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    Default Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Met a single guy for a date recently. I really liked him. We started to play a little and when I touched his cock I felt a small scab on the shaft and a bump just at the base --not on the penis but like in the area around the base.

    I know I should've asked him about it then but I didn't. I diverted the session back into a heavy make out with no other play.

    I ask my husband's advice about it upon returning home and he offered up several explainations of what it could be- a mole (he had one removed from that area afterall), razor burn irritation, an ingrown hair. The scabbed area on his cock he said could be from jerking off too much/too hard- he admitted to getting those sometimes in his single days when all he had was his hand.

    I am not trying to make excuses for him but just really trying to look at both sides. It could be HPV or herpes (I dont think so though-- the bump was rather large for herpes I think--and not clustered). I'm more concerned about HPV but I wouldn't say the area was flat either- it felt like a raised bump- like how an ingrown hair or mole might feel.

    It doesn't make sense to me that he'd expose his cock to me with a raging infection of some sort but obviously, I'm not about to take that chance. He also offered zero explaination for it at the time which makes me wonder. I also did not ask him about it though.

    Since we were in a parked car, I did not see it at all. I only felt it long enough for my hand to glide down the shaft of his cock.

    I'm scared to offend him. I know I need to bring it up to him (I will not play with him without answers) and I know he deserves the chance to explain it to me. Afterall, it may be completley harmless but I know it's my right to ask these questions and get answers.

    Such a sensitive topic. I know that being direct and honest is the best way to deal with this but thought I'd ask others advice before bringing it up to him.

    So guys, how would you like to be approached in this situation?

    Ladies, have you found yourself in a similiar situation? What a did you do?

    I thought about sending him an email- I realize that's somewhat of a cop out but that way it gives me time to write out what I want and then gives him time to process it and decide how to respond.

    Advice? Comments? Suggestions? All are appreciated.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    I would just ask and take a look in the light. Ingrown hairs and moles are pretty easy to pick up just by looking. HPV will either be brownish or look like cauliflower. Herpes usually drains a little.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    It doesn't make sense to me that he'd expose his cock to me with a raging infection of some sort but obviously
    STD's get passed along for a reason, and a horny single guy may well take a chance you won't realize it than make up some lame excuse for why they can't see you being that would often be the end of their chances.

    It MIGHT be nothing, I've had a zit or two myself and I'd guess most men do, but its just sex here and who really cares if you offend him, its your health.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    If you like the guy then call him on it. As a guy, I wouldn't be offended if I had nothing to hide.

    If he gets offended then maybe that's worth thinking about.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Ask him.

    Ive had ingrown hairs, and a razor burn once when I snagged on some skin.

    Ingrown hairs for me look like a red pimple, and then when you finally pop the hair out of there, they do scab many times. Fairly small scab though unless someone really makes a mess digging out the hair.

    A mole removal is a possibility, that will be a big scab since it's a chunk cut out from the skin.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Run! Run like a deer!

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    My advice would be to stay away from him for two reasons.

    1-He didn't feel the need to mention it. You would think he would have because it was so obvious.
    2-Without testing there is no way to know for sure.
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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    You can ask him if you want to, but I don't think it's going to help.

    If it's nothing, he'll say it's nothing.
    If it is something, he'll say it's nothing. After all, he didn't say anything about it before, did he?

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    That's probably the best choice.
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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Probably razor burn/razor bumps -- I've had that problem -- but you should definitely talk to him about it.
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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    He may have Angiokeratoma. It's fairly common. Google it and you'll find a lot of info on it. I do agree with others though that this needs to addressed before any further play happens.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Quote Originally Posted by two4youinswva View Post
    You can ask him if you want to, but I don't think it's going to help.

    If it's nothing, he'll say it's nothing.
    If it is something, he'll say it's nothing. After all, he didn't say anything about it before, did he?



    That's probably the best choice.
    I agree completely. I'd say don't play without a doctor's determination as to what it is.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    I'm with you that he deserves a chance to explain - given that we've already come up with a number of possible explanations...

    I also agree that if he says it's nothing, that's not a good enough explanation.
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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Well, here’s the thing; no-matter how you do it, if you decide to proceed, you are never going to be able to get the doubt out of your mind and playing will not be much fun.

    Think about it, I imagine all that wet creaminess you had when you first touched his cock quickly went away when you took it back to a make-out session, and during that make-out session, you probably could not think of anything else.

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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    If it wasn't explaind at the time, then there is trouble in River City.

    Wait until he contacts you. Then ask him about it.

    If he doesn't contact you, then there is probably a reason.
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    Default Re: Felt something on his penis, not sure how to proceed

    Hello and thanks for all the advice. To those of you that told me to run without even giving him a chance to explain- shame on you. I like this guy, we have a connection - it is absolutely unreasonable and immature to not give him a chance to explain this and just disappear. In fact, I should've put my big girl panties on and just asked him when I felt it. This is such a HUGE problem in this lifestyle- people just ducking out without asking questions or addressing issues that are difficult or uncomfortable. Avoiding things that may be harmless or easily fixed is causing you all to miss out on lots of potential fun- just remember that. Man up, say what you feel and it may just work out in your favor. If it doesn't, at least you tried right?

    I always try to put myself in the other person's shoes-- lets say I developed a nasty ingrown hair before a date and a guy feels it and freaks. I'd hope he'd bring it up to me before just assuming the worst. I deserve a chance to explain myself to you. We are all adults here. We shoudl be able to have open discussions concerning our sexual health.

    Anyway, I emailed this guy about this and he almost immediately contacted me via text. He called me on the way home from work to offer his explainations (moles) and offered to get tested. I'd say that's an ideal response and he's clearly not hiding anything on purpose. Or yes, he's a really great liar. But I really doubt that's the case. This guy is active in the lifestyle, is at many parties regularly and well known. I can't imagine it'd be easy for him to lie to many people without people catching on and talking.

    Obviously, I'll be checking it out more clearly but at this point I am more than satisfied with that explaination. If I don't trust his it's moles explaination after seeing them- I'll request the test. Thanks again.

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