Group Sex and Orgies

[NealnAnji]

This question may have been asked before, but for our edigfication could someone explain the difference between an orgy and group sex.

We have been invited by a couple to a swingers party with group sex as the main theme. There will be around 10 couples.We are not sure exactly what we should expect. We are relatively new to swinging and have swapped with other couples a few times that has included a vacation with three other couples. We did not engage in what may or may not be called group sex. We did play with the other spouses by removing clothing, touching the vital parts and foreplay on the woman's breasts, clitoris and man's genitles. However, when we swapped for the night we stayed with the one wife/another's hubby combination for full swap that included sexual intercourse. Each night, of course, we swapped and had a different man/woman combination and shared bed for intercourse.At other times we would draw out of a hat for the excitement of having a new partner for sex for the night. We are not sure we are ready for group sex or orgy yet with may couples participating and fucking anyone openly.

My wife is concerned about participating in group sex at swingers' party which she visualizes as several men penetrating her, in turn, by placing the penis in her vagina, and the men having full orgasm and ejaculation. We would like to get the real scoop as to what group sex means and is it the same as an orgy. Knowing the difference and deciding whether or not to participate will go a long ways in relieving her anxiety. She needs lots of foreplay to release vaginal moisture or a lubricant, instead, for ease of entry of the man's penis in her vagina to make penile/vaginal intercourse pleasurable.

[Lorrelei]

My understanding is an orgy is four or more people having sex, with at least two being females.

Group sex is at least four people; doesn't matter how many men or women.

Other groups:

Then there's gang bang, which is sex with at least four men and only one woman.

Then the old-fashioned menage a trois, of course sex with only three people; doesn't matter how many men or women.

[JustAskJulie]

Basically when it comes to a party like this, group sex just means that everyone will be having sex in the same room rather than splitting off and going to different areas of the house as couples or smaller unites (3somes/4somes). It doesn't necessarily mean that any particular thing will happen and the only thing that will happen is what you want to happen.

No matter what it's called or what the situation is, NO still means NO. If you don't want something to happen, don't let it. If she's not comfortable with something, say no.