At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle?

Cloud of Love · 02-24-2007, 05:04 PM

At what point do you officially qualify as being in the Lifestyle? Is there any consensus on this? Do you have had to already have your first encounter for it to count? Or does simply looking honestly count? What about if you have met a couple, both sides intend to play as soon as possible, but it hasn't happened just yet due to timing but should soon?

I guess we're just trying to figure out if we are officially swingers yet.....we're definitely more than wannabes as we are committed to this and actively looking, but it doesn't seem quite right to actually say "we are in the lifestyle" since we haven't played yet. Maybe "lifestyle apprentice couple"? Any thoughts?

**BiloxiCouple** · 02-24-2007, 05:18 PM

I thought of all kinds of things to say.

When you pass swinging 101.

Have you paid your dues and joined the Swingers Union?

When you get you diploma.

When you know the secret swingers handshake.

But in reality, it's up to you. Pretty simple.

Did you get your secret swingers de-coder ring yet?

I couldn't resist another one.

**good times** · 02-24-2007, 06:15 PM

I always heard you weren't a real swinger until you have that first time when you can't remember the names of that couple you played with last night.

Actually I think being a swinger is more a state of mind than what you have or haven't done. In reality, does it really matter?

Cloud of Love · 02-24-2007, 06:18 PM

No, it doesn't really matter. I was just curious about the secret handshake.

In all seriousness, I suppose it is a state of mind as you have said, and an individual thing to the couples involved. As it should be.

Nudesailing · 02-24-2007, 06:54 PM

I dont have my decoder ring yet?????? I will check the mail again tomorrow.

rc toys · 02-24-2007, 07:10 PM

Man, I really want to get a Swingers secret decoder ring!!

Do you get one in a Vanilla box?

We think we were swingers long before we ever consummated it. It's all a state of mind.

**SW_PA_Couple** · 02-24-2007, 07:19 PM

As Good_Times observed, it is all a state of mind. I will add, if you think of yourself as a swinger, you are a swinger.

Mr. Truelove · 02-24-2007, 09:39 PM

I went by the idea that I was in the lifestyle as soon as my wife had the notion of pursuing it. But we were swingers the moment we took the plunge and had our first experience. I like it, but it is still a self made definition.

Mr. Truelove

cubnamy1995 · 02-24-2007, 10:59 PM

The day that you start carrying condoms even when you are just going to a PTA meeting, you are officially a swinger.

prettylady · 02-25-2007, 08:48 AM

We have got to start a
"You know your a swinger when......" thread.
That would be just too damn funny.
Your friend,
Prettylady

want2knowmore · 02-25-2007, 10:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

As Good_Times observed, it is all a state of mind. I will add, if you think of yourself as a swinger, you are a swinger.

Then I'm in...
In my mind I am. In reality, I can't get started..
Okay I have always been an exception to the rules guy.

Do I get my ring now?

Cloud of Love · 02-25-2007, 03:23 PM

maybe there should be a special tattoo or something.

sexcupid · 02-25-2007, 04:17 PM

Do we get to choose what we want? The decoder ring would be cool (unless the only "code" you get to break is "drink more ovaltine" *rotflmao*) or the tattoo...maybe I could incorporate that into an exsiting design....

I would say it's mostly a state of mind, if what you are doing makes you feel that you are participating in the lifestyle, then you are! Even if you haven't met up for playtime with anyone. Just my .02

Maria

Cloud of Love · 02-25-2007, 05:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sexcupid

Do we get to choose what we want? The decoder ring would be cool (unless the only "code" you get to break is "drink more ovaltine" *rotflmao*) :

Anyone who can work "A Christmas Story" reference into a swinger thread deserves a round of applause.

I think we'll go with "Swinger Apprentice Couple" for now. We'll take the Apprentice off after the first encounter.

Mr. Truelove · 02-25-2007, 05:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cloud of Love

Anyone who can work "A Christmas Story" reference into a swinger thread deserves a round of applause.

I think we'll go with "Swinger Apprentice Couple" for now. We'll take the Apprentice off after the first encounter.

But they were beaten by 5 hours.

