other threads: Is there anything off limits with others that you only do with your partner? Setting Limits for sexual encounter. What is off limits to you? -B __________________ "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain All about us...

01-11-2005, 05:06 PM	#5 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,559 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 38	Re: Tell us your limits..... Yep, that helps out a bunch Our main rule is we only play together...however, recently we have amended this rule but only the two of us understand the amendment so I won't get into it as it would make no sense to anyone else. Condoms (unless we are really comfortable with the people we are playing with) and both of us have total veto power, no questions asked. Basically that's it. Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

01-11-2005, 09:08 PM	#7 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,489 Location: Michigan Status: M. Female	Re: Tell us your limits..... Most of our rules are flexible with the right couple. Generally we always use condoms, play together, same room but we've ammended all of those as we see fit for the situation. We've never felt regret after bending our own rules. We always communicate it before we do so. __________________ ~Lilo

01-11-2005, 09:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,312 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Tell us your limits..... *I like ALiOEverything's* approach; Flexible but open...except for the condom thing. That's a given, much to my chagrin, but I try to understand and make the most of it. Surrender (See some of my other posts for that.) I don't think the answer to your questions lie in our answers, JustMe. You two must set your own boundaries. It's not like there is a formula for success, though some would like to have some of these guidelines for themselves. I think my ideal is to go into it all with a completely open mind. Don't act surprised if your mate does something you don't expect. THEN** facelick!!! Male D __________________ "Just nod if you can hear me..." David Gilmour Last edited by DBL D : 01-11-2005 at 10:14 PM.

01-11-2005, 10:17 PM	#10 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,312 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Tell us your limits..... Thank you AlilOEverything, I appreciate that response. I keep hoping that we will meet a few couples that we would feel secure enough to go bareback. Until that happens, it's not the end of the world. Male D __________________ "Just nod if you can hear me..." David Gilmour

01-11-2005, 10:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
gsu22 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 238 Location: Atlanta, Georgia Status: Single male	Re: Tell us your limits..... If I could jump in here as a single guy.... Mine are: 1.) EVERYbody is comfortable(sexual and otherwise) 2.) Condoms 3.) No pain or anything close to it 4.) Everyone's on the same page as to what each one likes 5.) Everyone's free and relaxed __________________ " A girl's legs are her best friends, but the best of friends must part". -R. Foxx

01-12-2005, 12:08 AM	#12 (permalink)
looking2swing Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 140 Location: Reno Status: happily married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:badswamper	Re: Tell us your limits..... We have many of the same basic rules that everyone else has Condoms, We don't play alone , We only move forward if both of us agree, No singles, No emotional attachments, and we only play in the same room. Since we follow our agreed upon ground rules, we have had nothing but positive experiences in the lifestyle. __________________ Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X

01-12-2005, 06:33 AM	#13 (permalink)
HotMoCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 402 Location: Missouri Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:HotMo	Re: Tell us your limits..... No sex without protection, same room only, only play with couples.......and she makes all the decisions about picking. Cheers. __________________ "Heros go to heaven, survivors go home."- Some damn ol' gunt.

01-12-2005, 08:05 AM	#15 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,648 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Tell us your limits..... Ours are pretty much the same - condoms, play together, no M/M, etc... Of course - all of these rules are subject to change in the event that Gwen Steffani requests something special Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

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