FMF to please only the male...what are the odds?

[28volts]

I have read profiles and threads about bi-woman looking for the unicorn, a playmate and that they are few and far between if not any. Since my wife and I are both straight, what are the odds of having a threesome with a female,bi or straight only to please the male part facelick , no fem on fem? Has anyone had any luck with this? Just seeing if it's worth the pursuit.

[VegasLee]

It could happen. In the Thirty years we have been swinging it has happened with us. Maybe three times. As long as your not looking for much action then it is the path you should take.

[screaminggood]

It doesn't seem so difficult to us. I've been the second female with my husband watching me with another couple, and we've had FMFs with the other husband watching. There may be a key in that sentence....we're not looking for the elusive single female, we're enjoying the opportunities as they present themselves. In all cases, the attraction on the dance floor was between the bi-women. The participating man either came up behind the other woman on the dance floor and was well-received, or joined us on the bed with a tentative move and was well-received. The other comment I would make is that often there are couples with men much older than their wives...those guys sometimes seem more satisfied to watch their women receiving pleasure but not participating. Of course, my husband isn't an older man, he just says sometimes a distance view is more erotic than than the close-up.

[Alura]

Screaminggood has made a good point, 28volts. It's a whole lot easier to find a couple who are willing to take turns with threesomes than to find a straight female. Of course, anything is possible if y'all are patient enough and take advantage of every opportunity.

Mr. Alura

[prettylady]

I am a strait female who had a threesome with another strait female. If the man is the focus point of this adventure it seems quite easy. The Mrs and I didn't get wierd when our bodies touched, we shared our "victim" well.
It was wonderful for Dog and I enjoyed making him the center of our attention.
Two women in one bed does not have to mean that bisexual play is needed nor that the fun wont be as much fun if there is no girl on girl play.
I say give it a go. If the females in question are ok with being in the same sexual situation then why not?
Your friend,
Prettylady

[lovinher]

Two women in one bed does not have to mean that bisexual play is needed nor that the fun wont be as much fun if there is no girl on girl play.

Right! No different than a MFM with straight males. We don't have much experience but it seems from what I've seen on Swing Lifestyle anyway, is that most single females are bi. Looks like the odds are slim finding a straight one. I like the idea of a couple anyway. This way everybody could be a "victim" at least once.

[good times]

I agree with the suggestions above.

If you go to on-premise clubs enough, once in a while you will find a single female that might be interested. It is rare, but in five years of going to the on-premise clubs regularly (two or three weekends a month) we have run across several of them.

I am unclear from this post if your wife is interested in male partners at all, so don't know if this is the only thing you are pursuing or if it is just one of the things you would like to do. The reason I say that is because most of the time when people find one of these women that is interested in what you are looking for, it is usually an accidental meeting or just a happy coincidence.

The problem is that if you go to the clubs and never play with anyone, it doesn't take long to get the reputation of someone who never plays, and that would decrease the chances of hooking up with one of these women even if they did show up at the club. Their are a couple of reasons for this,

First of all, right or wrong, most club regulars know pretty much every other club regulars play preferences, and most don't hesitate to share what they know, or think they know, with anyone else. In our case, this has actually worked to our advantage, I can't tell how many times someone became interested in playing with us based on what they heard around the club from others. Unfortunately, I have also seen it work the opposite with other couples. Several times we were given the impression by others that a couple didn't play, yet because we are pretty outgoing and rarely let what others say deter us we ended up playing with them anyway.

The bigger problem though is the matter of experience. When a unicorn shows up at the club, she is in high demand and their will be a lot of couples pursuing her. I can tell you from our experience that it took us about three years to get comfortable with approaching people successfully for sex. We still aren't as good at it as some, but we do much better now than we did when we first started out. The fact is, if you are low on experience, you will probably also have a harder time getting results.

I don't say all this to deter you from your pursuit, but just for some things to consider to be better prepared.

[28volts]

My wife and I have played with other couples, but it always seems that the females get the attention, mfm, and just never though about doing fmf in that situation, but I will now For woman it seems easier to get mfm then it is for a guy to get fmf. Just wondering how that experience would be, to let go and be taken by two woman. facelick Hey, I can wish can't I
As for clubs, we go once in awhile and usually go with friends or meet someone there. I was thinking of asking single woman if they would be interested in that, fmf or would it be a waste of time?

Mr S

[VegasLee]

Never hurts to ask. All they can do is say no.

[Vicktoria1958]

Put your request out there on the Boards and see if you get any takers. You might also find curious and playful couples where the man is interested in watching his wife with another man. My husband is like that, caring as much for watching me with another man as having sex with the other woman himself. In fact, he may actually enjoy watching me pleasing and being pleased more. At first I thought he was weird but now I know it's his way of loving me more deeply. Going to houseparties, on premises clubs, or even better, national conventions is one thought. You could also visit one of the lifestyle resorts where many couples are thrown together and where fun is foremost on peoples minds. I watched several women, some obviously bisexual but at least one straight, make the rounds of attending to the men who were nearby. They and the couples they played with sure seemed to be having a good time.

[iapr]

Originally Posted by 28volts

Has anyone had any luck with this? Just seeing if it's worth the pursuit.

Yes we have and it really wasn't a pursuit at all. In our case we didn't even bother with perving profiles of single women on websites or seeking supposed single female "swingers". We just discreetly and tactfully let a single vanilla friend know we were interested in an FMF and then she took over from there. My wife is not overtly bi but she is comfortable with certain forms of fem/fem contact and our friend is also straight but both of them were quite physically comfortable with each other even though they did not have any hardcore sexual contact with each other.

Our thoughts on the matter are there are very very few legitimate single female swingers and many of them that are on the websites are either fakes or flakes (sorry ladies, just like with the single guys, there are some great ones out there but not a whole lot) but there are tons of single/divorced/widowed women in the vanilla world and there are a number of them that are open to an encounter with a couple if the approach is right. Approaching vanillas can be controversial and it is not for the faint of heart and not without risk but a single unlike a couple only answers to themselves and when an offer is made they can either accept it or decline it.