What do the guys do in a MMF?

[MrsBliss]

One of my desires is to have MMF and my husband and I are talking about this a lot (also about the FMF but that doesn't pose a lot of questions).

Problems that we talked about are:
I would like to do it with a man I already know, my husband is in doubt about that and would rather do it with someone we only met for sex or sex/friendship.

I however think I would be more comfortable with someone I know and like.

My husband is a little bit scared about the fact that he is totally straight and does not want balls hanging in his face etc.

I would really like to read a scenario or something about MMF threesomes in which it becomes clear just how much the males would have to be touching eachother by accident.

Any thoughts on this subject?

Kiss!

[cpl4playmass]

Good question!

Well, The men spend alot of time on the woman! She gets to have lots of attention and hands and tongues and cock! Do the guys touch? To be honest once the focus ends up being the woman whether or not the men touch by accident seems to be a small issue. Unless the other man has expressed being bi, I wouldn't worry too much.

We personally will not swing with people that are in our circle of friends, co-workers, or family. It's too close and to make sure the relationship is based on the sex we meet people for strickly such fun. We've heard too many stories of meeting up with a single guy friend only to have him calling her and getting attached to the woman. Especially if he's single and has no woman in his life.

G&D

[windsor4fun2]

This is a hard question to answer with any specifics. Activity can vary widely from one man sitting watching while you play with the other, you giving head to one while the other takes you from behind, right up to double vaginal penetration.

Other than in Option A, there will inevitably be some incidental contact. Really no different than brushing past another man in a crowd. Well maybe a little different.

It comes down to - contact depends on what you do - what you do will depend on what you are comfortable doing.

If your husband doesn't want "balls hanging in his " it just means he won't be eating you out while the other man takes you from behind. Whatever he is comfortable with!

Keep discussing thing, figure out your comfort levels and go with that. Start off slow and move forward from there.

In all likelihood he will be so involved with everything that is going on that he doesn't even notice whether theres been any contact or not. I know I don't.

Jesse

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by cpl4playmass
We personally will not swing with people that are in our circle of friends, co-workers, or family. It's too close and to make sure the relationship is based on the sex we meet people for strickly such fun. We've heard too many stories of meeting up with a single guy friend only to have him calling her and getting attached to the woman. Especially if he's single and has no woman in his life.

We've never entered into an MFM, but this is the way we'd lean if we were going to play with a single man. There are plenty of people here who've made swinging with a friend work, but given the potential downside, we'd advocate finding someone new to play with.

[fun_pairTX]

We occasionally FMF and FMF and when we do we only participate with people that are well out of our circle. Doing this can avoid MANY kinds of problems later on.

[SluttyWife]

It takes a very special man to get into a really good MMF. <sighs>
If either of them are at all squeamish about having any sort of contact, particularly accidental (which I assure you is inevitable) it sounds like he may not get any enjoyment out of this
Multiply this by 10 if they are both this way.

Their balls will not only be in the others face..they will be bumping on each other if you get into a DP and there's really no way to not going where the other cock has been previously.
Then there is the cum factor!

My dear, you need at least two men with a "let's pleasure the wife all we can" mentality to pull this off....if that is their real motivation...they will be randy as hell and will not take a care to any of it...and all of you will all have a splendid time indeed!

To answer your most obvious question about what the guys do in an MMF...they poke you, prod you and ply you with pleasure in every way they can think of. <sighs>

My kind of play, btw.

;-*

[CindyB]

Contact can "not exist" if you do not want it to. Yes, usually by being with one man at a time. Or you can arrange to give one oral sex while having intercourse with the other in such a way that they don't touch. It isn't that difficult.

The issue of sperm though is one you'll have to think through. If you are going "bare back" as we always did, one man is going to have to fearlessly go where another man has gone before. It was not big deal in our case. For some reason that almost didn't seem like "contact" to the guys as long as they were just touching each other's sperm with their cocks. But there was no way either of them were going to intentionally touch the others ejaculate in any other way if they didn't have to. When it was inside of my pussy they just plunged in and used it as lubricant. They seemed quite happy to do so. I think they just wanted to get laid badly enough that they enjoyed seeing the other with me and the residue of my first guy was coincidental to the next one.

[JnM_Pgh]

Our rule so far has been to rule out friends or people we know. We also don't play at home...only out of town of a motel on the other side of town. We have met a couple really nice guys on the net. We chatted back and forth a bit and got a "feel" for them. Next step has been meeting publicly and then we all decide.

