Son's GFs leave him - "lack of cock size"

[billygoat4u]

We need some advice on how to advise our son. Seems he has lost most of his past GF's due to his lack of cock size.

We/I havn't asked just what size he is...we have tried to say that whith the right girl it won't matter. Butr it's to poiont he's thinking about looking into have himself surgicly inlarged.

[beachguyz]

With all of the ads on TV, no wonder he has a problem or concern. It might help for him to talk to a therapist about his perceived problem. It's only a problem if it is in his mind.
Just like his preference for women. He has a certain expectation of size, looks etc. it doesn't mean that the girls he doesn't want to date have anything wrong, he just isn't attracted to them. It's only a body part. His sex organ is really his brain.

Is it possible that he's telling you this to see how you will react?

[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- Perhaps he is absent in social skills and is blaming his cock for it. It could also have something to do with the type of women he is pursuing. If he is blaming his cock size and he's told you about it, a frank discussion is needed, whether it be with you, his doctor , his therapist, or all three.

Also, people can be cruel and this includes women. I have known one or two that would pretend interest in a man, get him naked then laugh at his cock just for the fun of it and send the poor guy packing. Unfortunately, such people exist.

You say 'most' of his past girlfriends: what were the other reasons ? This may be worth exploring.

It may be a good idea for your son to meet a woman who places intellectual and emotional intimacy ahead of physical intimacy. In this way his cock is simply part of who he is, it's not THE part. I have found that we can be quickly bored with a body part, no matter how great it is, but a good mind has a much more enduring attraction. It has been said,"Show me a beautiful woman without a good mind and I'll show you a man that's tired of fucking her."

I was at a house party once. There was this nifty guy and he was 'small' from a technical perspective. Yes, it did bother him and he told me so. I went down on him, made him cum, gulped him down. After I smiled and said,"Gee. That cock came just as good as any other in the house." He was so happy with this new perspective, we fucked liked mad minks in March, and he had his fair share of other women that weekend too.

That being said, your son should also make certain he has a full set of sexual skills and technique. I have sometimes found that well hung men just let their cock do the work and are often, not always, absent in other skills.

Good luck.

[sweet_tna]

Is this what these girls have been telling your son, or is this why HE thinks they've left him? Either way, your son needs to work on his self confidence. He needs to realize that it doesn't matter what size his penis is if he lacks confidence.

He needs to learn to like himself for who and what he is, and be comfortable enough with that to be himself. THAT is what will get and keep the girls.

I hope he is able to talk to someone that can help him see his way through this.

=)

[N8ture Girl]

The above posters said it well. Sounds like a self confidence issue. It seems that women generally are the ones seeking sugery to fix things that they dont like about themselves in order to feel better about themselves. Only to find something else later and in reality are never happy. Men can have these same feelings as well. If in fact he is feeling unhappy with his manhood then he should talk to someone. I would like to know the real reason his girlfiends are leaving him, but we may never know that.
So based on the OP, a serious talk with a professional would be the wise thing to do. He can change his appearance down there all he wants but untill he is truely happy self confidence wise he will never be happy. You can't buy self confidence.

Lastly, big, small it does not matter. While I have never had a truely "big" one I have had ones on the small size and one gentleman did NOT know how to work it, but the other mmmmmm he surely did and from what I hear being "big" isnt all its cracked up to be....

Best of luck to your son.

[knb2004]

I think there's been some good advice so far, but...

We have to consider the possibility that his cock is in fact abnormally small. Self-confidence is of course sexy, be it for women or men, and as I am not a woman I have no experience or opinion on the eternal question of does size really matter. As we frequent nude beaches on a fairly regular basis, it's safe to say I've seen thousands of cocks through the years, and some of them are abnormally small. I saw one gentleman whose pubes were longer than the cock, and his pubes were normal, and one on a webcam once that appeared to protrude from his body a mere fraction of an inch. That was almost creepy.

That said, obviously without inquiring or inspecting said cock, nobody here can judge if it falls into that category, but if it does surgical enhancement may be a reasonable option. I don't actually know if they have such a surgery, but can only hypothesize that if they can create one from scratch for gender reassignments, they can enlarge an existing one.

[billygoat4u]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

Is this what these girls have been telling your son, or is this why HE thinks they've left him? Either way, your son needs to work on his self confidence. He needs to realize that it doesn't matter what size his penis is if he lacks confidence.

He needs to learn to like himself for who and what he is, and be comfortable enough with that to be himself. THAT is what will get and keep the girls.

I hope he is able to talk to someone that can help him see his way through this.

=)

These are things his ex girl friends have said..

