fmf vs mfm threesomes

gitrdone · 01-19-2006, 08:44 AM

Ok I'm sure I'm gonna catch hell for this one but I have to know. Why that in this lifestyle are there men that think it is fine to have a threesome (fmf) but wont even entertain the Idea of a (mfm) . I can understand it if the lady is not interested but what if she is?

CB_n_Red · 01-19-2006, 09:20 AM

Red isn't "secretly" interested in MFM! She loves it. Just as I do (and also FMF, and FMFM in whatever combination).

Generally I would say that it isn't a good idea for a couple in the lifestyle to keep anything secret from each other. It's a potential source of trouble. Talking openly with each other and without fear of retribution is all important.

CB

gitrdone · 01-19-2006, 09:27 AM

I agree! But I hear so often that the man wont let another man in the room. But they think is ok to let a woman in. I dont understand that?

**TNT** · 01-19-2006, 09:28 AM

There are numerous reasons why some men are not interested in MFM threesomes...ranging anywhere from the man being extremely uncomfortable being so close to another naked man...ego...selfishness...insecurity...to it just not being something that turns him on.

There are also women who are just not interested in it.

For those women that are and the man isn't, it can cause problems, especially if he is all for having two women.

The only way to really know why one particular man is not interested is to sit down and talk with him.

Teresa

**TNT** · 01-19-2006, 09:30 AM

Oh, I didn't answer the poll question as MFM threesomes are one of our favorite things to do

, so I have no secret desire for one.

Teresa

LikeMinds321 · 01-19-2006, 09:51 AM

There are no secret interests in this house...we tell each other what's on our minds.

MrLM is happy to be a part of a MFM with me in the sandwich, however, I'm a woman who prefers FMF to MFM. I don't find the attention of two men at the same time as enjoyable as other combinations.

I like to pair up with a woman to please her man, or MrLM, or to assist a couple in pleasing each other, or let them please me, or for the three of us to play in a variety of ways.

LM

sexyshelby · 01-19-2006, 10:31 AM

Wow...LM, I think you covered it all. You like just about everything!

I can't answer the poll as I am interested but it's not a secret. The BF and I have done this before, so it's no secret.

~SS

Miss_Piggy · 01-19-2006, 11:23 AM

Definitley not a secret here either. MFM is the only type of threesome that we've ever had and to tell the truth I'm not as interested in an FMF... can't really pinpoint why.

Fantasy_Partner · 01-19-2006, 11:32 AM

No secret here, its one of the reasons we got involved

Spoomonkey · 01-19-2006, 08:50 PM

We are on the same page about it. We prefer couples, consider the MFF a rare and wonderful thing when it happens, but the MFM is a blast typically - depending largely, of course, on the other guy involved

Folks reasons for not digging it are probably perfectly summed up by TNT.

Spoomonkey

MrXxotic · 01-19-2006, 09:27 PM

Its no secret. MFM is our prefered way to play. Meeting another couple where everything seems to click can be difficult.

**good times** · 01-19-2006, 09:36 PM

We don't have any secrets about it at our house either. Mrs. GT would like to try an MFM someday and with the right guy it would be cool with me too. On the other hand it isn't something that gets me all excited, but then again, neither does FMF, which I have tried. I guess I'm just more of a one on one kind of guy. I think an MFM might be fun just because I know that it would be fullfilling one of Mrs. GT's fantasies and in that respect it would be good for me. But I can't say that I am really turned on by the idea, so until the right guy comes along we will stick with couples.

HappyPeople · 01-19-2006, 09:43 PM

We just don't think that an extra M is enough for us. The more people that there are, the more stuff that you can do/experience. 4-inf is more our speed.

sbthegra · 01-28-2006, 08:08 AM

It's the natural order of things. FMF allows for ( requires?) a lot of FF play, unless the M is SuperM , but MFM , now there's a logical pairing. F has multiple openings for multiple M's. F has the capacity to enjoy one M alone while the other ,hopefully, recharges, on and on for ???? long time. Almost every M can enjoy watching the other two thirds alone, or at least the M's I know. Short of M to M accidental contact phobias, what's not to like about MFM. For the M anyway - let's remember the interested and active F is the central player who makes this so wonderful.

If it isn't about pleasing your partner isn't it just masturbation with company ?

NakedInSeattle · 01-28-2006, 09:43 AM

The answer's yes but not secretly.

