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We not not had our first swinging experience yet, but after doing research on this site and checking out clubs, my wife and I have decided to go to a club and meet couples at a club for our first time.

 

There has been some advice on this site as to meeting a single guy at one's home (or hotel), to do the MMF 3-some. Now, being new to this lifestyle, I wouldn't trust someone I have never met before into my house for a 3-some. Plus, I have learned from this website that some of you have arranged meetings in your home (or area) with someone that responded to an ad, and then they didn't look like they described themselves. Or, a couple was supposed to meet you and the guy shows up claiming his wife was sick.

 

Well, this is the reason I think a club would be the safest and most comfortable way to meet people interested in fulfilling our sexual fantasies. Our feelings are that we like the social atmosphere of a club. We can talk to various couples there and after getting to know each other better make a decision (invitation) :facelick: to get more intimate! To us there are more options at a club than meeting someone privately. If that private meeting doesn't turn out so good or you don't even like the person (couple) when you first meet them them you're "screwed". I don't think we want to take that chance of having a bad private first meeting. :slam:

 

Also, it seems like reading posts from this site is that those bad private meetings are a guy cheating on his wife or some single guy "sowing his oats". After discussion with my wife, we would trust another swinging couple because they are comfortable with the idea of sharing and they can ease us into our fantasies better than a single guy. As a husband, I feel someone elses husband would be more respectful to my wife and our wishes. He could calm my wife's fears and maybe mine too when we actually go through with it! I mean we are really into this idea! :kiss: but doing it for the first time with so many people around may be a little "odd" at first. But, I'm hoping we first find a nice couple and then as the night progresses we are more at ease with everything that is going on.

 

So, in short (ha! ha!), Couples or Single guys at a club for the first MMF 3-some. We are not leaving the other wife out, maybe a 4-some.

 

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We have been reading all of the postings as well and have come to the same feelings about meeting someone or a couple to be done in a club first. We haven't had our first MMF 3some either, but summing up and discussions on each input on the board gives us hope it just may happen for us yet. :) :)

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I think it would be safe to say the single guys you meet in a club would be respectful of your wife. They go thorough a more interview process than couples do.

 

The flaw I see in meeting with another couple for a MMF is that the wife of the other couple will feel left out. I know I would in such a situation. But that does remind me of a few couples we have met where the wife is bi ( so am I ) and she will play only with a female but he can full swap with me if he wanted to. Also met a couple whom the husband full swapped and wife was straight but she was soft swing. I don't do that. I will play with the women and then go play with hubby in a situation such as that. We only swap in a full swap scenario that way no one feels left out.

 

The club is definitely the way to go in making your fantasy a reality. They have a lot to offer and if the chemistry is not there with someone you meet you can make new friends and continue on in your search.

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When we first started out we did a mfm with his best friend. Was hot and a whole lot of fun!!!!!!But i figure everyone starts their own way, you have to be comfortable or it won't work at all!

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If you are only interested in adding another male to the mix then I would say find a single male. Asking a couple to borrow the guy so you can have a 3some is the same as asking to borrow the female for a FFM threesome... someone is getting left out and that's never a good thing.

 

If you are going to leave someone out, then isn't it better to just find a single guy to begin with so no one is?

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Yeah, I do agree that the "other" woman would be left out. I'm hoping that she could join in somehow. My wife and I are believers in "equal time", so while I may not want a true FFM 3-SOME, the other wife could suck her own husband and maybe myself. Or, another option is the "Daisy Chain" method that you see in some Gang-Bang pornos. Maybe my wife, lying on her side), could lick the other guy, while I lick my wife's pussy and then the other wife could lick me and the other husband lick his own wife's pussy. That way, it's a 4-SOME where the wives are sucking the other husbands, but we (the guys) are licking our own wives!

 

Concerning the equal time theory, while I get 100% more hard thinking about my wife sucking another guy. I still wonder what it would be like to have 2 girls down there licking me! Like I said on a previous post, that if my wife told me I had one choice. A MMF or a FFM 3-SOME. I would choose a MMF 3-SOME for her!!!:fun:

But, if we would do the MMF 3-Some and the othe rguy's wife didn't participate, then maybe I could my wife and his wife lick me?! We'll see who we meet at "the club" and see what they prefer to do.

 

Thanks for your input!:D

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There is one advantage about getting the male a couple involved in this. At least you know the background of the guy.

