"Anything at All"

[Alura]

Dear friends,

As many of y'all know, I lost Mrs. Alura to breast cancer last month. I've been dealing with it quite well, I think, although I've lost 14 of 134 pounds from my 5'3" body. (I gained a pound back yesterday.)

Since her death, I've had three women, (all local friends of Laura, none from this board, none (so far as I know) swingers or even aware of Mrs. Alura's and my hobby) come to visit, express their condolences and say, "If you need anything, anything at all, just call me."

Now, I'll be the first to admit that the offer is probably innocent, with no thoughts of sex in mind. Therefore, I've replied, "I can't think of anything, Betty Louise," although "Well, I could use some pussy." has entered my mind.

I really don't have any unfulfilled needs, including sex, so I have no plans to attempt to take up any such offers, (should they indeed exist) even though Laura, shortly before her death, told me I should feel free to do so. This thread is being posted mainly because I'm curious about the female mind.

Here's my question:

How likely do you think such an unlimited offer would be made without sex in mind? If you are a woman, would you make such an offer, without thinking of sex at all? If you are a man, how would you react to such an offer? If you are neither, why are you on the Swingers Board?

Mr. Alura

[JustMrJ]

First I'd like to say I was away and was unaware of your loss. Both my wife and I give you a great big *HUG* and our condolences for your loss.

Being the male half, I can't honestly say what I would do if MrsJ ever dies before me.

Looking back at my single days, I would most definitely be thinking of getting to know these women better, especially if I were physically attracted to them.

You have Laura's blessing... keep her memory with you always and respect her wishes not to hinder your life.

*HUGS* again...

[IvoryTowers]

As a woman, I think the offers are made without any suggestion of sexuality. The "anything at all" is a typical feminine modifier to indicate the speaker's willingness to be helpful. They are probably thinking of tasks you might be embarrassed to ask about, like cleaning up, or getting rid of your wife's things (when you are ready).

I very much doubt they were offering sex unless there had been something between you before.

[fordman460]

I too would like to offer my belated condolences and prayers. Im glad you are doing well though. I have no idea about your question though.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Alura

If you are a man, how would you react to such an offer?

The Man Side™ of me would quickly think "Anything? Hmmmmmm".

In the end, I would assume it was the offer of assistance that anyone of my good friends, male or female, would make.

Now, if the same offer was made six or eight months down the line, I'd be pretty tempted to inquire about what might be included in the "Anything at All Package".

[SW_PA_Couple]

Take care, Mr. Alura. A woman might take advantage of a man who is in a delicate state of mind.

~M

[turnuptheheat]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Take care, Mr. Alura. A woman might take advantage of a man who is in a delicate state of mind.

~M

He can only hope!
I think it is all innocent though Al.
Figure of speech without double entedre IMO.
Still, genuine concern for you and your's from them.

[Alura]

That was one weird double post! How'd that happen???

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by JustMrJ

First I'd like to say I was away and was unaware of your loss. Both my wife and I give you a great big *HUG* and our condolences for your loss.

Being the male half, I can't honestly say what I would do if MrsJ ever dies before me.

Looking back at my single days, I would most definitely be thinking of getting to know these women better, especially if I were physically attracted to them.

You have Laura's blessing... keep her memory with you always and respect her wishes not to hinder your life.

*HUGS* again...

Thanks for the kind thoughts, Mr. J. I'm having trouble thinking of myself as "single." I'm not saying I'd turn down sex if the right woman made the offer, but I really am not looking yet. I don't know if I ever will be.

This morning, my brother, a graveyard shift worker, went to an Irish pub with some coworkers where he met a group of nurses who'd also just gotten off work. He called and invited me to come meet everybody. I just couldn't scare up the interest.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by IvoryTowers

As a woman, I think the offers are made without any suggestion of sexuality. The "anything at all" is a typical feminine modifier to indicate the speaker's willingness to be helpful. They are probably thinking of tasks you might be embarrassed to ask about, like cleaning up, or getting rid of your wife's things (when you are ready).

I very much doubt they were offering sex unless there had been something between you before.

I think you're right, Ivory Towers. The fact is that two are neighbors and very married. The other one is single but not likely to have realized how her offer might be misconstrued, in my estimation.

Still...

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by fordman460

I too would like to offer my belated condolences and prayers. Im glad you are doing well though. I have no idea about your question though.

Thank you, Fordman. You can join my group who have no idea.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

The Man Side™ of me would quickly think "Anything? Hmmmmmm".

In the end, I would assume it was the offer of assistance that anyone of my good friends, male or female, would make.

Now, if the same offer was made six or eight months down the line, I'd be pretty tempted to inquire about what might be included in the "Anything at All Package".

That makes sense, Two4youinswva. I doubt I'll have the guts then, either.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Take care, Mr. Alura. A woman might take advantage of a man who is in a delicate state of mind.

~M

Yes, M... There's that to hope for...

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by turnuptheheat

He can only hope!
I think it is all innocent though Al.
Figure of speech without double entedre IMO.
Still, genuine concern for you and your's from them.

I'm sure this is a very accurate assessment, Turnuptheheat, knowing these ladies as well as I do.

Really, I'm just surprised that all three worded the remarks almost exactly the same way and none seems to have realized the trouble she might have been talking herself into.

Discretion being "the better part of valor," I was careful to contain my grin.

Mr. Alura

[almostnewbies]

I am genuinely sorry to hear of your loss. Being in your shoes a few years ago I can tell you that their offers of seemingly unlimited assistance were merely their way of expressing their condolences in a generous manner for a helpless situation. Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear.

I would reconsider their offers after some time has gone by and they continue to flirt with you though...then it's game on

Take care of yourself...feel free to PM me

T
(She's T, He's R)