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01-19-2006, 08:44 AM	#1 (permalink)
gitrdone Active Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 14 Location: indiana	fmf vs mfm threesomes Ok I'm sure I'm gonna catch hell for this one but I have to know. Why that in this lifestyle are there men that think it is fine to have a threesome (fmf) but wont even entertain the Idea of a (mfm) . I can understand it if the lady is not interested but what if she is?

01-19-2006, 09:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
CB_n_Red Life's too short not to.. Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 616 Location: East Yorkshire, UK Status: Married Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:CB_n_Red	Re: sturrin' the pot Red isn't "secretly" interested in MFM! She loves it. Just as I do (and also FMF, and FMFM in whatever combination). Generally I would say that it isn't a good idea for a couple in the lifestyle to keep anything secret from each other. It's a potential source of trouble. Talking openly with each other and without fear of retribution is all important. CB
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01-19-2006, 09:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
gitrdone Active Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 14 Location: indiana	Re: sturrin' the pot I agree! But I hear so often that the man wont let another man in the room. But they think is ok to let a woman in. I dont understand that?

01-19-2006, 09:28 AM	#4 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Re: sturrin' the pot There are numerous reasons why some men are not interested in MFM threesomes...ranging anywhere from the man being extremely uncomfortable being so close to another naked man...ego...selfishness...insecurity...to it just not being something that turns him on. There are also women who are just not interested in it. For those women that are and the man isn't, it can cause problems, especially if he is all for having two women. The only way to really know why one particular man is not interested is to sit down and talk with him. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

01-19-2006, 09:30 AM	#5 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Re: sturrin' the pot Oh, I didn't answer the poll question as MFM threesomes are one of our favorite things to do , so I have no secret desire for one. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

01-19-2006, 09:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 I'll think about it Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 10,099 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: sturrin' the pot There are no secret interests in this house...we tell each other what's on our minds. MrLM is happy to be a part of a MFM with me in the sandwich, however, I'm a woman who prefers FMF to MFM. I don't find the attention of two men at the same time as enjoyable as other combinations. I like to pair up with a woman to please her man, or MrLM, or to assist a couple in pleasing each other, or let them please me, or for the three of us to play in a variety of ways. LM

01-19-2006, 10:31 AM	#7 (permalink)
sexyshelby It's not easy being easy. Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,012 Location: In Bed Status: Person	Re: sturrin' the pot Wow...LM, I think you covered it all. You like just about everything! I can't answer the poll as I am interested but it's not a secret. The BF and I have done this before, so it's no secret. ~SS
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01-19-2006, 11:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
Miss_Piggy mildly abnormal Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 1,437 Location: Sometimes Canada Status: I'm with Kermit	Re: sturrin' the pot Definitley not a secret here either. MFM is the only type of threesome that we've ever had and to tell the truth I'm not as interested in an FMF... can't really pinpoint why.
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01-19-2006, 11:32 AM	#9 (permalink)
Fantasy_Partner Active Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 46 Location: NE Wisconsin Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Fantasy_Partners	Re: sturrin' the pot No secret here, its one of the reasons we got involved
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01-19-2006, 08:50 PM	#10 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,739 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? Swing Lifestyle Name:Spoomonkey	Re: sturrin' the pot We are on the same page about it. We prefer couples, consider the MFF a rare and wonderful thing when it happens, but the MFM is a blast typically - depending largely, of course, on the other guy involved Folks reasons for not digging it are probably perfectly summed up by TNT. Spoomonkey
	__________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

01-19-2006, 09:27 PM	#11 (permalink)
MrXxotic Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 73 Location: Atlanta Status: male half of xxoticangel	Re: sturrin' the pot Its no secret. MFM is our prefered way to play. Meeting another couple where everything seems to click can be difficult.

01-19-2006, 09:36 PM	#12 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,919 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times Swing Lifestyle Name:randp	Re: sturrin' the pot We don't have any secrets about it at our house either. Mrs. GT would like to try an MFM someday and with the right guy it would be cool with me too. On the other hand it isn't something that gets me all excited, but then again, neither does FMF, which I have tried. I guess I'm just more of a one on one kind of guy. I think an MFM might be fun just because I know that it would be fullfilling one of Mrs. GT's fantasies and in that respect it would be good for me. But I can't say that I am really turned on by the idea, so until the right guy comes along we will stick with couples.
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01-19-2006, 09:43 PM	#13 (permalink)
HappyPeople Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 390 Location: Tampa	Re: sturrin' the pot We just don't think that an extra M is enough for us. The more people that there are, the more stuff that you can do/experience. 4-inf is more our speed.

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01-28-2006, 08:08 AM	#14 (permalink)
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