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My Theory On Why Guys Like MFM and Watching Their Wives Get Pounded By Another Guy

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I've always wondered why so many guys are into MFM and watching their wives with another guy.

 

One theory I've concocted (aside from the obvious thrill associated with something taboo / fantasy / different) is this:

 

Most guys watch / have watched a lot of porn or become aroused by watching a girl and a guy getting it on. There are PLENTY of studies about how the brain is wired and how porn is like a drug, in fact a fantastic video is here:

 

IMO, after years and years of associating watching a guy (obviously other than yourself) and a girl having sex, and getting turned on, your brain gets conditioned (yes, like Pavlovian dogs and a bell) to associate another guy and a girl = pleasure.

 

When you're banging your own wife, it's hot and fun, but you can't really see her getting pounded like you've been conditioned to see from years of porn.

 

So, when you're able to see your wife getting pounded by another guy, it triggers years of "other guy + girl = dopamine levels go up = YAHOO!".

 

Again, my theory is that one of the contributing factors to why guys like seeing their wives get pounded by other guys is because of years of conditioned response from watching lots of porn and similar stimuli.

 

Thoughts?

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Y'know, I've said this same thing to people before. The only amendment I would make would be to add that it's even better than porn because when you get turned on watching, you can do something about it more than rubbing one off.

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It's not that at all for me. When my wife let's go of her inhibitions and just enjoys sex for the physical pleasure of sex, she's the sexiest woman I've ever known. When she decides that she wants to have sex with another man she's totally let go of those inhibitions.

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I've always wondered why so many guys are into MFM and watching their wives with another guy.

 

One theory I've concocted (aside from the obvious thrill associated with something taboo / fantasy / different) is this:

I too have wondered so I'm interested to see how people respond. I have, in fact, very little desire to see my wife with another guy except to occasionally look in to see that she is having a good time. My goal is to get inside of some other guy's wife. People can watch or not watch my action as they might want. I don't care.

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I have to disagree with your theory - at least from our perspective. While I think my husband does enjoy seeing me with others, it's not the porn factor...it's that he wants/likes to see me enjoying myself, letting go of my inhibitions, and being sexually free to express myself.

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Male half here.

I suppose I agree. I've seen a lot of porn I guess. When we had our three gang bang parties in hotel rooms I filmed it all, spent a lot of time editing the clips together, then selling them over the internet and sending the DVD disc's by post and also a local sex shop agreed to sell them on the side. We sold around 200-300 disc's of the gang bangs. I always wondered if anyone would transfer them to computer file and upload to the internet, I'm surprised I havn't seen any of them floating around the internet yet I mean its been over a couple of years ago.

 

I also filmed her with numerous amount of men in hotel rooms, amateur interracial hardcore creampie stuff. Stored all the files to computer, uploaded a few to the internet. Then later we decided we wanted to start a family so I deleted everything we ever did as we don't want our kids to ever see their mom doing all those things.

 

I could type out a huge, huge article of all the things we've done, how we feel about everything. Bottom line is: watching her have pleasure from some big black dude is just really, really hot. Especially after he has cum inside her and then I go in for sloppy seconds her pussy feels incredibly silky smooth.

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I am sure there are almost as many reasons men like to see their wives having sex with someone else as their are men that like seeing their wife have sex with someone else.

 

For me it is about seeing my wife really enjoy herself, be it swinging or vanilla activities. I don't thing the porn aspect has much to do with it for me, otherwise I don't think I would be so disappointed when she has a "good time" versus a "great time."

 

When we are with couple I am far more focused on the women I am with than my wife, though I do pay attention to her from time to time.

 

It is a little different for MFM, because I am pay all of my attention to my wife. One thing I have found fascinating and something I really enjoy are the little things that a different perspective allows. There are just somethings that are more difficult to notice about how she reacts and what her body does when it just the two of us, as opposed to when another guy is with her. The difference in perspective and ability to step away without stopping her pleasure affords me the opportunity to see the bigger picture I suppose. In any case I enjoy her having fun as much I enjoy my own fun,

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I think you're spot on when it's discussed as a fantasy. When/If it becomes a reality, that reason is probably too shaky to stay standing and leads to the erratic/oh-my-god-i-didn't-actually-want-this behavior.

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One thing that has been proven time and again, is that you have more arousal and "bigger" orgasms when you think you mate has had sex with another male.

 

My wife has watched porn and shes not particularly turned on by watching me with another woman. This sort of response ONLY makes evolutionary sense in relation to the male. If you are say out on a hunt, and you come back and wonder if your mate has been fucking around or not, having sex right then, with a bigger orgasm would increase the chance of any offspring being your own instead of the other males.

 

When we started swinging I did not overly enjoy watching my wife have sex, this was still the getting rid of the jealousy phase. Now I do.

 

My theory is that when jealousy is beaten, you can "enjoy" the increased arousal/orgasm response.

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We agree with CoupleErotic: I love watching her have sex with someone (M or F). It's the prospective thing. I can see her hips quiver, legs tighten up, the Flush that colors her skin. The whole erotic thing, and it's NOT a fantasy, it's RL.. She enjoys it as much as I, being the show, loving the role. It's drawn us closer for sure.

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When you're banging your own wife, it's hot and fun, but you can't really see her getting pounded like you've been conditioned to see from years of porn.

 

Conditioned? I think you are right on some of your presumptions. I wanted to watch my wife getting fucked from a different perspective. She wouldn't let me take pictures or videos because she didn't want to be identified doing something like that . The only thing I could think of was to talk her into having sex with another man so that i could watch it.

 

So, when you're able to see your wife getting pounded by another guy, it triggers years of "other guy + girl = dopamine levels go up = YAHOO!".

 

I'll admit that it is an incredible experience watching your wife enjoying having sex with another man in front of you.

 

Again, my theory is that one of the contributing factors to why guys like seeing their wives get pounded by other guys is because of years of conditioned response from watching lots of porn and similar stimuli.

 

I think it's kind of a natural kind of thing that just happens. The feelings, thoughts and desires were always there. In my opinion if I watched pro porn I might get the opposite feeling as if that kind of thing was very unerotic. I'm not sure by what you mean by "similar stimuli".

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You may be onto something there.... would be interesting to do a study of those in the lifestyle who enjoy the MFM vs those who don't and porn enjoyment.

 

We aren't really into porn, he's never been and he's not remotely interested in MFM or watching me with another guy (ok with me being so long as he's with the woman).

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IMHO, having someone else want your woman as much as you do reaffirms the fact that your woman is as hot and desirable as you already thinks she is.

 

I've heard that used before and I think its not valid. I've known guys have wanted to do my wife from WAY back when we were first together. Its not like I wanted to validate her looks then. I also think this is rather insulting to the wife in a way, "well he finds her attractive enough to fuck once, so its ok that I do!".

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I don't think watching porn videos has anything to do with it.

Men are just hardwired period to respond to sex images.

Whether it's porn videos, pictures or watching it live.

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Before we were married, Laura's mother remarked, "I'll bet you're filled with pride when that gorgeous young woman is perched behind you on that motorcycle!"

 

Well... yes, I was. I saw nothing wrong with that. There were other things about her that filled me with pride, not the least of which was (later) watching her amazing performance with another man.

 

Alura

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