Originally Posted by Opportunists
I agree fully. There are a lot of singles out there that have had threesomes before who are not swingers. I had a couple as a young adult myself. It is just a matter of taking the time to get to know them and try to find their comfort level without revealing to much. It also works best for us if she questions the girls and I question the guys otherwise they may get the impression you are looking to cheat. Our current friend is vanilla but it is not her first threesome or her first girl girl experiance. Everyone is different and you have find what works for you. With single girls and guys we prefer to pursue who we like no matter what their title is. The only guy the wife has been with was also vanilla and someone she has know for years. No problems with it so far. And to be honest we have met some great people who are swingers we got out of it for a while because our worst nightmares have been with swingers unfortunately.We have had this experience several times over the years, and what we've found works the most often is simply to let the woman know that it's out there for them if they want it.
It may take a little time for them to ponder, but if they're into it... or thinking about it then they'll let you know. Believe it or not, an uninhibited night of sex with no strings or consequences with a couple [or part of a couple] seems to be enticing to many single women.