threesome with another male without having to touch him?

[findingfun4us2]

My question, My wife and I are getting ready for our first FMF she really wants t expereince the kiss of another girls lips but more so she REALLY has expressed she wants to watch me have intercorse with another girl and maybe join in.
NOw I want to get another guy in the threesom later and watch him do her while I am kissing and licking on her.

My problem: I can't even begin to think about touching another guy( just not in me) but she wants to see him give me a BJ or even a hand job

I had to think on that one, and I almost could let another guy do that to me, I figure, a set of lips and a toung or a hand on by tool is a bJ or hand job, no matter who is giving
Is that sick or not????
Am I BI,, HOPE NOT

[TNT]

The thing to remember is that No means No....even to our SO.

If you don't want another man touching you...then don't do it. It doesn't matter if you're bi or not...going outside your comfort level is never a good thing. It only causes resentment in the end.

There is NO set rule in a MFM threesome that says that the two men have to play with each other....in fact...in the majority of MFM threesomes I'm sure that the men don't.


Teresa

[sexyshelby]

Dito
Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with.
Doing something that you don't want to do just to please you SO will lead to all kinds of nasty problems.

And like Teresa said, you can have a MFM without MM contact. Although you should be prepared for maybe some accidental touching.

Good luck and have fun
~SS

[hilltop]

The other posters have given you some good advice!

Just take your time. You haven't had your FIRST mfm yet so leave the idea of you with another guy in the fantasy realm for now.

After you've developed some comfort whether that's after the first time or after twenty then you can just take things as they come.

Who knows, YOU may be the one who wants to have that kind of contact with another guy if the situations right. Stranger things have happened!

For now just have a great time with your wife and whoever you hook up with and enjoy!

Let us know how it goes!

[findingfun4us2]

My wife has just told me she wants to have a 3 some with another girl. Says she wants to see me ram it in another while she masterbates and then wnts to join in with us. She says she would have no problem kissing another girl and rubbing on one but couldn't go down on one although wouldn't mind her gooing down on her
The problem, when I mention a 3 som with another guy ( as she has metionted she would like also) I would also like to see someone ramming her whole I am kissing her but she wants to see the other guy give me a BJ

I could not even think about touching another guy B U T I could probaly let him give me a BJ. WHILE SHE SuCKS HIM OFF ( one of her fanticies) TELL ME I AM NOT GAY

[just1gurl]

a rose by any other name....

[sereneiders]

Ok. Here it goes:

YOU'RE NOT GAY

Now, I gess you may go ahead.

Seriously, if you're so concerned about the "being gay" stuff, you may not even have something hard for the other guy to blow.

What's interesting here is that you're not facing any dilemma with your wyfe "being gay", nor she does, and I am pointing this out because this is not a matter of "being fair", like "if wyfe want to do an elephant, then I shald do an elephant myself", got what I mean?

Everyone have his/her own limits, and these limits have to be accepted. Here we often say "the velocity should be the one from slowest one", and in this case, "the limit should be drawn over the most restrictives ones both of you have". If you're not confortable with a guy, then you should leave that fantasy in fantasyland.

But I'd consider your "B U T" here. I wouldn't be with a guy even when I have some "gay" fantasies, and I know my motivations (among others, I tried to and couldn't take it), so I gess i am "more gay" than what you are even when there is no "B U T" for me, at all, so your "B U T" may be hidden your wish to try, without feeling gay because of this.

It's like a common fantasy shared by a lot of women about being raped, to be forced to engage in activities BUT because someone's else is the one who want her to do it, providing a context where to fantasize "for free" about these activities without having to concern about feeling herself a whore.

If you're up to "reluctanctly accept" to be with a guy because "youre forced to do it" (to make it fair or whatever reason) by your wyfe, you'll have an excuse to avoid your concerns about "being gay". Perhaps you need such an excuse to be able to enjoy being with another guy.

The cuestion, then, would be... what does mean for you "being gay"? What's wrong with that? Which knots in your identity tapistry "being gay" would be untiing? and more important... how easily these knots could be untied?

[meandher2go]

its only gay if ya make eye contact....lol

and its not gay if there's a girl present

[jon&roberta]

My God Man

You have a wife who wants to do a 3-some. Damn - go for it and after your FFM - ask her for a MMF. If guy things happen - go with the flow and do what you are comfortable with. If no one but your wife see it - then your not gay - Bi for sure, but not gay.

Wish my wife would do a 2-some some times.

[Sweet_Candy]

Originally Posted by findingfun4us2

I could not even think about touching another guy B U T I could probaly let him give me a BJ. WHILE SHE SuCKS HIM OFF ( one of her fanticies) TELL ME I AM NOT GAY

See if this helps?

Definition of the word gay. Gay is a word which can be used as either a noun or adjective. As a noun, it is most commonly used as a term to identify a man with a homosexual orientation. It can also be used to describe a homosexual woman, although lesbian is more specific. Gay used as an adjective describes traits associated with gays and lesbians, their culture, or perceived lifestyle.

Example: Gay sex involves acts between or among people of the same sex or gender.

When using gay to describe the act of same sex it is an adjective not a noun. It describes the trait associated with same sex.

Are you gay? You decide, is it a noun or an adjective? Hope this helps!

[Vespertine]

Originally Posted by meandher2go

its only gay if ya make eye contact....lol

and its not gay if there's a girl present

That's a good one.

[FlaPlaya561]

You are NOT GAY ..i have been in that situation alot of times on "both ends" I am NOT GAY either ...whats wrong with having fun if it turns her on? I did that for my ex g/f so many times ...After we did it me and her had the wildest sex LOL ....Fantasies!

[sexyshelby]

If it's something that YOU want to do, then go for it. Who cares what others think about it. But I wouldn't do it just for HER. This usally causes more problems than it's worth.

~SS

[menher1559]

The single biggest thing is to keep it all in perspective. If all parties are willing to participate in what would otherwise seem to be completely taboo, go for it.

The world will not come to an end if you let a guy suck your dick..and it won't come to an end if you suck a dick...Trust me. Now with that being said, it might end, but not because of some man 2 man oral sex.

If your g/f is wanting to see it, and it makes her hot to see, go for it...but be sure your male partner is willing to let it happen, cuz he might really freak on ya if there isn't some advance warning...

If it feels good, do it....Never know....Might even like it..

Best wishes to you

[LOL_OMG]

If you listen to coast-to-coastAM (previously the Art Bell show) the world really is coming to an end. No, really.

So as not to derail the thread, I would agree with the previous posts....talk about it at length, do "what if" scenarious, and talk with the 3rd about it all too. I've talked to the hubby about this too, and initially he said "no way, couldn't do it." Then I asked if all the lights were turned off and someone was sucking his dick well but he didnt know who, how would he feel. He said if he reached down and felt a hairy back he would get major shrinkage....so it's prolly not for him