Hubby loves watching other men having sex with me

[hotbunsncreme]

Hello,

I am new to this forum. My husband have fantasies of watching other men have sex with me, and we have been discussing about this since middle of last year. For my part, I HATE the idea of watching my husband have sex with other women, and he assures me that it is only a one-way thing (ie, the fantasy is strictly on men sex me up) and would not do things that would hurt me and our marriage.

I am not sure whether I am ready for this yet, but his fantasy actually turns me on, which in turn, makes our sex life more erotic. However, I still have some concerns, like sex-related disease and ways to cope with jealousy. You see, we were just married barely a month, and I do not want to risk our relationship and marriage.

All information and comments welcome. Thanks!!

[bruncouple_nj]

Wow. You sound just like us ... 6 years ago. Since, we've had three MFM and are looking forward to being with an new friend next week. At first, my wife couldn't understand the thrill I felt about being in a threesome with her and another man, but slowly she began to trust that I meant it; that it wasn't a rouse to be with another woman in return, that since we were playing together and I was fully involved in the 'choosing' process then jealousy wasn't a concern (but like you, she 'couldn't handle me with another woman). And of course how could she not notice how hard I got when we talked about it; and not notice how much fun we had in bed playing with an extra dildo and not notice how much fun it looked like in videos.....well, she tried it and loved it. What surprised us the most after the first one was how much more intimate our lovemaking is compared to 'extracurricular sex' with another. Now we understand how this enhances our love life.

But it takes a long time to meet online, exchange emails, get comfortable and set up that first meeting. Don't be surprised, though, if after a few times, you begin to get interested in being with another MF couple. She likes that idea now as well. But I still like being with her more than being with another woman, so now she can have 3 paying attention to her!!!

[OhioCouple]

Here is another topic that is similar to what you are seeking answers for, if you haven't found it already.

http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...=&threadid=483

Lori

[hotbunsncreme]

Thanks, Bruncouple. Your reply certainly eases me a bit by knowing that there are some couples like us, or rather, there are some wives like me who have similar thinking (initially). In Singapore, it might be a bit difficult (though possible) to get to know other men with similar interests, and to initiate the first move. Besides, there might still be some conservative cultural thoughts here, though Singaporeans are more open-minded as compared to its neighbouring Malaysians. Well, since my husband and I are going to New York next month, we hope that that trip would be a memorable one for us.. sexually, that is!!

My other concern is on sexually-related diseases. Can the HIV virus transmit through oral sex? How can I find out from a prospective male partner that he is not HIV+ by not offending his feelings? I mean, there might be people out there who do not know that they are HIV+ until they are tested. I don't mean to discriminate HIV+ carriers here, but I want my babies to be safe when I wish to start a family in future.

More help & info needed here!!! Thanks!

[hotbunsncreme]

Hi Ohiocouple,
Thanks for the link and the info. Greatly appreciate your efforts.

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by hotbunsncreme
Hello,

I am new to this forum. My husband have fantasies of watching other men have sex with me, and we have been discussing about this since middle of last year. For my part, I HATE the idea of watching my husband have sex with other women, and he assures me that it is only a one-way thing (ie, the fantasy is strictly on men sex me up) and would not do things that would hurt me and our marriage.

I am not sure whether I am ready for this yet, but his fantasy actually turns me on, which in turn, makes our sex life more erotic. However, I still have some concerns, like sex-related disease and ways to cope with jealousy. You see, we were just married barely a month, and I do not want to risk our relationship and marriage.

All information and comments welcome. Thanks!!

be very concerned about sex related diseases. I say this because ou are knew. THe worst thing that could happen is that you are both overwhelmed about this new fantasy and sometimes the initial excitement can lead to throwing caution to the wind while under the influence of the intense sexual fulfillment.

I think you will fulfill your fantasies and have a great time doing it. Read all the messages under sexually transmitted diseases so you know just what the risks really are. Some are overrated and some are not. You need to discuss this at great length and make very solid agreements in this department

Other than that you sound like you will have lots of fun. You seem to have a great attitude for this and believe it or not most men actually fantasize about this anyhow. To allow him to fulfill his fantasy and you have a great time at it is like having your pie and eating it too....OMG what a great pun...have fun...John

[JustAskJulie]

Don't do anything until YOU are ready, and only you will know when that is. Until then just enjoy the fantasy and enjoy talking about it. Many peopl never make the leap from fantasy to reality and that is just fine, enjoy what you have regardless.

[vorphlak]

julie is right jus' fantasize till you feel you are ready to meet some stranger and let him be intimate with you...i am kinda nervous for you...this all might jus' be a test? make sure what fuels your fantasy is romantic and compassionate and not dark jealous scary man stuff.

[lovers]

Once you're ready, I'd say try it out. I can say that it is a huge turn on for me to see my wife get plowed by another guy. As an added bonus, she knows that I am totally jacked up by the time she wants me to fuck her, which results in an intense screw for her. Basically, we both get what we want.

I should note that it isn't unusual for you not to feel the same way (in terms of seeing your husband with another women). So I wouldn't sweat that part. Angie (my wife) loves to see me with other women, but she's not exactly your "average" woman.

[fun_pairTX]

We always play together, same room, full swap. We enjoy seeing each other get wild. At first it felt a bit strange, but not really uncomfortable, it slowly grew into a big turn on. The best was last weekend, it was Mrs Birthday and three other couples and myself all went on her at once.

[madbrook123]

hi , i am from singapore too. me and my wife were talking about it for long time but never dare to try.
we have the same problem as you, would you like to talk about it?

madbrook123@yahoo.com.sg

[SouthBond]

We frequently play with two other couples at the same time. This allows for various combinations of men and women. The comment about not wanting to see your husband with another woman will most likely become a problem. This means that you will be playing with single men or married men that are cheating. Your husband is willing to allow you the thrill of a new partner and it would be fair to allow him the same thrill with a new woman. Jealousy is a sure killer of a good time. Give him the gift of experiencing the touch of another lady. Best of luck in your adventure.

[bethncole]

If it turns you on and you can talk about it openly - that's about 99% of what you need. Now make sure to set your boundaries and try it once.

There are many guys out there that would rather see their wives with other men than ever be with another women themselves. I'm one of them. My wife is OK with me fucking other women but I don't find it as nearly enjoyable as watching her with another guy.

[beachzen]

Originally Posted by bethncole

My wife is OK with me fucking other women but I don't find it as nearly enjoyable as watching her with another guy.

Amen to that. When my ex-girlfriend and I were exploring swinging, we both got a lot more from her being with other guys than bringing women into our bed. I loved to watch her, and she absolutely loved performing for me. We considered it a different, and highly arousing, form of foreplay...when we made love after one of her encounters, it was simply amazing.

[joaninla]

We've had many sessions with several men over the years. It began with my husband (like yours) asking, begging, pleading for me to do another guy while he watches and joins in. I (like you) was hesitant at first, but now I've come (no pun intended) to really enjoy the MFM's we have. We have played with other couples too, but both of us continue to enjoy the MFM's the most.