What activities do you allow during swinging?

[Chemistry_0518]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

Since my last posting on this thread our rules have changed and we now allow kissing. Our rules are now down to three 1) same room 2) no anal 3) condoms during intercourse.

Was that something that you agonized over at length? What caused you to modify your rules? I hope that you feel that you've made progress.

[gregoryrd1]

Hi all,

We had rules in the begining. We changed that to only using condoms. We both agreed if we don't like something then we will stop.

R & J

[ins8bl1]

I actually have more rules enforced on me for the Girl I sleep with who is a friend (which was how this got started), than we have for swinging.

Our rules are simple:
1)use protection when necessary (if either partner is not 'fixed")
2)don't stop each other in the middle of ANYTHING the other is obviously enjoying. Talk about it later when calmer heads can prevail and there is no backlash from someone thinking they were 'left hanging'.

So far that is it. And we only started this lifestyle 3 weeks ago! We figured there is nothing that either of us hasn't done before we got married that we couldn't do now, and that if there was a problem to always discuss it afterwards. If we need to make more rules, then fine!

[tandb]

It's all about trust. If we implicitly trust our partner or partners, there are NO rules. This is admittedly rare. At this point, there is only one other couple that we trust to that degree.

If that total trust does not exist, then we require condoms for intercourse and Mrs. tandb does not have anal with another guy.....

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by tandb

If that total trust does not exist, then we require condoms for intercourse and Mrs. tandb does not have anal with another guy.....

I've often wondered, when a couple's rules indicate that the wife will not participate in anal sex with another man, does this also mean the husband cannot have anal sex with another woman?

[Chemistry_0518]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

I've often wondered, when a couple's rules indicate that the wife will not participate in anal sex with another man, does this also mean the husband cannot have anal sex with another woman?

My Little Princess refuses to have anal with someone else. This is just her preference. As a result, it wold be highly unlikely that the woman in a couple that we meet would permit me to ehgage in anal with her while her male partner is denied. I said unlikely, but not impossible. There has been an instance in which the woman was a real anal freak and "demanded" that type of attention. How could I possibly refuse such a request?

[BradAndJanet]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

I've often wondered, when a couple's rules indicate that the wife will not participate in anal sex with another man, does this also mean the husband cannot have anal sex with another woman?

I wouldn't assume that without asking. J's not comfortable with anyone but me, but she doesn't mind if I go there with another woman.

-B

[Vespertine]

Thanks for the explanation, guys.

I've often wondered about that.

[wiscpl]

As far as rules go, we use the KISS method. For those who don't know that stands for Keep It Simple Stupid.

By doing so we feel we avoid any possibility of missunderstands later. These include 1) same room only 2) no anal 3) never on a first date (we may have been easy on our first date but thats another story

Another important critia, not really a rule, is to just have fun. That is why we are all here, right?

[Bama0468]

our rules are few, and have progressed to this point over the years ... Must wear condoms, and respect the other couples boundries

[DBL D]

We do it all but in the safest way we can. How's that?

Male D

[findtime]

Same room. (Our rush from this is watching each other give and receive pleasure which is why, even if I can't participate because of mother nature, I still enjoy attending functions to watch my husband)
Condom use, always, for intercourse (we'll take our chances with oral)
No MF kissing (we find kissing really intimate and personal. Not so for sex. Any type of sex is ok.)

We actually revisited the no kissing rule to see if it was still necessary. We discussed it, pictured it and decided to keep it.

[cathylacy]

Hi,

I am a bi male who is also (sometimes) a Cd/tv when swinging. I observe all preferences of any couple I meet 100%. 'Trust', 'mutual pleasure' and 'sex' should be rated by every individual/couple in that order and totally respected.

David/Cathy
cathylacy@hotmail.com

[teknurse]

I haven't been on this board in a while, but this topic was interesting. The posting about anal kinda hit home. I was with a gal at a house party that was REALLY into anal. My wife doesn't enjoy it very often, if at all. She had no problem with us having anal sex tho. The one thing she doesn't like is if I ejaculate while another woman is felating me. It was odd; having sex in every position imaginable doesn't bother her, but my cumming in another womans' mouth perturbed her. Needless to say, I've abstained from that at my wifes' behest. We didn't start out with many boundaries and aside from that one, we really haven't changed much over the years.

Allen & Tami

[JakenReenie]

Reenie and I have just one rule:

We never, ever, ever, ever fuck on the first date..........unless we feel like it.