Do agree he needs to talk to a thyrapist (sp) about this rather than us.

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by billygoat4u

These are things his ex girl friends have said..

Do agree he needs to talk to a thyrapist (sp) about this rather than us.

Hmm, I have to wonder what kind of girls he's dating that would break up with a guy over his penis size. That's something else for the therapist to help him with.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by billygoat4u

These are things his ex girl friends have said..

Do agree he needs to talk to a thyrapist (sp) about this rather than us.

Before you tell him he needs to talk to a therapist, think more about what you can offer him as a parent. Telling him to get counseling without offering more discussion with him first, could cause him to think he's got a much greater problem than he may have. It can be easiest to push someone off by suggesting a counselor - and he made need one - but I'd hate to see you put a wall up between you and your son that could keep him from coming to you in the future when he'd like to talk to dad. He has come to you about this very sensitive subject and that had to take courage. Be there for him is all I'm saying.

How old is your son?

I think that is pertinent to this discussion.

Does he live at home?

You need to ask him how big his cock is. Really, this needs to be known. Your son may be way off base with his thinking. Discuss penis sizes with him. Who knows what kind of ideas he's got going through his head about size unless you discuss this with him. The "average" cock when fully aroused has been said to be about 5"-5.5" - if I'm wrong correct me, somebody.

It would be a mistake to presume your son is enlightened about the male anatomy. If you don't feel you have the answers to his questions, learn together, check out the many resources on the internet for information that could benefit you and your son.

Since he is considering surgical enhancement, you don't want him doing something stupid that he will regret for the rest of his life. There are people who prey on men like your son, men who feel desperate.

First, sit down with your son and have a long talk.

LM

[slevin]

Definitely find out how big his cock actually is. This could be purely a perception issue; these days many guys think if their cock isn't 9" that it's too small.

Also, it is best to not actually listen to things that women tell you when they're breaking up with you. Not very often will you hear the truth about why she is breaking up with you. More often than not she will either be lying to save your feelings, or lying to hurt your feelings. I know that won't help your son feel better about it, but it's an important thing to think of while helping him work through it. As a strong male role model you are very well placed to help him work through this and I hope that you are proud that he was comfortable enough to come to you both during a difficult time like this. Be there for him, help him work through his self esteem issues and try to help him find others to talk to about it. Not just a professional, though that is important, but also other strong male role models in his life. People he's comfortable opening up to about this, if they are available. If not, continue to be that person for him.

[JM153]

While there are Doctors who will perform cock enlargement surgeries most will not because it usually does so much damage to the nerves and blood vessels that the cock ends up being useless. Tell him to be very careful and I concur with everything others have said.

[CXXC]

I would suggest three things before considering augmentation of ANY FORM!

1. No matter the size, a man who possesses specific talents, patients and knowledge of the female body, coupled with self confidence and charm will walk away from the bedroom leaving a very satisfied woman staring after him longingly. He needs to build his self esteem, self worth, confidence and personality to benefit him.

2. The only real way to increase his penis size is by losing weight. If he has some extra padding, getting rid of that will make a difference.

3. One can increase the appearance of length by shaving or closely trimming the pubic hair around the penis.

What amazes me is that your son has found women who could actually be honest enough to state that he was physically inadequate. This also begs to question, how poorly did the relationships end? How old is your son? Is he an asshole? Is he a nice guy?

The fact that he has had past girlfriends (Note the inflection on the plural) comment to him about his "smallness" just baffles me. Most women would rather swallow a living killer bee than admit to their mates that size does matter.

Then again, perhaps your son has been dating women who have had 6-7 children back to back. If that is the case, tell him to use his leg next time.

[Dave_kat]

Things sure are different from when we grew up.

If this is truly the case, and his penis is average or a bit smaller, then he simply needs to gain skills and confidence. Heck, we'd almost suggest building an abstinent relationship before going to a sexual one, as it would help strengthen the relationship prior to the "unveiling."

But then we can also see how rough a conversation that might be. There are things you just do not want to know about your child, and this probably has to top the list.

He definitely needs to see a doctor/psychiatrist. They both could provide prescriptions for enzyte (does anyone know if the stuff works?) or make some reccomendations. Still, he needs to gain some confidence when dealing with the ladies, and they can help with that as well.

And CXXC, why does it have to be his leg and not his arm?

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Dave_kat

They both could provide prescriptions for enzyte (does anyone know if the stuff works?)

Enzyte is snake oil in a convenient pill form.

Citation

[Dave_kat]

You know, that article is dated 2008.. If it's that bogus, why are ads still out there?

Thanks though for the heads up, guess I won't be using that anytime soon.