Single Male - First MFM. Any tips or advice?

[Elusive BiFem]

Be natural, jrt...be yourself. Personally, I have found that when I am nervous about something (anything), I simply admit that rather than try to pretend otherwise. Amazingly, I've generally found that others were feeling much the same and were relieved to be able to admit their own nervousness which in turn, helps to quell everyone's nervousness and makes it something we call all laugh about.

And remember...you have as much to offer to them as they have to you. This can be a mutually beneficial relationship.

Viagra? Probably wouldn't hurt to take some along. And don't drink alcohol. It might affect your performance, but also, when we are nervous, we tend to overdo sometimes.

Enjoy! - EBF

Do any of you have an last minute advice???? Should i pack the viagra?? I mean she is such a beautiful woman i find myself looking at her pics often!! I really really want them to enjoy my company but this is new territory for me and well it's kinda scary. I have the inevitable performance anxiety etc.

YES by all means take the Viagra! If you have some take it with you. We are into the MFM thing and have found most of the guys who are new at this sort of thing have some level of performance anxiety (Read: cant get it up). Some mild some Severe. Just having the pill with you may help you perform simply because you know its there if you need it.

Everyone had given you real sound advice.

Take your time

Let them bring up sex first

Go with the flow

Dont forget you are the stunt cock not a replacement for the husband

Good luck and let us know how it goes.....

[jrt383]

Oh yes i KNOW i'm the guest and i will behave as such. I've had the conversation with the Mr. about how he's in charge and i take my cue's from him, but still just kinda that excited nervous kinda feeling ya know!!

You guy's have all been so kind to share with me i thank you all very much.....really! Please by all means continue with any comments or suggestions you may have. For some strange reason this is all reassuring to me.

T

but still just kinda that excited nervous kinda feeling ya know!!

We all feel that!! Its part of the draw to swinging.
I can assure you the couple you are going to meet feel the same way.

[jrt383]

Yes it is an exciting feeling i must admit!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was reading another post about what women like the best in a mmf and well i'm curious about one thing in particular. One poster proclaimed the joy of having her clit licked while being penetrated at the same time i assume in a 69 type position now question is i like the idea of it because of the pleasure it would seem to give to the F but the guy on the bottom doin the licking.......wouldn't his forehead become a ball rest so to speak??? This isn't a postion someone who isn't gay or bi would want to be in would it???

T

wouldn't his forehead become a ball rest so to speak??? This isn't a postion someone who isn't gay or bi would want to be in would it???

This where YOUR comfort level comes in. It is inevidable that some male to male contact is going to happen when in a MFM situation. Not in any bisexual manner but all three are in pretty tight quarters.
I think having my forehead become a ball rest would be a little too much closeness for me !!

Remember it is Okay for you to have your boudaries to.

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by jrt383

Yes it is an exciting feeling i must admit!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was reading another post about what women like the best in a mmf and well i'm curious about one thing in particular. One poster proclaimed the joy of having her clit licked while being penetrated at the same time i assume in a 69 type position now question is i like the idea of it because of the pleasure it would seem to give to the F but the guy on the bottom doin the licking.......wouldn't his forehead become a ball rest so to speak??? This isn't a postion someone who isn't gay or bi would want to be in would it???

T

This is a position worthy of a "high-Five" between you boys when you bring the woman to a screaming climax. If you play around with positions you'll find by contorting your bodies you can limit M/M contact somewhat. This type of accidental contact isn't considered gay or bi in the least.

But if you feel the least bit uncomfortable doing it- Don't. You're out to enjoy yourself and you can't enjoy yourself if you're uncomfortable. There a lots of other things the three of you could do where you wouldn't have accidental contact . Good Luck and have a great time!

[curiousagain]

I remember my first MFM, I was so nervous I couldn't breath. Would I accidently overstep boundries? What if she decided she didn't like the idea of having sex with me after all? What if they wanted me to do something I wasn't intending to do? etc. etc. etc.

It'll be cool. I think y'all have talked things out. Once things get going, you'll be too excited to be nervous.

Let us know!!
Curiousagain

[EternallySingle]

I remember my first MFM. I didn't even know it was going to happen. It wasn't with a couple, but two friends, one just happened to be female and horny that day (kept saying things like she just ended her period or her nipples were sore or she was so sensitive in her belly). Well, she didn't give us much time to think about things. One minute we were helping her back to her dorm room (how do you slip and fall on grass in the middle of the summer when you are WALKING barefoot), the next we are alternating between different...

Well, you know its going to happen, so relax and STOP THINKING ABOUT IT SO MUCH!!! Show up and go with the flow. If you let things happen, you won't be as nervous and won't step over any boundaries. You'll also have a lot more fun.

[jrt383]

You are correct eternally Single i'm gonna just chill out. I will be sure to post tommorrow how things went if you guy's would like for me too?

T

[Allison1973]

I am very female, but, if you a very cute guy and decent guy, let me speak on behalf of all straight women--YES!!! facelick

[xxoticangel]

I was reading another post about what women like the best in a mmf and well i'm curious about one thing in particular. One poster proclaimed the joy of having her clit licked while being penetrated at the same time i assume in a 69 type position now question is i like the idea of it because of the pleasure it would seem to give to the F but the guy on the bottom doin the licking.......wouldn't his forehead become a ball rest so to speak??? This isn't a postion someone who isn't gay or bi would want to be in would it???

That was us...Gay or bi has nothing to do with it. It was a good friend of mine that we had played with on several occasions. He and I are very comfortable with each other and we are not bothered by male/male contact. Our goal was to give Angel thirty mind blowing orgasms (one for each birthday) that night. We wanted her to be a quivering mass of female flesh when we were done. We have also done vaginal DP's and eaten cream pies. We don't think anything about it because we are concentrating on her pleasure.

Our goal was to give Angel thirty mind blowing orgasms (one for each birthday) that night. We wanted her to be a quivering mass of female flesh when we were done.

You have my attention....

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by Mr&Mrs-naughty

You have my attention....

Mine too!

[jrt383]

Hey guy's...............Well it happened!!!!! I must say it was the most erotic exp. I've had to date!! Everything went great they were very pleased with my behaviour and my performance ). I can see where with the right male a mmf for a married couple is a wonderful thing. I helped make her fantasy cum true and i can't tell you guy's how wonderfull that made me feel!!

If you haven't done it yet i suggest you do but pick the right guy 'cause i can tell you for sure that last night i coulda made the night or ruined it!!

T