Thinking I want MFM...How do I ask?

[jamther]

Oh yeah.....I forgot to mention.....Hubby was very impressed with my choice of a "friend". Well-spoken, handsome, smart, clean and very open and understanding. Did he really expect any different??? I picked him to marry after all...my taste has standards!!!

And it's now 6:30 and I'm still waiting......even if it doesn't happen tonight, at least we get a good nights sleep after a great lay with each other. And the knowledge that this will almost definately happen.

Updates to follow...............

[JDApopka]

any more updates on this.

[ShellyM]

Go on girl, with your BAD self!!

[jamther]

And to think I didn't post anymore thinking this was old news!!! How exciting to have a following.....!

So....where were we???......Well, we never ended up hearing from our "man" on that fateful Saturday night. Which in all honesty was fine with us. We were so tired from the night before that we were in bed and asleep by nine. And the fact that he called at 2 o'clock as promised was all I needed.

So fast forward to Wednesday night (Thanksgiving Eve). We plan to go out as ourselves....husband and wife. I was really needing to just be the trophy wife for the night. I was not in the "gaming" mood. Anyhow, we ended up with 4 other couples planning to meet us also. All friends of ours so it was great. We danced, drank, and had an awesome time. Hubby was very turned on by my dancing and the fact that I had many "admirers" sharing my dance space......hmmm....it was great. I LOVED flirting around with these "boys" and then looking over my shoulder to see Hubby completely in awe. I was his and he was loving this.....it was a HUGE turn-on!

So....in between songs, hubby whispered "Go to the car and call "him"". I was totally against this due to the fact that we were with other people and I was not expecting to play....but that didn't last long. Once I get the "itch" implanted in my head, it doesn't take long for me to have to "scratch" it.

So, inconspicuously, I headed to our car to make the call. Unfortunately I got his voicemail twice. Oh-well.....for all I knew he could have been out of town for the holiday. No skin off our backs, we were still having a blast. But admittedly so, I was watching the door everytime it opened. A girl has to have a goal.......

So we enjoyed the rest of the night. I was eating up the attention......

Interrupt for a little relevant background on me, we have had three children in six years. That also includes two miscarriages. So with basic math, I have been pregnant and/or breastfeeding FOREVER in seems. To top it off, all this baby making had left me 35 lbs heavier then I had ever been. Over the last few months, I have shed that 35 lbs plus some and am back into my pre-marriage body. I know this sounds strange to mention but I wanted you all to understand the big deal this attention is. I was always able to "catch an eye". But obviously, my "Mommy" status put that on the back burner. To now have it back again is fabulous! It has done wonders for my confidence. And for my sex-drive.

Ok.....my soap box is done......anyway, hubby and I leave that bar and head to another for a night cap (I was DD by the way, I had like 1/2 a beer all night) and can anyone guess what happens??!?!? Yup......HE'S there. We spotted his car in the parking lot and OMG....I was instantly 4000 degrees. Do we go in? Should just I go in? Should I call him again? Should we just leave????? We decide I will go in alone and I will call Hubby when I feel it out. So I walk in and see him. He's chatting and doesn't notice me. I sit across the bar, watching him and waiting for him to catch me watching him. He does and I think he smiled but I really couldn't see. He was under a really bright ceiling light.

But......he was with someone. A very pretty lady in which I recognized as the girl he had described to me as his on again/off again girlfriend. As soon as I realized this, I knew that I had to back off. The "game" couldn't continue in this circumstance. And I have to admit, I felt really awkward. And I assume he did also. We said hello, he introduced me to his friends and we had some small talk. I called Hubby, let him know that it wasn't a good time to "play" and he came in to meet me. He had a beer while we sat across the bar from our guy.

I haven't contacted him since. I'm not even sure what I would say. It may not even have been awkward for him. I have a HUGE tendency of over thinking things. Any advice? I'm confident this chapter will provoke some postings and I look forward to it. And I know that this whole "girlfriend" development will raise the red flags.......I'm prepared. But be easy, I cry easy.

[jamther]

Shelly!!!....Thanks for the encouragement!!! You are such a blast!