In the first stages...

NotSorry · 11-20-2008, 11:21 AM

Hi everyone. My husband and I have been steadily broadening our sexual horizons for awhile now and are now just starting to look around and get a feel for the swinging culture.

I really like the even greater intimacy that has developed between us since we have been discussing swinging. It's pretty liberating to just come out and admit that sexual attraction is not limited to your spouse rather than pretending the feelings don't exist. In my past relationships, jealousy had been a really painful and damaging emotion. Acknowledging our jealousies and facing them has been an amazingly freeing experience. This all just feels right. Even if we ultimately decide to not to, all the self-exploration and sharing of fantasies has been, and will continue to be, great for our personal development and the deepening of our relationship.

Anyway, I just wanted to say hi and that you seem like a really nice bunch of people. Thank you for all the information and discussion that have helped me to understand a little bit more about what we are getting into. It's really made the whole lifestyle seem very inviting.

verdiemae · 11-20-2008, 12:19 PM

After 2 divorces (husband cheating) and 10 years of being single, my now husband began to discuss and explore swinging. Although we haven't had lots of encounters, it seems to have helped as far as jealousies, being able to share looking at other folks instead of watching him like a hawk always afraid the man would stray and vice versa. While everyone participates at their own comfort level, I think it is a healthy way to stay off that "grass is always greener" syndrome and realize that what you have is really what you want, but variety adds spice to the pot. Lots of luck. Verdie

screaminggood · 11-20-2008, 01:00 PM

Welcome to the Board! Feel free to jump into any threads that are of interest to you.

**fun4Ds** · 11-20-2008, 01:28 PM

Well hello NotSorry, It's great to see you offered a warm friendly first post.

Just wanted to return our welcome. Hope you enjoy getting in on the conversations.

Nice to make your acquaintance

**LFM2** · 11-20-2008, 03:07 PM

to the Swinger's Board! It's wonderful to see you found our little corner of the world.

cpl4funindel · 11-20-2008, 03:10 PM

Welcome NotSorry!

My wife and I went through the same kind of exploration of our sexuality as a couple when we started talking about swinging, and you're 100% right in that the openness of the discussion absolutely brought us closer and made our intimate lives more fulfilling. When we finally did take the next step, we also found all those discussions had been exactly what was needed to help make us more comfortable, even through some early "bumps in the road".

I'm glad you found this board as well. It's been a great source of information and a "sanity saver" more than a few times for us. All in all, you'll find lots of great people willing to help you as you move forward into the lifestyle.

Good luck, and take care.

P&S

**rpu3** · 11-20-2008, 03:29 PM

I'm glad you've found the Board! If you haven't found it already, be sure to give the Archives a look, and if you have questions, please do not hesitate to ask!

***JustAskJulie*** · 11-20-2008, 05:09 PM

Honesty is one of the most liberating things in the world!

to the wonderful world of great communication, honesty and potentially swinging

sweet_tna · 12-01-2008, 01:28 PM

Hi and

=)

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11-20-2008, 11:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
NotSorry Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 122 Location: Philadelphia area Status: married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:vegcouple954	In the first stages... Hi everyone. My husband and I have been steadily broadening our sexual horizons for awhile now and are now just starting to look around and get a feel for the swinging culture. I really like the even greater intimacy that has developed between us since we have been discussing swinging. It's pretty liberating to just come out and admit that sexual attraction is not limited to your spouse rather than pretending the feelings don't exist. In my past relationships, jealousy had been a really painful and damaging emotion. Acknowledging our jealousies and facing them has been an amazingly freeing experience. This all just feels right. Even if we ultimately decide to not to, all the self-exploration and sharing of fantasies has been, and will continue to be, great for our personal development and the deepening of our relationship. Anyway, I just wanted to say hi and that you seem like a really nice bunch of people. Thank you for all the information and discussion that have helped me to understand a little bit more about what we are getting into. It's really made the whole lifestyle seem very inviting.

11-20-2008, 12:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
verdiemae Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 15 Location: nashville,tn Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mdtncpl50	Re: In the first stages... After 2 divorces (husband cheating) and 10 years of being single, my now husband began to discuss and explore swinging. Although we haven't had lots of encounters, it seems to have helped as far as jealousies, being able to share looking at other folks instead of watching him like a hawk always afraid the man would stray and vice versa. While everyone participates at their own comfort level, I think it is a healthy way to stay off that "grass is always greener" syndrome and realize that what you have is really what you want, but variety adds spice to the pot. Lots of luck. Verdie

11-20-2008, 01:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
screaminggood Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 813 Location: Dallas TX Status: couple	Re: In the first stages... Welcome to the Board! Feel free to jump into any threads that are of interest to you.

11-20-2008, 01:28 PM	#4 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,018 Location: Indiana. Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 16	Re: In the first stages... Well hello NotSorry, It's great to see you offered a warm friendly first post. Just wanted to return our welcome. Hope you enjoy getting in on the conversations. Nice to make your acquaintance __________________ well... at least we are normal pervs

11-20-2008, 03:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
LFM2 Julie's Helper Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,890 Location: State of Confusion Status: Couple Blog Entries: 10	Re: In the first stages... to the Swinger's Board! It's wonderful to see you found our little corner of the world. __________________ Holly & Dave "One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other." Jane Austen

11-20-2008, 03:10 PM	#6 (permalink)
cpl4funindel Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 33 Location: Delaware Status: Married Couple Passionately in Love Swing Lifestyle Name:cpl4funindel	Re: In the first stages... Welcome NotSorry! My wife and I went through the same kind of exploration of our sexuality as a couple when we started talking about swinging, and you're 100% right in that the openness of the discussion absolutely brought us closer and made our intimate lives more fulfilling. When we finally did take the next step, we also found all those discussions had been exactly what was needed to help make us more comfortable, even through some early "bumps in the road". I'm glad you found this board as well. It's been a great source of information and a "sanity saver" more than a few times for us. All in all, you'll find lots of great people willing to help you as you move forward into the lifestyle. Good luck, and take care. P&S __________________ -- "Be great in act, as you have been in thought." - William Shakespeare

11-20-2008, 03:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 3,155 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female Swing Lifestyle Name:rpu3 Blog Entries: 2	Re: In the first stages... I'm glad you've found the Board! If you haven't found it already, be sure to give the Archives a look, and if you have questions, please do not hesitate to ask! __________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant

11-20-2008, 05:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 24,502 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 75	Re: In the first stages... Honesty is one of the most liberating things in the world! to the wonderful world of great communication, honesty and potentially swinging __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

12-01-2008, 01:28 PM	#9 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,381 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna	Re: In the first stages... Hi and =) __________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than heaven wondering what it's like.

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