Unknown Body Language / Facial Expressions

[ownerspet]

I'm slightly more of a people watcher in social settings than others, however I have often found myself in situations where I'm enjoying myself, but people have actually asked me, are you ok? are you having fun? are you having a good time? Someone recently pointed out to me that I looked let's say less than content or happy at the moment in a lifestyle club. So here is the issue, I believe I have facial expressions or body language that must portray that I'm either bored, unhappy, irritated, etc... something besides me being happy or content in the moment.

Has anyone ever encountered something similar, and if so did you overcome it or how did you over come it?

[BiloxiCouple]

Had that before with the body language. Got to try and smile, even if it is small. Direct eye contact. Unfold the arms or keep them in a positive position. Shoulders up and back. Just some ideas. Hope they help.

[sexcupid]

I had my ex-husband tell me the same thing when we were at a strip club. I don't quite know what the look on my face was or what...but I really was having a good time and people watching. I don't know...maybe he was expecting me to shove one of the girls off the stage and have a go at it myself? Who knows...but I've never had anyone say something like that since him.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by ownerspet

I'm slightly more of a people watcher in social settings than others, however I have often found myself in situations where I'm enjoying myself, but people have actually asked me, are you ok? are you having fun? are you having a good time? Someone recently pointed out to me that I looked let's say less than content or happy at the moment in a lifestyle club. So here is the issue, I believe I have facial expressions or body language that must portray that I'm either bored, unhappy, irritated, etc... something besides me being happy or content in the moment.

Has anyone ever encountered something similar, and if so did you overcome it or how did you over come it?

He really does. It's not just in swinger situations but in general. Sometimes I think he's off in a different world (and in that world he may be enjoying himself) but you'd never know it from the look on his face.

[LikeMinds321]

Oh man, this is so up my alley!

I deal with this all the time, mainly from my side, and because of knowing myself I wonder how many people I'm looking at who I may be reading incorrectly.

I find that if I'm the least bit tired (or drained from alcohol...and at times it may only take a couple mixed drinks to do this to me) my face falls flat. This isn't because I'm unhappy, it's just what happens. Forcing a smile on my face and "opening" my eyes a bit more becomes a conscious effort if I want to look approachable. If I don't do this I know I'm a sad sack to look at.

I've tested my facial expression when I'm by myself, around home working, and I'll decide to take a glance in the mirror. At the time of the "test" I feel just fine, relaxed, happy, and I've usually been focused on working. Gawd! What a horrible face in the mirror!

Part of this is due to my age, when you get to be my age you have to be particularly vigulant about keeping that certain feel of a pleasant and open expression on your face...unless you are fortunate to have a face that always looks good.

I have seen people of all ages out in public and they look down, then a clerk will approach them, the person I've been observing smiles, and WOW they look so different. I realize that many people are very happy, warm, and approachable, but their face doesn't always project that if they don't "put on a happy face."

After being out for hours at a club or vanilla bar I have often returned home with a sore face, all due to holding an expression all night that better expresses me, rather than allowing my facial muscles to fall where thay may and having people think I'm tired, unhappy, or unfriendly when this isn't the case at all.

LM

[Chris&Amelia]

Sometimes, when I focus in on something, I apparently get a "zoned" or "drugged out" look on my face (or so I've been told).

Other times I apparently have a look that I'm mad at something. I've had people ask me "What's wrong? Why are you mad?" when I'm perfectly okay... but it's usually when I have several things multi-tasking in the back of my mind.

[ownerspet]

Thanks for the quick responses with the input from everyone: I really thought it was just me for a while that had this odd experience with what I will refer to as unintentional facial expressions that misportray my true emotions at that moment in time.

You know like minds, I believe that this is probably what happens even though I can't see my face. I really think this is what it (my face) does. It just falls flat, and from reactions or questions I've received, I either A and misread as being ticked off, bored, or confused.

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

my face falls flat.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by ownerspet

Thanks for the quick responses with the input from everyone: I really thought it was just me for a while that had this odd experience with what I will refer to as unintentional facial expressions that misportray my true emotions at that moment in time.

You know like minds, I believe that this is probably what happens even though I can't see my face. I really think this is what it (my face) does. It just falls flat, and from reactions or questions I've received, I either A and misread as being ticked off, bored, or confused.

Maybe you should try LM's practice of looking at yourself in the mirror occasionally when you are working and see what looks back. Or practicing your expressions in a mirror in general.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

Sometimes, when I focus in on something, I apparently get a "zoned" or "drugged out" look on my face (or so I've been told).

Other times I apparently have a look that I'm mad at something. I've had people ask me "What's wrong? Why are you mad?" when I'm perfectly okay... but it's usually when I have several things multi-tasking in the back of my mind.

Have you done anything to make an effort to "fix" this issue?

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Have you done anything to make an effort to "fix" this issue?

Can't say I have. I honestly never considered it a problem, as I "snap out" of it when it's brought to my attention. And it's not a common occurrence to begin with.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by ownerspet

Thanks for the quick responses with the input from everyone: I really thought it was just me for a while that had this odd experience with what I will refer to as unintentional facial expressions that misportray my true emotions at that moment in time.

You know like minds, I believe that this is probably what happens even though I can't see my face. I really think this is what it (my face) does. It just falls flat, and from reactions or questions I've received, I either A and misread as being ticked off, bored, or confused.

I don't know...if people really look close at you they will see that you have this quirky little smirk on you face (it really is a cute little smirk ). It always seems to me that you're secretly amused at something. Of course, I've probably been one of those in the past that have asked you if you were okay.

Maybe just widening that smirk into a smile when people look at you or a wink at the looker, would keep the questions at bay.


Teresa

[fun4Ds]

I just wanted to add myself to the list of people who are misread. Sometimes like others, I get asked whats wrong. It is the same for me. I may be distracted or focused on a few other thinks in my mind. When asked whats wrong or are you O.K. ? I usually just explain that I was thinking of something els and smile. Then I try to make a connection with whomever misread me and get involved with some conversation.

[Bama0468]

this helps me !! I too am a watcher, I do smile and say howdy, but I am soft spoken but I don't have a problem gettin lucky!

[jnbsmokin]

My problem is my mask. I hide my emotions to the point J can't read me at all if he isn't able to see my eyes. I'm fairly good at it, but I do it so much that I don't realise others are wondering what is going on with me. It's almost an unintentional habit? I guess you could say. I do that when I am really listening to someone too. I hear, "a penny for your thoughts?" a lot..... lol