The definition of Swinging

[neoparadigm]

The definition of swinging is

1.Three or more people having sex.

2. A couple, married or dating who entertains the reality of adding other people into their personal sexual interactions.

3. Group sex among consenting adults.

4. A group of people who have graduated from backyard bbq's to bedroom playtime
with friends.

Is there a universal definition here?

what is it to you?

[NewAndScared]

As a child, I enjoyed swinging with my grandmother on her front porch.

I am going to follow you all day. You make Intuition mad, you make me mad....

[neoparadigm]

Someone said here that I am not a swinger..

can we define this (what is swinger?) so we can all get on the same page..?

If you saw myself and girlfriend at a club and did not know that I am the
(neo) on this site.. believe me.. more likely than not most all of you would be
hitting on us.. if we all connected and decided to play ..wouldn't that make us all swingers? at least for one night?

I'm a swinger.. maybe you don't like my ruthless honesty at times here.. but I can't imagine not qualifying to fit any definition..

WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF SWINGING?

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

I'm a swinger.. maybe you don't like my ruthless honesty at times here.. but I can't imagine not qualifying to fit any definition..

In another thread on this forum you strongly disagreed with the statement,"Lying to get laid is wrong." You said no no no, you'd rather get laid even if you have to lie about it.

That's your answer right there. You are not a swinger. You're trying to manipulate an easy girl into submitting to your sexual dominance and exploitation. It's kinky but it's not swinging. I'm not judging you for what you are but you aren't a swinger.

If you had actually spent endless hours with hundreds of couples every weekend over the last three years then you wouldn't need people to explain this to you.

[NewAndScared]

Main Entry: 1swing
Pronunciation: 'swi[ng]
Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): swung /'sw&[ng]/; swing·ing /'swi[ng]-i[ng]/
Etymology: Middle English, to beat, fling, hurl, rush, from Old English swingan to beat, fling oneself, rush; akin to Old High German swingan to fling, rush
transitive senses
1 a : to cause to move vigorously through a wide arc or circle <swing an ax> b : to cause to sway to and fro c (1) : to cause to turn on an axis (2) : to cause to face or move in another direction <swing the car into a side road>
2 : to suspend so as to permit swaying or turning
3 : to convey by suspension <cranes swinging cargo into the ship's hold>
4 a (1) : to influence decisively <swing a lot of votes> (2) : to bring around by influence b : to handle successfully : MANAGE <wasn't able to swing a new car on his income> <swing a deal>
5 : to play or sing (as a melody) in the style of swing music
intransitive senses
1 : to move freely to and fro especially in suspension from an overhead support
2 a : to die by hanging b : to hang freely from a support
3 : to move in or describe a circle or arc: a : to turn on a hinge or pivot b : to turn in place c : to convey oneself by grasping a fixed support <swing aboard the train>
4 a : to have a steady pulsing rhythm b : to play or sing with a lively compelling rhythm; specifically : to play swing music
5 : to shift or fluctuate from one condition, form, position, or object of attention or favor to another <swing constantly from optimism to pessimism and back -- Sinclair Lewis>
6 a : to move along rhythmically b : to start up in a smooth vigorous manner <ready to swing into action>
7 : to hit or aim at something with a sweeping arm movement
8 a : to be lively and up-to-date b : to engage freely in sex
synonyms SWING, WAVE, FLOURISH, BRANDISH, THRASH mean to wield or cause to move to and fro or up and down. SWING implies regular or uniform movement <swing the rope back and forth>. WAVE usually implies smooth or continuous motion <waving the flag>. FLOURISH suggests vigorous, ostentatious, graceful movement <flourished the winning lottery ticket>. BRANDISH implies threatening or menacing motion <brandishing a knife>. THRASH suggests vigorous, abrupt, violent movement <an infant thrashing his arms about>.
synonyms SWING, SWAY, OSCILLATE, VIBRATE, FLUCTUATE, WAVER, UNDULATE mean to move from one direction to its opposite. SWING implies a movement of something attached at one end or one side <the door suddenly swung open>. SWAY implies a slow swinging or teetering movement <trees swaying in the breeze>. OSCILLATE stresses a usually regular alternation of direction <an oscillating fan>. VIBRATE suggests the rapid oscillation of an elastic body under stress or impact <the vibrating strings of a piano>. FLUCTUATE suggests constant irregular changes of level, intensity, or value <fluctuating interest rates>. WAVER stresses irregular motion suggestive of reeling or tottering <the exhausted runner wavered before collapsing>. UNDULATE suggests a gentle wavelike motion <an undulating sea of grass>.