Here:

Mr. Truelove

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02-24-2007, 05:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
Cloud of Love Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56 Location: Planet Earth Status: Married Male	At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? At what point do you officially qualify as being in the Lifestyle? Is there any consensus on this? Do you have had to already have your first encounter for it to count? Or does simply looking honestly count? What about if you have met a couple, both sides intend to play as soon as possible, but it hasn't happened just yet due to timing but should soon? I guess we're just trying to figure out if we are officially swingers yet.....we're definitely more than wannabes as we are committed to this and actively looking, but it doesn't seem quite right to actually say "we are in the lifestyle" since we haven't played yet. Maybe "lifestyle apprentice couple"? Any thoughts?
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02-24-2007, 05:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
BiloxiCouple Julie's Helper Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 4,002 Location: Biloxi, Mississippi Status: Couple with benefits and retired Swing Lifestyle Name:graceful	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? I thought of all kinds of things to say. When you pass swinging 101. Have you paid your dues and joined the Swingers Union? When you get you diploma. When you know the secret swingers handshake. But in reality, it's up to you. Pretty simple. Did you get your secret swingers de-coder ring yet? I couldn't resist another one.
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02-24-2007, 06:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? I always heard you weren't a real swinger until you have that first time when you can't remember the names of that couple you played with last night. Actually I think being a swinger is more a state of mind than what you have or haven't done. In reality, does it really matter?
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02-24-2007, 06:18 PM	#4 (permalink)
Cloud of Love Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56 Location: Planet Earth Status: Married Male	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? No, it doesn't really matter. I was just curious about the secret handshake. In all seriousness, I suppose it is a state of mind as you have said, and an individual thing to the couples involved. As it should be.
	__________________ Before you slip into unconsciousness, I'd like to have another kiss

02-24-2007, 06:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
Nudesailing Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 74 Location: Texas Status: Couple	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? I dont have my decoder ring yet?????? I will check the mail again tomorrow.

02-24-2007, 07:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
rc toys Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 23 Location: Indiana Status: couple	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? Man, I really want to get a Swingers secret decoder ring!! Do you get one in a Vanilla box? We think we were swingers long before we ever consummated it. It's all a state of mind.

02-24-2007, 07:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
SW_PA_Couple Julie's Helper Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 4,676 Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Status: a very married man Swing Lifestyle Name:SW_PA_Couple	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? As Good_Times observed, it is all a state of mind. I will add, if you think of yourself as a swinger, you are a swinger.
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02-24-2007, 09:39 PM	#8 (permalink)
Mr. Truelove Wearing a evil grin Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,198 Location: Fort Wayne Status: Married Male Swing Lifestyle Name:Thetrueloves	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? I went by the idea that I was in the lifestyle as soon as my wife had the notion of pursuing it. But we were swingers the moment we took the plunge and had our first experience. I like it, but it is still a self made definition. Mr. Truelove
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02-24-2007, 10:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
cubnamy1995 Amateur Naked Acrobats Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 541 Location: East TX Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:cubnamy1995	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? The day that you start carrying condoms even when you are just going to a PTA meeting, you are officially a swinger.
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02-25-2007, 08:48 AM	#10 (permalink)
prettylady anything boys can do.... Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,750 Location: Utopia Status: Trouble maker Swing Lifestyle Name:playtoys69	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? We have got to start a "You know your a swinger when......" thread. That would be just too damn funny. Your friend, Prettylady
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02-25-2007, 03:23 PM	#12 (permalink)
Cloud of Love Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56 Location: Planet Earth Status: Married Male	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? maybe there should be a special tattoo or something.
	__________________ Before you slip into unconsciousness, I'd like to have another kiss

02-25-2007, 04:17 PM	#13 (permalink)
sexcupid Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,195 Location: San Antonio Status: couple/f Swing Lifestyle Name:sexcupid	Re: At what point do you officially qualify as being In the Lifestyle? Do we get to choose what we want? The decoder ring would be cool (unless the only "code" you get to break is "drink more ovaltine" rotflmao) or the tattoo...maybe I could incorporate that into an exsiting design.... I would say it's mostly a state of mind, if what you are doing makes you feel that you are participating in the lifestyle, then you are! Even if you haven't met up for playtime with anyone. Just my .02 Maria

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