MFM but no FMF??

[iapr]

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Okay everyone! Time for me to finally get to chime in and say what I feel may be important to the post that MrVan started

Havefuninsun was on the target with how I feel. There was definetly an interest on my end with the blonde and because of that it was something that I wanted to experience as well and not just for him. I do not have a problem with FMF and would love to give MrVan that type of attention with no girl/girl action. However, my point to MrVan that I was trying to get across is that for me it is different as I am bi and I enjoy the girl/girl action as well as my time with the men. So for me I get to enjoy both whereas in a MFM there is no interest for MrVan with the other male cause he does not go that way.

It is not that I would not have an interest in a FMF but finding a woman to help us out with that has been very difficult but hopefully things one of these days will work out and I can prove to MrVan that what he is thinking is way wrong

MrsVan

Ok, now I am confused. If you want to play with this gal and you find her and she is ok with a 3-way and Mr Van is ok with and you are ok with him and two chicks...What is the problem? Either it's getting late and I am not firing on all cylinders or you two are not in sync somehow. Why is this an issue? If the 3 of you are ok with getting naked together why not just do what y'all want to do at the time and be good with it?

[sweet_tna]

Havefuninsun was on the target with how I feel. There was definetly an interest on my end with the blonde and because of that it was something that I wanted to experience as well and not just for him. I do not have a problem with FMF and would love to give MrVan that type of attention with no girl/girl action. However, my point to MrVan that I was trying to get across is that for me it is different as I am bi and I enjoy the girl/girl action as well as my time with the men. So for me I get to enjoy both whereas in a MFM there is no interest for MrVan with the other male cause he does not go that way.

It is not that I would not have an interest in a FMF but finding a woman to help us out with that has been very difficult but hopefully things one of these days will work out and I can prove to MrVan that what he is thinking is way wrong

MrsVan

Okay, I'm still a newbie and may be WAY off on this, but I'm guessing this is a matter of semantics that has everyone so confused. With MFM, you have the two guys essentially out to please the woman. Mrs. Van is fine with this because--well hey, what gal doesn't love being the center of attention.

And with FFM, the ladies play with each other and somewhere in there the guy gets a little something, too. Mrs. Van is especially interested in this with the blonde.

But with FMF, it's the guy (Mr. Van in this case) who gets to be the star of the show whilst both ladies work to please him--and not necessarily themselves. Mrs. Van as stated above would prefer to have the "option" of playing w/the other lady, and not just sharing Mr. Van.

Do I have this right? If yes, then perhaps with the right couple (where the other lady is straight or only bi-passive (love that phrase, btw--thx sexcupid) the FMF would be more palatable for Mrs. Van.

If I've got it wrong, then just ignore me . . .

~Mrs. Sweet =)

Mrs Sweet has the right thought process..I have first have to say that this is NOT a problem at all for us. It is a conversation that we had the other night in which I think MrVan was trying to confuse me and with the alcohol and loud music there were distractions going on where I could not focus to well on the question asked.

I think what MrVan is trying to put out here is that it is basically a double standard so to speak (and MrVan correct me if I am wrong here). What he feels is that I think of a FFM and I want to get the attention because I can enjoy both the male and female whereas in a FMF it doesn't sound so exciting to me cause then only MrVan gets the attention and I only get to be with him. There is no problem on my end with a FMF however if this blonde was to show up again and we hook up I would prefer a FFM

If MrVan wanted a FMF and we found the right woman to do that with us than I would be all for it because I like to please MrVan and will do anything to make him happy

MrsVan

PS- I will wait for MrVan to chime in later when he gets up.

[VanHlebar]

Ok MrsVan sort of got it right.

First the blonde was just kind of an intro as to what got us talking about the differences between MFM and FMF. We both thought the blonde was super hot and no question, IF she is interested it would be a group effort.

What kind of spurred the post here was during out conversation that night, when I brought up the idea of an FMF MrsVan kind of had this very strange and funny look on her face and said something along the lines of "FMF, why?" sort of like well what's in it for me type look. So I laughed and said Oh I see, it's ok for an MFM and you to be the center of attention but not an FMF where I am the center of attention. She was like, well you aren't bi and I am so I like to play also.

I have always known that if the right lady came about and was interested in a 3some with us, MrsVan wouldn't say no and she would enjoy the experience as much as I did. This hasn't ever been a problem or an issue between us, just one of those healthy, theory conversations that got definitions mixed up.

It's good to be back on the board and able to confuse everyone again.

Thanks all.

-Van

[ncmd_couple]

One of the things that gets confusing is that when we discuss things like this it is a rational discussion. When in reality peoples' reactions to different situations are often irrational with no real reason for why they feel the way they do about a specific situation. Just thought I would add to the confusion!