 

My wife has no problem "loaning me out" to couples who are looking to do a MMF threesome as long as she is present. She doesn't feel left out as she usually gets so turned on that she rides me raw afterwards. :D

 

(of course, if she wants to hook up with a couple or with a single guy, she can do that as long as I am present)

 

Granted, not every couple is going to go for this arrangement, but if you can, I think it works quite well.

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We love single guys for 3somes! It's not complicated, everyone has fun and goes home satisfied. We actually prefer it to playing with couples when we just want to have a good old fashioned down and dirty time!

 

Good guys are hard to find but when you find them, it's worth the effort!

 

B+S

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So far our experience with other MF couples has been limited. But for pure eroticism, it seems that the two on one in a MFM is the best and easiest to find. To begin with, there's simply more choice when looking for a single male. And for some reason, we get relaxed faster and enjoy more humor with another single male or female than we do when playing with another couple. With another couple we seem too concerned with 'couple issues'; either ours or theirs. We've actually found a MFMFMFMF type atsmosphere far better than a MFMF as everyone is more focused on the eroticism than the personalities. But still, we've loved the few times we've been able to find another couple.

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We recently met with a single male that will be perfect for what we're interested in. He's straight, and we normally don't have too much contact with single males, however, he is very much on our wavelength and will suit her perfectly.

 

We've come to find that not all couples are so compatible as a single sometimes. And in our area, couples are very flaky.

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HELP

 

We'd like to get in on this conversation if we may.....

 

We are new to the whole idea of "swinging"....haven't even had our 1st encounter yet. But we'd like to throw something at you to see what y'all might think would be the best thing for us to do.

 

We work the evening shift and every weekend. So it makes it tough to go out to a "Swingers Club" that is only open on weekends. (Just don't see any since in paying that Membership Fee if we aren't going to be able to use it, much, right?)

 

So where and how can we find people that might be into this kind of thing?

We're wanting to do a FFM 3some. How in the world do you even get around to finding out if a woman is into that sort of thing? Right now it just seems so weird....we don't know how to even get started.

 

We read all the replies to this post, and realized we hadn't thought about "Swinger Clubs" in the ways you've all described. So what do y'all suggest for us? Is this going to be "Mission Impossible"????

 

Sweet Tater & Tater :D

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First, it is great to see how much thought you have put into this. With just the MFM (or FMF) there is one less order of magnitude of compatibility issues. It's much easier to find one who suits you than 2. But, a couple as stated is somewhat safer, a little less problem with emotional attachments or false appearances. Not usually a problem, but potential is there. We much prefer to meet for dinner first with no expectation of play that night. That will give you time to discuss your proposed partner together before making a decision to go ahead. We don't generally do clubs unless we have a pre-arranged meeting with play partner(s). We really want to get to know someone first. When we do get together, it is usually at a hotel, preferably one with a hottub/jacuzzi. Clubs are also fine to check out and see what its all about,especially if you are a bit voyeuristic, but do you think you could handle it if your hunny gets hit on by 10 guys and no girls come on to you or vice versa. And don't make any assumptions based on marital status. We've seen singles who were much nicer than some hubbies. Look at each person on an individual basis without preconceived notions. Male and female.

J

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Originally posted by clecouple

There has been some advice on this site as to meeting a single guy at one's home (or hotel), to do the MMF 3-some. Now, being new to this lifestyle, I wouldn't trust someone I have never met before into my house for a 3-some.

 

We'd like to put our 2 cents worth in... ;)

 

We are yet to have our first experience. We are going to try to approach the MFM 3some opposed to finding another couple. The idea of the other wife being left out and the fact that it's one more person that everyone else needs to be compatable with seems like a lot of extra work.

 

However, the point we'd like to make is regarding trusting someone in your house. If you couldn't trust them in your house, why would you want to swing with them? You are, in a sense, bringing them to your most vulnerable state. If you cannot trust them or have the slightest miscomfort, you've picked the wrong person.

 

When we find that single male, there will be a face to face meeting without the possibility of anything but a conversation. If he passes the test, we'll arrange the second meeting. soapbox

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We have had our first MFM 3some since we posted here and it was so much fun. We met our person in a Swingers club by striking up a conversation and having a few drinks together. It was easy and confortable with him. We went to our hotel room and the rules and the fantasies were explained. He was a gentleman and turned out to be a very fun person.

