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K McDonald · 07-20-2008, 05:47 PM

Hi. I was referred to this forum from a nice lady from Yahoo Answers. My main interest is in getting my wife to embrace the idea of HER having sex with other men. I'm really not interested in being with other women, (I still LOVE looking at them) but the idea of my dear wife, enjoying someone larger than myself, is such a turn-on to me. She's very intelligent, and assertive, and she won't really talk about it, BUT every now and then, she'll drop some hints that she is considering it. But when I try to have an actual conversation about it, she shuts me right down. DARN!

***JustAskJulie*** · 07-21-2008, 05:13 PM

to the board! Just keep talking to her during sex and enjoy the fantasy with her. Let her know that you really are OK with the idea and that her having sex with someone else would not make you love her less. In time, when she's ready she'll let you know. Just be supportive

tittietwister · 07-22-2008, 05:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by K McDonald

My main interest is in getting my wife to embrace the idea of HER having sex with other men. I'm really not interested in being with other women

The motivation was the same for me; however, she said if she played I played so here we are.

2insandiego4u · 07-22-2008, 01:53 PM

Like Julie said, keep talking about it and tell her it is a BIG fantasy of yours. Tell her about the type of guy you'd like to see her with (larger, etc). Once you've planted the seed just sit back and let it grow in her mind. It might take a while for her to agree but once she does you should have no problem finding willing MFM partners!

georgeo · 07-23-2008, 07:45 AM

K,
Your introduction sound as if you may be more suited to a Cuckold forum site. I base this on you have said that "your not interested in being part of the experience". Forgive me if I have not interpreted correctly but most swingers (including some fringe groups) like to participate and share in the experience even if it is only at a basic wife swapping level.

The cuckold experience (and this spectrum can be rather broard) often consists of guys who get fulfilment out of sharing their partners with others but dont need to involved with participating in the activity side.

Mind you this is a bit forward of me for my first post on your forum.

georgeo

**rpu3** · 07-23-2008, 04:38 PM

K McDonald · 07-23-2008, 04:51 PM

Thanks for the welcome and comments everyone! You could be right that a cuckold forum might be better suited, but I suppose if my wife would agree to "swing", having a different woman would be a small price to pay to enjoy the idea of my own wife getting strange cock.

bbarnsworth · 07-24-2008, 09:26 AM

I'm very interested in my wife having someone else too. Similarly, my focus isn't having someone else and she's not fully comfortable with the idea of me having someone else. She's not fully comfortable with the idea of another man having her either, but more so than the other way

Keep talking. My wife and I are talking a lot, and it's helping...even if we never do anything. It's been very erotic for both of us to just talk about it. Keep gently encouraging her, and let her know it's really ok for you. My wife is incredulous at times that I would want her to take another man, saying it's "counter-intuitive". She's right, it is counter-intuitive. But, that doesn't change the fact it'd be highly erotic for me to watch her having another man in her. She's logically got it that I'd really enjoy that, but emotionally she's not there yet. In time, maybe. Be patient, and keep gently encouraging. Even if nothing happens, you'll probably be closer from the experience of talking about it.

2insandiego4u · 07-24-2008, 03:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by K McDonald

having a different woman would be a small price to pay to enjoy the idea of my own wife getting strange cock.

Funniest thing we've read here today!

MFM can be a lot of fun. If the male does not want to participate at all then it is more of a cuckold type situation, and sometimes a mix of watching then participating works best for some. Keep talking about it and see where it goes. She'll tell you when she's ready, just be sure she understands that this is something you really want too. Telling her you won't be jealous beforehand may not be a good idea since some women will say "why the hell not?!". Focus on the fantasy side of it for both you and her. Find out what type of man she fantasizes about being with (age, race, height/weight, endowment, etc) and tell her that is something you have been fantasizing about too.

K McDonald · 07-26-2008, 04:22 PM

I'm glad you got a kick out of my willingness to have another woman as long as it meant my wife would be satisfied! When we were getting warmed up for making love yesterday, she took of her glasses and said "this way I can pretend you're someone else" God, I got instant wood right then. During the love she would say "I love you" over and over, so can you women tell me what, if anything you say to a different man while in the throws of passion?

sweet_tna · 08-03-2008, 08:31 PM

Hi and

This is a great place to get more information on the lifestyle. Try sharing this board with your wife to encourage more discussion.