[TNT]

All of your definitions are true to someone here. The trick is to find the ones who are compatible with your definition. There is no one true way, but many think that everyone that is different from them is patently wrong. This board is composed mostly of newbies so their point of view is usually pretty tame. The wilder ones have usually been around for a while and are pretty well adjusted. The tamer ones are in to the depth they are comfortable with. This doesn't mean they aren't swingers.

Ted

[AZ Dreaming]

LMAO!!! Good one New and Scared!


Here ya go Neo.....


SWINGING
An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.


Now what is YOUR definition?

[neoparadigm]

I am not looking for someone to explain to me I am not a swinger..

Can we get a consensus here as to what is swinging or what is a swinger?
As an extra male in MFM my objective is to take direction from the other male
and provide an erotic and exciting night for a couple who is visiting town. If fantasy is involved and that fantasy requires that I lie about my profession, age, basic personality, or whatever, it is still MFM and that is a sub genre of swinging whether you like it or not..

Often the husband will tell me ..she love country music, younger guys, and cowboy boots.
So I will go with that theme for the night. Let her have the fantasy, have fun with it myself,
and be knee deep in pussy by midnight, with the husband joining for a climactic DP sending her into swinging nirvana like she has never seen before.. Guess what... it's all bullshit up to the sex..then it gets real in a hurry.. and it is all about swinging...

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

If fantasy is involved and that fantasy requires that I lie about my profession, age, basic personality, or whatever, it is still MFM and that is a sub genre of swinging whether you like it or not..

That's your magic formula? You just lie to people?

You misrepresent yourself to get laid. Your big concern is convincing your girl to fuck guys who she isn't interested in. No, I don't call that swinging.

[AZ Dreaming]

Often the husband will tell me ..she love country music, younger guys, and cowboy boots.
So I will go with that theme for the night. Let her have the fantasy, have fun with it myself,

OMG... I can't belive I am getting drawn in to this.


Let me see if I get what you are saying? You are not being truthfull about the quoted things above, so you can also lie about other things like,age, what you do for a living?

To me being a cowboy for a night is roleplaying... BIG difference between that and lying about everything else....

[neoparadigm]

role playing is just that ... acting and everyone knows it is not real.
If the husband tells me to act a certain way.. I will.. he knows but she does not..
To her it is not role playing.. I am that person to her on that night and at that point and place in time.. I may even work on a little accent to go along with it..

Guess what ..it is lying .. it is fun ..we all are consenting for the sex and we rock at midnight..!

[TeamSoBe]

You know, I've had that fantasy dream too. I'm this young tanned and buff gigolo guy in some place like, oh I don't know, South Beach, where you get lots of tourists looking for kinky adventures just about every weekend. ("What happens in South Beach stays in South Beach...")

In my dream I don't charge anybody, but I sex up women 10 years older than me while their husbands watch. In A-list night clubs, at secret private grotto hot tubs behind waterfront mansions, in ivory-tower high-rise condos, on the bows of yachts and cigarette boats... Usually with my hot, big-tittied partner in crime by my side, screwing the male tourists.

Can't say that anybody has ever asked me to wear a cowboy hat though.

[fun4Ds]

i guess i dont understand all i know about it .im thinking that if your single and doing the cowboy role YOU would be having sex WITH swingers its got me thinking though

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

As an extra male in MFM my objective is to take direction from the other male...
Often the husband will tell me ..she love country music, younger guys, and cowboy boots.
.

I'm just very curious about this....where the hell is the woman in planning and directing this? The MFM experience is supposed to be all about the woman. Why is she letting the men take over and run her like a dog-and-pony show? Are most women really this passive about getting her own fantasy? This is a new millenium, for Pete's sake. Maybe I'm just far too independent for my generation. What did my mother's generation burn all those bras for, anyhow?

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Are most women really this passive about getting her own fantasy?

In reality no, most of the women in MFM's are pretty assertive. In Neo's alternate-reality fantasy life he has encountered 150 couples in a row with an easily manipulated woman and a dominant man, which is his ideal relationship for himself.