The definition of Swinging

[neoparadigm]

I think I have been nothing but respectful on these boards ... look around..
can you find a post from me that has been disrespectful to anyone here? NO...

Respect is respect... here, in your personal relationships or otherwise..

I have been honest with my girlfriend about my desires for MFM and am accepting of her past life choices...hooking etc..

I think many of you need to look at yourselves, address your own fears and insecurities..

[TeamSoBe]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

I think I have been nothing but respectful on these boards ... look around.. can you find a post from me that has been disrespectful to anyone here? NO...

I agree that you're not being disrespectful to us. Which is allowing us to take you just seriously enough to point out that if you were hypothetically really a free gigolo dating a porn star and making her turn free tricks so that you could fuck around, then that would be disrespectful to HER.

...which we only take an interest in because of course you asked us to.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

The definition of swinging is

1.Three or more people having sex.

2. A couple, married or dating who entertains the reality of adding other people into their personal sexual interactions.

3. Group sex among consenting adults.

4. A group of people who have graduated from backyard bbq's to bedroom playtime
with friends.

Is there a universal definition here?

what is it to you?

Originally Posted by TNT

All of your definitions are true to someone here. The trick is to find the ones who are compatible with your definition. There is no one true way, but many think that everyone that is different from them is patently wrong. This board is composed mostly of newbies so their point of view is usually pretty tame. The wilder ones have usually been around for a while and are pretty well adjusted. The tamer ones are in to the depth they are comfortable with. This doesn't mean they aren't swingers.

Ted

Neoparadigm,

Your question has been answered many, many times in this thread...Just because the definitions that were given are not your particular definition of swinging, does not mean that they are not valid.

THERE IS NO ONE TRUE DEFINITION OF SWINGING .... (As my husband posted above).

I would remind everyone to please play nice...personal attacks are NOT allowed on the board.


Teresa

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by AZ Dreaming

SWINGING
An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.

I am going with AZ Dreaming's definition (mostly because I was staring at her clevage and kind of got stuck...

The "full knowledge and consent" part is the sticky wicket, isn't it, Neo?

Whether it is touched upon within any given definition, I am simply very much against any activity where one party is deceived, hurt, manipulated or used... If that is swinging, it is surely its lowest form...

Spoomonkey

[neoparadigm]

thank you...

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by biblonde

There is plenty of room in the corner!! he he he he

Since I am a moderator - I will take it upon myself to punish you...



Spoomonkey

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

I think many of you need to look at yourselves, address your own fears and insecurities..

Please explain... What ARE our fears and insecurities?

Spoomonkey

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by TNT

I would remind everyone to please play nice...personal attacks are NOT allowed on the board.

Um...biblonde and MoonLightKiss...is there room over in that corner? I think there might be a small crowd showing up.

See you there?

Thrax

[LOL_OMG]

Hey I had dibs!!! Daggum!!

Mrs LOL

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Hey I had dibs!!! Daggum!!

Mrs LOL

Hey, settle down! Relax! It's a big corner, really!

Just be sure to backup a bit when the spanker is in a backswing. That way no one gets hurt. Unintentionally.

Thrax

[LOL_OMG]

Originally Posted by Thrax

Hey, settle down! Relax! It's a big corner, really!

Just be sure to backup a bit when the spanker is in a backswing. That way no one gets hurt. Unintentionally.

Thrax

Okay, blood pressure was up just a notch. Better now.

Now that there's a bunch of us in the corner I am thinkin spankin keg party with bananas!

Mrs

[neoparadigm]

All negative emotions are stemming from some fear based reaction..
Any negativity directed at me is coming from you not me..
I am here in peace and open to discussion..
simply put..

[LOL_OMG]

Soooo...who's bringing pizza?

[Thrax]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Soooo...who's bringing pizza?

Cool! So we do the pizza first, sort of an entree, and then the bananas, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, and such for dessert? I'm in! I was gonna suggest mozzarella sticks as an appetizer, but that might not work. Unless, of course at least one of you being punished in the corner is into the melting-hot cheese thing. Y'know, if it works for you...

Thrax
P.S. And I'm assuming, but I just want to make sure, is the corner clothing optional? It might get a bit steamy there with all those people and hot food in a small space. Just hoping...er...I mean, curious.

[LOL_OMG]

Maybe I'm a goober but I don't think clothes should be optional! My thinking is pizza/beer followed by spankins. THEN we could do the bananas, whipped cream and chocolate sauce after...it would be soothing and stuff. Hot melted cheeze? Ummm...maybe is there warm melted cheeze?

Mrs