Partner Loans to make Threesomes happen

[jj06]

Originally Posted by Amanda69

hmm and how exactly have these guys returned the favor?

Somehow I don't think the loaning we are discussing or intending refers to weeks at a time. Nor does it involve gangbangs but then again to each his or her own.... Though if it were my partner who left me for 2 1/2 weeks to fuck a bunch of women on his own, I don't think he would be finding me back at home waiting for him when he returned.

Most of the guys have girlfriends, but they live on the other side of London, their girlfriends are swingers too, but on several occasions, on of the guys has went on a College trip and their girlfriend was 'loaned' to us for a day or two

[prettylady]

If Dog ever loaned me out he will be paying with extreme intrest if he wanted me back. I get what you are all saying, but it sounds awful. I am with Amanda on this one. I want it to be together or not at all.
I have been with out Dog now for two weeks. I miss him terrible, I am horney as hell, and I miss him terrible. Ya I know I said that twice. But I wouldn't want anyone else to come by and say. "Ya, I'm here on loan. Don't worry, you can owe me one".
I may have this all wrong, but that is what I am picking up from the posts.
Sorry if I have offended anyone
Your friend,
Prettylady

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by jj06

Most of the guys have girlfriends, but they live on the other side of London, their girlfriends are swingers too, but on several occasions, on of the guys has went on a College trip and their girlfriend was 'loaned' to us for a day or two

See, again I may be misunderstanding. But is it his place to loan his girlfriend to you for any length of time?
I am sure something is getting lost in translation.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[Alura]

I don't know about other people, but we've restricted our "loaning" to couples we play with regularly and then only under special circumstances. Yes, we prefer to play together and have most of the time. However, "loaning" is a benefit of playing with couples that can be fun. "Loaning" also removes the need to sift through all the singles looking for an acceptable partner for a threesome.

Mrs. Alura would never agree to be loaned to a group of single men, and without her agreement, no "loaning" could take place.

Mr. Alura

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by Alura

I don't know about other people, but we've restricted our "loaning" to couples we play with regularly and then only under special circumstances. Yes, we prefer to play together and have most of the time. However, "loaning" is a benefit of playing with couples that can be fun. "Loaning" also removes the need to sift through all the singles looking for an acceptable partner for a threesome.

Mrs. Alura would never agree to be loaned to a group of single men, and without her agreement, no "loaning" could take place.

Mr. Alura

Exactly! We feel 100% the same Mr. A.

[Spoomonkey]

We tried it once (well, twice since we had to complete the transaction). We had the wife over here and it was great - then Mrs Spoo played with them and it was... well... lacking...

Sure it was pretty hot to think about and she had a pretty good time, but we both realized that - for us - we just don't get into swinging without each other.

It obviously works and many couples enjoy it - as evidenced by the responses - but it wasn't what we hoped it would be. It is something that is scratched off of our "to do" list.

Spoomonkey

[Alura]

Originally Posted by EvilMJ

Exactly! We feel 100% the same Mr. A.

You are so intelligent, MJ, and have such good tastes!

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

We tried it once (well, twice since we had to complete the transaction). We had the wife over here and it was great - then Mrs Spoo played with them and it was... well... lacking...

Spoomonkey

I wonder how y'all would feel, Spoo, had "the transaction" been truly completed... meaning that the husbands had been "loaned" as well?

Mr. Alura

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by 2jersey

In essence, our friends are interested in threesomes - but without the single (unattached) male or female which comprises most threesome arrangements.

There's another alternative to have a threesome experience, without finding the unattached male or female, and without having to separate from your spouse.

The two couples who are interested in the "loaning" but not the separation, can simply get together as a foursome. They make it a time of threesome play, while the 4th gets to watch. Then next time, the other husband gets to watch. Or if it's a MFM threesome, the other wife gets to watch.

[Alura]

Yep, TybeeSwing, that works, too. But we call that "Playing Together." It wouldn't be "loaning" to us if all four were there. "Loaning" has only worked for us when one of the foursome is away for some reason.

But it's a helluva lot of fun!

Mr. Alura

[mrs good times]

This scenerio is something that we have never done or even considered. I guess it's because neither of us have ever had the fantasy for a threesome. I don't think I would enjoy being the odd woman out, being alone with my thoughts and worries waiting for Mr. GT to come home. Although we play seperate room we only play at the same time.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Alura

I wonder how y'all would feel, Spoo, had "the transaction" been truly completed... meaning that the husbands had been "loaned" as well?

At the time - and probably now as well - that was something Mrs Spoo was not comfortable with. And to be honest, the idea really didn't appeal to me at all. I am not really interested in playing "second fiddle" in an MFM.

If I were a single, I would probably not be interested in swinging at all. The fun is the shared experience with Mrs Spoo - which is exactly her disappointment in playing alone as well. I wasn't there - and it just wasn't very fulfilling.

Now - if we could find a couple that would loan the partner without reciprocation...

But, of course, that is an extremely unfair thing to expect or to ask. We tend to assume that all couples come as a package deal - and show the same respect that we would want shown for us (i.e. don't ask us if you can just screw one of us).

Singles are fine for us. We have had single females since and it was incredible. And we do have a single male friend who is great. So - we get to experience threesomes without having to do something that - for us - is not comfortable.

After all - that is what swinging is all about

Spoomonkey

[JTcamp05]

Wow... I'm really suprised by how common this is....We have done this and both think its great!!

If everyone is on the same page......what a wonderful thing. I'm glad to see many others feels this way and are truely open minded enough......

[Alura]

Spoomonkey wrote:

We tend to assume that all couples come as a package deal - and show the same respect that we would want shown for us (i.e. don't ask us if you can just screw one of us).

Thanks for the clarification, Spoo. There is certainly nothing wrong with your attitude and we agree that we come as a package. I'm sure we'd turn down any couple who only wanted one of us. It's best in all ways if we can play together and at the same time.

One of our play couples both traveled a lot in their businesses. One was a college professor who went to different universities to lecture on his speciality. His wife was vice-president of a corporation and traveled world-wide. Mrs. Alura was also on the road a lot at the time. When all four were in town we played as a foursome but when one was gone we were able to take advantage of the situation for something different.

Our kids were young at the time and babysitting was a problem. Because of the freedom we all enjoyed in our jobs, we often were able to play while the kids were in school.

I guess we just adapted to the situation.

Mr. Alura

[EvilMJ]

Originally Posted by Alura

You are so intelligent, MJ, and have such good tastes!

Mr. Alura

hmmmm...now I just have to figure out a cross boarder loan