=)

SecretAsianMan · 08-04-2008, 12:26 PM

Sounds like y'all know what you're looking for. Keep those lines of communication open - don't forget that you're looking for this as a SHARED experience, so talking about it is the best thing if either of you isn't sure about it. Good luck to you

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07-20-2008, 05:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
K McDonald Registered Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3 Location: Salt Lake City, Utah Status: M. Male SLS Name:K McDonald	New member Hi. I was referred to this forum from a nice lady from Yahoo Answers. My main interest is in getting my wife to embrace the idea of HER having sex with other men. I'm really not interested in being with other women, (I still LOVE looking at them) but the idea of my dear wife, enjoying someone larger than myself, is such a turn-on to me. She's very intelligent, and assertive, and she won't really talk about it, BUT every now and then, she'll drop some hints that she is considering it. But when I try to have an actual conversation about it, she shuts me right down. DARN!

07-21-2008, 05:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 21,178 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 53	Re: New member to the board! Just keep talking to her during sex and enjoy the fantasy with her. Let her know that you really are OK with the idea and that her having sex with someone else would not make you love her less. In time, when she's ready she'll let you know. Just be supportive __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

07-22-2008, 01:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
2insandiego4u ♥♥♥ Lovin' This! ♥♥♥ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 337 Location: San Diego Status: Couple SLS Name:2inSanDiego4u	Re: New member Like Julie said, keep talking about it and tell her it is a BIG fantasy of yours. Tell her about the type of guy you'd like to see her with (larger, etc). Once you've planted the seed just sit back and let it grow in her mind. It might take a while for her to agree but once she does you should have no problem finding willing MFM partners! __________________ SLS/AFF Profile Name: 2inSanDiego4u - "Doggie Style is Mandatory."

07-23-2008, 07:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
georgeo Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 2 Location: Australia Status: single	Re: New member K, Your introduction sound as if you may be more suited to a Cuckold forum site. I base this on you have said that "your not interested in being part of the experience". Forgive me if I have not interpreted correctly but most swingers (including some fringe groups) like to participate and share in the experience even if it is only at a basic wife swapping level. The cuckold experience (and this spectrum can be rather broard) often consists of guys who get fulfilment out of sharing their partners with others but dont need to involved with participating in the activity side. Mind you this is a bit forward of me for my first post on your forum. georgeo

07-23-2008, 04:38 PM	#6 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,064 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female SLS Name:rpu3 Blog Entries: 2	Re: New member __________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant

07-23-2008, 04:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
K McDonald Registered Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3 Location: Salt Lake City, Utah Status: M. Male SLS Name:K McDonald	Re: New member Thanks for the welcome and comments everyone! You could be right that a cuckold forum might be better suited, but I suppose if my wife would agree to "swing", having a different woman would be a small price to pay to enjoy the idea of my own wife getting strange cock.

07-24-2008, 09:26 AM	#8 (permalink)
bbarnsworth Active Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 24 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple	Re: New member I'm very interested in my wife having someone else too. Similarly, my focus isn't having someone else and she's not fully comfortable with the idea of me having someone else. She's not fully comfortable with the idea of another man having her either, but more so than the other way Keep talking. My wife and I are talking a lot, and it's helping...even if we never do anything. It's been very erotic for both of us to just talk about it. Keep gently encouraging her, and let her know it's really ok for you. My wife is incredulous at times that I would want her to take another man, saying it's "counter-intuitive". She's right, it is counter-intuitive. But, that doesn't change the fact it'd be highly erotic for me to watch her having another man in her. She's logically got it that I'd really enjoy that, but emotionally she's not there yet. In time, maybe. Be patient, and keep gently encouraging. Even if nothing happens, you'll probably be closer from the experience of talking about it.

07-26-2008, 04:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
K McDonald Registered Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3 Location: Salt Lake City, Utah Status: M. Male SLS Name:K McDonald	Re: New member I'm glad you got a kick out of my willingness to have another woman as long as it meant my wife would be satisfied! When we were getting warmed up for making love yesterday, she took of her glasses and said "this way I can pretend you're someone else" God, I got instant wood right then. During the love she would say "I love you" over and over, so can you women tell me what, if anything you say to a different man while in the throws of passion?

08-03-2008, 08:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,395 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet SLS Name:Sweet_tna	Re: New member Hi and This is a great place to get more information on the lifestyle. Try sharing this board with your wife to encourage more discussion. =) __________________ I'd rather go to Hell for something I enjoyed than go to Heaven wondering what it would be like.

08-04-2008, 12:26 PM	#12 (permalink)
SecretAsianMan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 282 Location: Los Angeles Status: Single Male SLS Name:Secret_Asian_Man	Re: New member Sounds like y'all know what you're looking for. Keep those lines of communication open - don't forget that you're looking for this as a SHARED experience, so talking about it is the best thing if either of you isn't sure about it. Good luck to you __________________ I didn't do it... it was like then when we got here!

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