He and I were in the bathroom and I began to wash him off when he had me sit up on the top of the toilet tank and began to finger bang me. I then had hubby there and had our friend suck on my clit for a short time, gently pushed his head to one side as I squirted all over him and the toilet. There were other fun things the three of us did...::P:!

 

Our second MFM we met with and had dinner and spent time with him over drinks and conversation. He was very appealing to hubby as being a good person and business person. I found him with the most wonderful bedroom eyes I have seen in a very long time. Making the arrangements for our encounter took a while with work related issues. But it finally happened! Whow, yes!

In a very nice motel in our city. Our friend lives out of town and travels a lot going through our city.

Hubby licked and sucked my pussy while I licked and sucked our friend's cock (I love sucking cocks Yummies.) I came a few times and did a small squirt. Then hubby laid down on his back underneth of me while I got into dog fasion position :fun: for our male friend to fuck me and I suck hubby's cock. They were both delicious and I came and squirted until I totally lost count. Hubby had came and got up to help message my special areas while our friend kept fucking me until he finally was ready to get his. I told him to cum with me and he really blew his wad.

 

We have another MFM`victum' lined up. He is someone whom we met on AFF. He is in his early 30s, married, has wife's ok (we hope) and she doesn't want to play.We are in our mid 50s. I have had a first meet with him and Hubby has talked with him on the phone. He is another nice friend to have and more excited about our first sexual meet each time we talk with him. We will up date you on our encounter which will be after the first weekend of the year.

 

Love,

PHONEBUGS

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For our first MFM we chose a single guy, it was one of my hubbys friends back from school. Most of the single guys we play with seem to of just fallen into our lap, and seem like the thing to do at the time. As far as a couple for a MFM we wont go that route we dont want anyone to feel left out. As far as the meeting single guys an bringing them to your house I have agree with what other people are saying if you cant trust them enough to go to your house or theres then thats not someone we want in a bed with us. We meet alot of single guys off swinger sites and allways have a first meeting contact in a public place, such as a restaurant and they allways know up front there will be no sex/playing on they day of the meeting. If they cant accept that they can look elsewhere. But that dosent allways work out to well either, meet one guy and became friends with him, started playing one night at his house. When things just started to get really fun he jumped out of the bed and wouldnt come back. Was funny as hell after looking back on it. ;)

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I don't know why, but I vote single guy... :lol: In fact, if you are in Florida.... j/k

 

Seriously though, there are a lot of nice single guys out there, take the time and find one. You never know, you might meet a friend for a long time to come. :)

 

Perseus

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Hey, thanks for posting this. It IS really sound advise. The wife and I just made our decision this week and are pretty well set to use the club system as it seems so much safer. The one we have chosen for New Years is a couples only club. Ahhhh. I feel better already. Just looking to get to know more about the life style and the people we encounter.

Cheers.

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We're not sure what you're expecting from the MMF. If you want some MM contact, you'll have to go very slowly and carefully, as that's not generally approved of in clubs. In that case, you'd do better with a single guy, with whom you can discuss your phantasies in advance. On the other hand, if what you want is simply to share your wife, or watch her being with another man, then go to a club. Most clubs have some nights when they admit single men as well as couples; pick one of those. Circulate around, meet some of the guys, and pick the one you like best. There are plenty of other people around (and security guards, too) so things can't get out of hand as they can with a single guy at your house. One thing we've done is to slip into the hottub and check the guys out. If there's somebody your wife likes, after awhile sit up on the edge of the tub and have your wife kneel in front of you and suck your cock. The guy will definitely notice, and if you look directly at him, he'll come over and start to fondle your wife's ass. She can then stop what she's doing with you, turn to him, and strike up a conversation (maybe with a little fondling to keep the fires hot). If she decides she'd like to party with him, the three of you can leave the tub and go to a room. If not, all the two of you have to do is excuse yourselves, get up and leave him in the tub. We've done this a couple of times, and both times had a sensational evening.

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With me and my wife, we first started with a friend of ours. We had known him for quite some time at the time of the encounter. My wife felt a little awkward after the fact, but we discussed her feelings and moved on. Personally for us, it was a good way to start, mmf. We recently had a full swap although the other woman was not into it as much as we all were. Basically, you have to find your own comfort level and go from there.

