At what point are you comfortable Exchanging Phone Numbers

[Elusive BiFem]

When your communications with potential swing partners has reached the point of planning to meet for coffee, dinner, drinks, or play...do you feel comfortable exchanging phone or cell phone numbers?

If yes, what do you look for in your e-mail communication that allows that comfort level?

If no, why not?

Do you feel that the exchange of numbers indicates a more serious intent to actually meet?

Would you meet someone not willing to exchange phone numbers?

Just wondering...............-EBF

[windsor4fun]

I have no problem giving out my cell number, to just about anyone..... whould you like it here?

But the home number...that's another ballgame completely. My kids might answer that phone, wackos can easily find my address from my phone number (of course wackos already KNOW the address, they live here ), besides, I'm not home enough to use that number anyway.

[fun_pairTX]

We usually give out my cell number (hubby's) initially. After we have met someone and know things are cool, we exchange home phone numbers. If we were to go to meet another couple for the first time Mrs wouldn't leave home without a phone number of some sort. I don't think I would either.

[Elusive BiFem]

I'm the same, Windsor - I don't give out my home #, but don't hesitate to give out my cell #. In fact, if it wasn't for computer lines, I wouldn't even need a home number.

And by the way, for those interested. Did you know that you can enter a phone number (not cell) into the google search bar and it will give you the name/address for that number? When I did it with my number, up popped my name and address!! There is a place on there where you can remove it. I did. I don't think it works for unlisted numbers. -EBF

[bear_n_bunny]

Yep, you can remove that google listing but that's how I check my Christmas Card addresses now. It freaks people out that I can tell them where they live by just knowing their name and city.

Regarding the topic at hand, Bear got a cell phone just for this purpose. The email just doesn't work when you are trying to hook up some days.

-- Bunny

[jen]

Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
It freaks people out that I can tell them where they live by just knowing their name and city.
-- Bunny [/b]

Yeah, freaked out jen is on her way to google search to check on a few things, yikes!

[jen]

Just wow.

[JMR]

We give out our cell phone # only after we have had a few communications on the net or in preson if at a club, but we dont give out our home number til weve met with someone a couple times.

[thump29]

We have no problem giving out our cell phone number, but our home phone number is a different story. I want to meet the people and get to know them a little before we exchange home phone numbers. I do like to have a number for the people we are about to meet first but it is ok if they would rather wait and give it to us in person.

[Alura]

We only give our phone number to people we would like to talk to. We use our business phone which the kids don't normally answer. If we really find someone interesting we'll give them our toll-free number.

Alura

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by windsor4fun
I have no problem giving out my cell number, to just about anyone..... whould you like it here?

Hey, Windsor4fun, you may want to check out the thread:

"Shhhhhhh.....I'm Whispering"

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On a serious note, a very young neighbor of mine met a very well known ex-pro football player at the pool with a group of others over the 4th. Seems that he took a liking to her, and although she was nice, the liking part was not reciprocal, nor did she want to be associated with him or become one of his "groupies". She tried to be friendly in the group situation, but that was it. Suddenly, he's showing up at her door with the person that had introduced them. This went on for several days when suddenly, he called on her cell phone. She was stunned - wanting to know how he had gotten the number and his reply was that he "had connections." Given his public notoriety, I don't doubt he could get the number on the sly if he knew the provider and her name.

The story sounded a bit far out to me, although the part about him showing at her door is factual because I was present on 2 occasions when he knocked on the door, and on a third, I showed up at her pre-arranged request. I've known her for 4 years and really have no reason to doubt her. There could be more to the story than I've been told. He apparently got the idea - finally - as he hasn't been back or called lately.

Anyway...just something to think about. -EBF

[vevaycple]

We regularly give out our home number to couples we are getting ready to meet. We like to talk with them on the telephone because you can get a good feel for how they really are by talking with them. We have no children so that is not a factor. We just tried the Google search thing they were talking about. Pretty cool. Im sure there could be a few disadvantages to it,but it is a neat tool in locating your potential playmates.

[MattMann]

A good way to go about it is to get one of the pay as you go cell phones like Tracfone and just use it for swinger calls. They had a promotion last month where you could get a reconditioned phone and 60 days of service (60 minutes local talktime too) for $25. If you don't buy more airtime after the 60 days, you can still use the unused minutes but the phone number gets deactivated. You can reactivate it later on, but you get a different phone number.