FMF with couples leaving male out

[Mr. Truelove]

I have a question about FMF situations sparked by a couple threads here on the board recently. And as a part of a couple that is starting to actively start pursuing other couples I am curious about a few things.

It would seem to me that there are a number of couples out there looking for a FMF encounter and are either willing to ignore the husband and try to get a FMF or do some sort of a trade of wives to obtain a FMF for each group.

So the question is:

Have you, in your swinging experience, encountered a couple that has attempted to ignore the male half in order to have a FMF or "unicorn" type woman? Is it prevalent or uncommon?

I'm including the scenarios where the male is included but only because they "have to" and perhaps the woman takes one for the team by including the male half. Perhaps with some deceiving is going on. But I am not including situations where both parties agree to trade off. I have no problems with people being honest and upfront about this if it is their thing.

-Mr. Truelove

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by Mr. Truelove

Have you, in your swinging experience, encountered a couple that has attempted to ignore the male half in order to have a FMF or "unicorn" type woman? Is it prevalent or uncommon?

It's happened to us only once, so to us, it hasn't been prevalent. We'd spent the evening out with this couple we'd just met. They were usually a full-swap couple, as far as we knew. When my husband left the table, they propositioned me, saying they wanted me but not him. Their reason, they said, is that my husband reminded her of her ex-husband in appearance. Later on, they asked us over to their place, but we declined, of course.

[VanHlebar]

Well for us we have not really had this issue. We did have one couple that we met, that we did end up giving them a FMF encounter as a b'day gift to the husband. This had been discussed by MrsVan, myself and the other wife in detail before it happened. It was a suprise for the husband.

Now if anyone has taken one for the team it was me. It was one of our first encounters and well, it won't happen again.

For us, we both enjoy watching the other be pleased and so in that regards, if it was discussed ahead of time, we would have no issues with either a MFM or FMF encounter with other couples.

-Van

[daisy girl]

Yes, there was one time when both people wanted only me. I didn't notice this at first. But, once we started playing they both came over to me and ignored my husband...they really wanted a single woman. I think this is so unfair and unethical. If you want a single woman, find one or find a member of a couple willing to play alone...but don't say you want a couple and then treat one half poorly.

[WesternSwing]

We have never run across this situation. It may exist, but we haven't seen it. And if it appeared that way we would put an end to the evening very quick.

We have done FMF or MFM with a couple while one sat out and watched. It's always been to fulfill the fantasy of a member of a couple we are friends with. Also, Mrs. WS and I don't have a problem "loaning" the other out to friends for this. But, these situations are always understood from the git-go.

Mr. WS