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Please don't exclude all single men from your playtime. There are many of us out here who are interested in the lifestyle but for one reason or another are not currently in a full time relationship. Myself, I am divorced and lead a very busy life as a commercial photographer and currently just don't have the time for or the interest in having a full time relationship. However I am always willing to get together with a couple for friendship and fun.

 

My experiences with couples have involved both straight and bi (orallly) sex, soft swing, full swap, or masterbation. I find that as long as I treat both parties as equals in friendship that everything goes smoothly. Mutual respect for all seems to be the key.

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Just an obtuse thought (please pardon my feeble attempt at analytic thinking)...

 

Wouldn't it seem somewhat safer to "play" with a married male. At least in theory, he would be most concerned about getting or spreading any infectious nasties - and discretion would seemingly be absolute.

 

Just wondering. ;)

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Have to vote "single" for the MFM. A MFM encounter is focusing on the female! :D Would not want to leave anyone out! And for the first time I think it would be a distraction to have another person there. There are single men on the lifestyle web sites and lots of them. You just have to take your time and search them out. Really pay attention to their profile. For us MFM was our first time so I (the female half) had to have a comfort level. Boy was I scared too. Going to a club I don't think would have given us enough time to reach that comfort level. A friend would not be for us either as that would change the friendship. You can find a profile that you are interested in; send an email and if they respond (as all do) then go back and forth with a few emails to get to know each other. Then when and if you get to a comfort level and all agree to meet, set up a lunch or dinner at a public place and meet. Be open about what you are looking for but keep in mind this single male is a person not a toy so there should be respect from all involved. You are about to make a decision to invite him into your sex life. I would think if you get a comfort level then it would not matter where you played. Afterall, this comfort level I am speaking of is a "trust" issue. If our first encounter had not went as well as it did.......I probably would not have tried it again. I am sure once you become a "seasoned" swinger (which we are not. lol) it would get easier but for us getting started.......we took our time. We have made mistakes and we have also learned from them but that is for a different thread! lol

 

and to add to this........tweedle..........

 

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Wouldn't it seem somewhat safer to "play" with a married male. At least in theory, he would be most concerned about getting or spreading any infectious nasties - and discretion would seemingly be absolute.

 

to assume that only "single" men have infectious nasties and don't have discretion...........OMG!!!!!!!! :nono: Half the married men I know have more mouth than an ole sow has tits!!!! Who knows what kind of nasties they have! Play fair!

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We said couple only because that was a fantasy for both of us to experience a 3 sum.. for her it was mfm for me fmf. we got that with this couple and someone was there to take pics to help us remember the experience. IT was great and we still play with this couple and we still come up with new things.

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First off, we're still vanilla but the clock is ticking. We will start out at a couples club as we both feel safest with that idea, meeting couples first. We will only start with soft swing....very soft. I'm sure that its possible to be able to find a couple or two to meet with to fulfill not only our fantasies, but they're fantasies as well. There are ways to make sure there is nobody left out.

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As a new to this site single male, I found the poll results and the posts here quite interesting. My experience with other swinger websites has been to find that virtually all couples post "NO SINGLE MEN!" on their ads as do many women who say "I ALREADY HAVE A MAN AND DON'T WANT YOU!" on theirs, in just the same typeface I used here, or they block single men, which amounts to the same thing. While here, many couples are looking for single men and often prefer them. I find that refreshing, but wonder why couples here are so more receptive.

 

I understand the prejudice against single men-a lot of the ads I've seen would turn me off too with the boasting, etc. and I try not to fit that profile-my ad is pretty low-key and so am I, so maybe I'll meet a nice couple here. I'm bi so I'm hoping to meet a couple where both partners would enjoy my company and the female partner enjoys watching her man being pleasured by another man.

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All my guys have been single...our first MFM was with a old boyfriend of mine, which to Mr. Midnight meant there would be little chance of a *bad* situation happening..and from what I can tell most first MFM are with friends...not all but a large portion...

To me the scene you are talking about is more of a soft swap...the whole idea to me of MFM is for me to be *Queen* for the nite :D and not to have to worry about another person hanging around..and since Mr. Midnight gets off more on the watching and then his part of the heavy play comes in after the other guy leaves...everyone is usually very happy... ::P:

My vote is for the single man every time... facelick

 

Midnight Hour

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We are only interested in couples. There is more stability there.

 

If you are with the right people you should be able to do whatever you all agree on.

 

The "odd man out" can always run the video and still cameras! :-)

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Will your partner suck another man?

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