We found a single male for a 3some recently. it took awhile, found him on line, chatted, email and so forth for very few weeks. Then we met in a public place and ended back at his place. We had laid the ground rules that there would be no intercourse and he was a gentleman in all ways. It all went great for our first experience. He emailed shortly after and echoed the same feelings. then he went out of town for awhile then wrote us that he is moving out of town. it has been a few weeks since we have chatted on line and he showed up on line tonight. we talked about trying together one more time before he left town and started talking about some fantasies. the end of IM was this
the names have been changed to protect the guilty
US: well having you having intercourse w/o condom is not an option at this time as much as we would like it
Him : why?
US: disease, pregnancy
Him : ____, I have been very patient with you... I am as virgin and as safe as a guy that you will ever meet... if you have a women that is worried about pregancy that is her problem... STDs are all of our problems... please do not contact me again...
any thougths, i am shocked as we had plans to get together but i guess not now.
VegasLee you are correct, my thoughts exactly as soon as he said 'pregnancy is her problem'. he is 40's and divorced recently so i figured he was grown and based on the first time we had he was all class. but as you said.......
You should have named this topic "Idiot issues", but thats just my opinion.
I'm full of them tonight, so beware.
I think this guy was looking for one last fling before moving to a new town, and you just happened to show up before a single woman did. Nothing more, nothing less. If it were a single woman that only wanted mutual masturbation first, he would have said the exact same thing and behaved the same way.
I say behave and not act because I doubt the guy has better manners. He just did what came naturally.
Maybe thats why he's 'recently divorced' and moving out of town.
My first reaction to this was it sounded like something a lot of teenage boys would say to their first conquest--"Oh, Don't worry...You can't get pregnant on the first time when you lose your virginity!" Of course teen pregnancy statistic doesnt exactly support that as truth--now does it? Maybe he thought he could get away with it then---and it is a line that could still work for him now?
Honestly there are a lot of guys out there with no class, but I do not beleive it is fair to be grouped in with all the horrible traits people seem to highlight about single males because couples who might be considering someone like a single male probably read these threads and are completely turned away from the idea when there are plenty of good, honest, and respectful guys. But I will say they are hard to find
I am as virgin and as safe as a guy that you will ever meet.
OK, this is the line from hell. Right up there with "I was born sterile, so you don't have to worry about me getting you pregnant." Want to know something embarrassing? I got a very bad viral infection when I picked up an M&M that fell on the armrest of my car.
Pretty scary. It was only an hour after I ate that M&M that my nose started running, my throat got sore, and everything else. There are so many things that can go wrong just eating a candy bar, you have to take certain precautions (like not eating off the floor) so you don't have to worry about them. If you always take those precautions, the chance of getting sick are so low you never think about them anymore. You just say "Hey, I never eat chocolate thats fallen on the floor or on a table I don't know has been sprayed with Lysol." How many more precautions should you automatically take when it comes to sex so you don't have to think about the bad things that can happen?
I'm sorry, but evertime I read this post, I can't believe how many people are just so...childish.