As far as what I do when there's another guy. I usually watch quite a bit. ( She looks so good in the thro's of orgasm!) I like to take a few pics also if the guy premits that. I also join in the fun. I'm not bi but I'm not afraid of incidental contact with the guy. There's lots to take care of when the other guy is busy with one area. She loves to have her nipples stimulated when she's having oral on her or intercourse, so we can alternate them. I love to perform oral on her as she goes down on him. I get to give her great pleasure while I get the pleasure of watching. As far as cum. We make sure we have plenty of towels and she will also take a break and wash off if things get too messy.

MMF is noth of our favorite ways to swing. We tried couples in the past and it was really great. MMF just does it more for both of us. I would love to try MMMF!!

[CindyB]

Ohhhh. JnM_Pgh is getting adventerous! "Incidental contact" makes it sound like a football game. You know, hey, it's sex. It's suppose to be messy. If it isn't messy, SOMEBODY isn't having fun. So we just didn't worry about the mess. That is why there are towels and washing machines. And face it, if you are going to allow your wife to take another penis inside of her, either orally or vaginally, you had better be aware that you are going to at least SEE another man. And unless you turn celibate you will have to, at the very least, touch what the other guys has had his cock in. It goes with the territory.

[MrYaWanna]

When I was a single guy I had fun with couples being the 2nd guy(stunt cock). The best solution to your husband's worries about touching the other man is, as always in swinging, communication. One couple made it very clear they did not want that so I made sure it didn't happen. Other couples wanted something inbetween right up to some MM stuff. Personally once everyone is naked and playing I don't worry about it. Sex is Sex and as long as everyone knows the limits of the others we can all have fun.

So in your case just talk about it with the prospective stunt cock.

As others have said, swinging is always less complicated if you keep it out of family and friends. Not that it can't be done, just simpler.

Have fun!!

[CindyB]

(sigh) i don't think i'll go there again. it worked for us. might not for you. we never, ever would have turned the sheets down for another man had it not been the man it was ... my bro-in-law. i guess ours is just a uniquely close relationship. my husband and his brother barely even shake hands. they love each other immensly in that "wave across the room" kind of way. thank God. too weird to imagine. but they very much enjoyed what we did ... it launched me into orbit on multiple nights ... 'nuff said.

[Spoomonkey]

I'm in no way bi - but everyone so far is right. To fully give the wife the MMF experience, you have to be willing to ignore a little brush now and then. The closest I've ever gotten with another guy was when Mrs Spoomonkey wanted to try a double oral on the two of us. In a MMF, even the husband needs to be willing to play "stunt cock" if need be.

I like playing with couples who understand that a brush is not a "signal."

Besides, quite a bit of swinging is "sexual theatre", really. You have to know your part and play it well. Now - if I could just get cast as "handsome leading man" I'd be happy

Spoomonkey

[CindyB]

Yeah, but this whole "stunt cock" thing throws me! I think everything they do is a stunt. I mean, they make me smile, they fascinate me, they get my attention. Now if I could just find one that was double-jointed...

[Mr. Bliss]

Hi,

as you can see from my name I'm the husband of mrsBliss.


Inviting a friend for MMF action, is something I have a problem with at this point.
Reason's:
I don't think i'm comfortable with the fact that my wife and him would have contact (phone etc.) with eachother after we all had sex together.

If something goes wrong is't easier to cut the ties with a new "friend" then with a existing one. If a guy for some reason freaks me out I can tell my wife I don't want him around anymore, but with a friend it's more difficult. If i'm not comfortable with him and he calls my wife for something else, I would sound very unreasonable when I would say that I don't want her talking to him.

I would obviously rather avoid the MMF situation with a friend.

Regarding the physical contact of two males in a MMF:
I get really turned on when seeing or reading about two males with a female. Even the more close DP or two dicks in her mouth is hot! But I really can't say how I would feel when this would happen. I think being horny would be my dominant feeling, but I can't garantee this.


I have some levels of touching in my mind which I'm Ok with, some levels which I don't know for sure and some which I wouldn't do.

1. Legs etc. touching eachother while pleasuring MrsBliss = OK
2. DP (with the possibility of balls slapping eachother = probably OK
3. Sucking both our dicks at once = probably ok
4. me going down on her while he penetrates = not OK
5. His cum in her pussy(won't happen, safe sex remember?)

[MrsBliss]

I love him!!!