When it rains, it pours (from Whiner, Moaners and Groaners)

[VanHlebar]

Ok so I know the saying "The good Lord only give us as much as he knows we can handle" but there is another one that I have seen around that say "I know the good Lord only gives us as much as he knows we can handle, I just wish he just didn't have as much faith in me!"

I am not sure how much more our family needs to take on. MrsVan was laid off almost a year ago, I lost my job in April, we have had a host of "minor" medical issues this past year or so and then today the bomb got dropped. MrsVan's closest sister was diagnosed this weekend with Stage 4 spinal cancer. We have been told there isn't much that can be done, maybe some radiology, but not to be too hopeful as it doesn't look very good.

I just wish the good Lord would find another family to show faith in for a little while.

Ok, sorry to vent, it has been a rough morning...off my soap box

[sweet_tna]

I'm so, so sorry to hear that, Van. Thoughts and prayers for you, Mrs. Van and family.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Ok so I know the saying "The good Lord only give us as much as he knows we can handle" but there is another one that I have seen around that say "I know the good Lord only gives us as much as he knows we can handle, I just wish he just didn't have as much faith in me!"

I am not sure how much more our family needs to take on. MrsVan was laid off almost a year ago, I lost my job in April, we have had a host of "minor" medical issues this past year or so and then today the bomb got dropped. MrsVan's closest sister was diagnosed this weekend with Stage 4 spinal cancer. We have been told there isn't much that can be done, maybe some radiology, but not to be too hopeful as it doesn't look very good.

I just wish the good Lord would find another family to show faith in for a little while.

Ok, sorry to vent, it has been a rough morning...off my soap box

Really sorry to hear that. I've got good thoughts going out for you guys that things will turn around very soon.

[cplnuswing]

It seems like bad luck, bad timing, and bad news all go hand in hand and sometimes conspire to make life as tough as it can possibly be. Just when you are dealing with one bad thing, then something exponentially worse comes along to go with it. We'll be thinking of you guys and hoping that good things soon come your way.

[VanHlebar]

Thanks all for the well wishes. Wish I had better news but unfortunately it only gets worse. We where originally told she had about a year to live, but then the oncologist came in and she has only a matter of weeks! We just came back up to the hospital so that MrsVan can be with her mom and sister until they send her home.

On top of that one of my cousins was in an accident last week, although her and her two young kids survived, her grandmother did not. Really I think we have enough on our plate right now.

Please keep MrsVan and her sister in your thoughts and prayers. it really needs to get better soon!

Again, sorry to vent...

-Van

[Additude]

Van,

Be strong brotha....

The weight of these issues and how you cope with them will build the structure of your future.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Please keep MrsVan and her sister in your thoughts and prayers.

We can do that Van, we truly will.....

[The Fuse]

Expressing my well-wishes in this venue seems like it's trivializing your problems. But regardless of the medium, please know that I am thinking of you and your family. Please tell Mrs. Van the same. I know you two love each other very much and that will help you both have strength and comfort each other at a time like this.

[LFM2]

Van, just read this and my please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and Mrs. Van, with her family and also her sister's physicians. There are never adequate words to convey what we really want to say here, but remember that you can vent or just talk here anytime.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Ok so I know the saying "The good Lord only give us as much as he knows we can handle" but there is another one that I have seen around that say "I know the good Lord only gives us as much as he knows we can handle, I just wish he just didn't have as much faith in me!"

I am not sure how much more our family needs to take on. MrsVan was laid off almost a year ago, I lost my job in April, we have had a host of "minor" medical issues this past year or so and then today the bomb got dropped. MrsVan's closest sister was diagnosed this weekend with Stage 4 spinal cancer. We have been told there isn't much that can be done, maybe some radiology, but not to be too hopeful as it doesn't look very good.

I just wish the good Lord would find another family to show faith in for a little while.

Ok, sorry to vent, it has been a rough morning...off my soap box

I'm so sorry to hear that, Van. I have a bunch of books about how to cope with cancer. If you need them, let me know and they'll be in the mail.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Thanks all for the well wishes. Wish I had better news but unfortunately it only gets worse. We where originally told she had about a year to live, but then the oncologist came in and she has only a matter of weeks!

Again, sorry to vent...

-Van

Mrs. Alura was given three days to three weeks March 1st, 2006. Van. She not only lived almost three more years but had quality time as well. The truth is that nobody except Mother Earth and Father Sky has any idea when life will end.

Hang in there!

Mr. Alura

Okay!! So as MrVan posted you all know the things were are dealing with in our home life these days..The biggest one on my mind right now is my sister as she was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in the spinal fluid last Monday and has only been given 4 weeks at that time to live.

So as the weeks go by, I am trying to find peace within myself about what is going on with her and making sure I spend enough time with her during the last weeks of her life so that I do not live my life regretting not doing something that I should have. So yesterday, I took my girls to see my sister as my sister from SC was coming in to visit with my sister who is sick and I wanted to be there when she went to visit.

Today, I took MrVan and my stepchildren with me to visit with my sister and I have to say I was frustrated after leaving the nursing home. My sister has a "friend" that she met at her old nursing home in which she became friends with. I wouldn't even consider her a friend but an acquaintance of my sisters as I do not think she knows my sister well. But this lady has no respect for the family. She has been there everyday that I have been there and does not politely excuse herself from the room so family can visit when they arrive. It takes me a half hour to get to the nursing home and this friend is only 10 mins away at best. Therefore, when I would ask my sister a question she would answer them for her. MrVan and my stepchildren did not get to really spend any good time with my sister because this lady would not leave. I would hope that as an adult you would understand that family comes first and that maybe when family shows up that they want to spend time with their family member when they come to visit ALONE!

So after we left (a half hour after getting there) I called to vent to my mom after talking to MrVan and guess I am going to have to tell a grown adult to please leave the room so I can have some time alone with my sister when I visit. But I shouldnt have to do this!!! Come on!!!

I hate when people are so rude and inconsiderate of other people and the situations around them.

Am I the one being inconsiderate or do you all agree with me? I mean if it was my friend sitting in that bed and family walked in, I would politely say " I am gonna go so you can spend time with your family. I will come back later to visit more".

Sorry for the long post, just had to vent!!! So I can enjoy the rest of my day!!!

MrsVan

[sweet_tna]

MrsVan, I'd already have asked that woman to leave. If she was ANY kind of friend to your sister, she'd bugger off and give your sister time with her family.

I hope she's either not there the next time ya'll visit, or gets a clue-by-four.

Hugs,

Sweet

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

MrsVan, I'd already have asked that woman to leave. If she was ANY kind of friend to your sister, she'd bugger off and give your sister time with her family.

I hope she's either not there the next time ya'll visit, or gets a clue-by-four.

Hugs,

Sweet

Well, I am not one to say how I feel to people but next time if she is there she will be told how I feel in the most polite way possible. I understand she wants to be there for my sister and I do not have a problem with her being there..Just as long as when family arrives she excuses herself and allows us all the time with her alone.

Thanks Sweet!!

MrsVan

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Well, I am not one to say how I feel to people but next time if she is there she will be told how I feel in the most polite way possible. I understand she wants to be there for my sister and I do not have a problem with her being there..Just as long as when family arrives she excuses herself and allows us all the time with her alone.

Thanks Sweet!!

MrsVan

Give me her phone number. I'll call her and tell her for you!