Tell us your limits.....

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Of course - all of these rules are subject to change in the event that Gwen Steffani requests something special

lmao, Spoo.

We have the Brad Pitt clause here.

[JustMe.]

Wow....

Thank you for your replies.....im having a very good idea about the situation...

Well...now...to make this a little more complicated....

Almost all of you say about the condom use, thats very, very, very OK..., but a few time ago, i asked about the sperm matter.....where "to put it"

In that ocassion a lot of ppl told me things about their preferences in faces, mouths or even swallow..

Now the big question......
Why to use condom when a lot of ppl prefer to have direct contact with sperm??

( I was looking for that thread but didnt find it....or dont know WHERE to search !! )

[Denver2some]

Originally Posted by JustMe.

Now the big question......
Why to use condom when a lot of ppl prefer to have direct contact with sperm??

Studies have shown the risk of transmission to be much, much higher with intercourse than with oral sex or incidental contact. (We're talking thousands of times more likely.)

This is because for transmission, the HIV virus has to enter the bloodstream ... which it might not ever do with incidental contact. And the acids in the mouth most often kill the virus off (not every single time, though ... nothing is perfectly safe) However, someone with a cut in their mouth or on their hands in these instances would be taking a greater risk that an uninjured person, because of the potential access to the bloodstream.

People who use condoms for intercourse, but not oral sex, most likely make the distinction due to the different levels of risk involved.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Of course - all of these rules are subject to change in the event that Gwen Steffani requests something special
Spoomonkey

MMmmmmmm Gwen Stefani....... That would definitely result in an amendment to the rules.

For the Mrs, her Sam Elliot fetish would be the cause of a rule change.

[Pepper & Drew]

We have 3 rules: we both play or no one plays, we play together, and condoms. But, there's one couple that we've "broken" two of those rules with. Of course, everything was discussed beforehand, so it wasn't like breaking them, but it just showed us that there are no hard-and-fast rules. In certain situations and with certain couples, they're all negotiable.

Pepper

[findtime]

Hmmm. In reading this I guess we have a few more rules than I realized. I suppose I just considered a couple of them "givens". KWIM?

No kissing.

Same room only but anything goes.

No playing with friends
(although we play with lifestyle couples we consider friends). This rule is kind of strange because it only applies to our closest friends. We don't want to blur any lines even if they swing too.

Condom use for penetration every time

We don't have to both play but the option has to be there. Sometimes I enjoy chatting and watching, so he can go ahead and play without me (many of our encounters are in a group setting). I wouldn't tolerate not being welcome to join in if I chose to. Neither would he.

Disclaimer: All previous rules will be abandoned in the event that Oded Fehr (for me) or Julia Roberts (for him) are ever an option.

[JustMe.]

Sorry for to keep asking about the same thing....

But.... facelick

How do you tell the other couple those rules. ...do you do that in a explicit way?? Or, how do you do if the other male try to kiss your wife ( assuming that you have the rule of "no kisses" ?? )

[HotMoCpl]

In principle, here they are, as we haven't done the deed yet.
SHE'S the boss.
Comdoms...always.
Couples only.
Same room.
No kissing.
No pain...bd/sm
No scat.
No water sports.
No pushy people.
No bi, gay, or lesbian.
No pics or cams.
These rules are subject to change.
We both have veto power.

IF she decides to change these rules on the spur of the moment, she's the boss.

Cheers.

[HotMoCpl]

Originally Posted by JustMe.

Sorry for to keep asking about the same thing....

But.... facelick

How do you tell the other couple those rules. ...do you do that in a explicit way?? Or, how do you do if the other male try to kiss your wife ( assuming that you have the rule of "no kisses" ?? )

I believe that straight out conversation that is honest and to the point. What other way is there?

We plan on using a club to check out this lifestyle and see how it goes from there. Meeting on line? Too scary for us.

Cheers.

[WesternSwing]

Ours are pretty simple also:

1) We only play together, period.
2) No glove, no love, period.
3) Mrs. WS does not do anal with others

Our list has shorted quite a bit as we've become more comfortable with swinging.

Mr. WS

[nckittycpl29]

If we may jump in here as a new couple....

Our FMF rules are...

-Everyone must be comfortable
-No condoms(nckittymale is "fixed") but will use if needed
-Yes to kissing, penetration, oral, not sure about anal with other woman
-Female can play alone(this one is still pending...)
-No watersports.
-Bondage/spanking OK
-No emotional attachment

I(nckittyfemale) basically think that's it..... almost anything goes. At first when we first started talking about having a threesome, I didn't want him to have any penetration with the other female but since we are really close, and we trust each other 110%, I will let him penetrate her, oral, and kiss her. I brought up with my fiancè that maybe I could play with the other female here at home, to be sure that I know what I'm doing. He seems ok with it but when the opportunity is there to have the threesome, we're going to let it happen.

I think that it is the key to having a successful threesome... if you set some guidelines, and you all feel comfortable, you can have an awesome time together. I have heard of SO many threesomes gone wrong, and I'm pretty sure that when we have it, it'll go pretty smoothly.

-nckittyfemale