Professional Couples?

[95mustang]

Okay so I was looking at ads on Swing Lifestyle and came across one stating that they only wanted to be contacted by professional couples and that if you don't know what that means that you are not a professional. I have seen this kind of comments in ads before, but I am wondering from those of you that are only looking for professionals what does that mean to you? For instance my SO is in sales which we would consider a "professional" job, however I am a homemaker. So would that automatically disqualify someone from your list?

[Pinmonkey]

Unless they want a couple that work in the sex/porn/prostitution industry?

I guess I'm not a professional because I'm not sure what they want either. lol

[JustAskJulie]

me either! LOL.

My first thought reading your post was just what Pinmonkey said.

[newmajor00]

My guess is it's a "Social" filter they are applying towards potential couples.

[95mustang]

Here's how I see it. Maybe them mean mature and sophisticated couple. I mean really how many people could honestly reply to that. I would think that would immediately eleminate anyone in a blue collar position or with a couple if even one of them works a blue collar job. On top of that you have so many people(like me) who when I worked I was an administrative assistant. I never considered it a profession it was just a job and a bad one at that. Anyway, I don't know what all that means, but regardless of what they are looking for we would never reply to that. I do consider my "job" now to be a true profession and one I am really good at, but that line did make me laugh. And I have noticed that most of the ads that say they are looking for a professional couple also state that they are looking for such because of discretion due to their job. Okay I can see that as valid. You will never see a picture of us unless you ask for one because of discretion, you never know who is lurking, but come on don't we all want discretion?

[SnsualPrsuasion]

My guess would probably be this: They want people that are professional because they want to make sure that whomever they hook up with is on the same financial level, that way when they want to pick up and go out to a club, house party, trip to Atlantic City or the sweet B&B down the street, they KNOW the other couple will have the funds. We state on our own ad that we've got kids, & we have to plan almost everything ahead of time so that there are no strains on our limited budget. Anyone else think that's what it means?

~Mrs. Snsual~

[two4youinswva]

We are guilty of using this adjective to describe ourselves. This is what it means to us (Not that we are the final authority).

1. We are in white collar positions.
2. We believe we have careers and not just jobs.
3. We seek to "move up" to positions of greater responsibility, and pay, within our career fields. We have had some success so far.

Now, we don't limit ourselves to playing only with other "professionals". A good sense of humor, great conversation, and sexy looks come from all types of folks.
As a matter of fact, one of our favorite couples is somewhat bohemian, and we really enjoy their perspective on things (Not to mention how well they play with others).

[DnHtxCPL]

Well my thinking on this is a professional would be someone that has a state (or govt) issued license that they can take away from you if you screw up somehow, But i feel that anything that i get paid to do makes me a "professional" don't you?

Then again I may just be warped

[ANGEDKY(mr)]

somewhat bohemian

...........................I just have to ask, I've never heard this term before other than being from Bohemia (as in U.S.S.R.)

[Carol_Danny]

In many cases it is a "class" issue, and people are stating that they want people of the same class level of themselves. It is unfortunate, but quite true, as we know a number of similar people who would never step out with people they considered beneath them.

Then again, I have seen ads that ask for "working class only", so it can work both ways.

[95mustang]

So how many people out there are homemakers out there? And for those of you that do put "professional" in an ad, would that be a requirement of both people in a couple? Someone said that they would take that to mean "financially in the same area" or something like that. I can totally understand that, however how do you really determine that?

Mrs.

[JustAskJulie]

Interesting concept. Profession rarely has anything to do with financial status. If anything for many (at least around here) the more you make the more likely you are to not be able to afford anything because you are in debt up to your eyeballs. So if you are "professional" and judging people based on their income, that really may not affect whether or not they are in the same "class" as you or able to enjoy themselves to the same level as you.

[Carol_Danny]

I agree Julie, which is why I only mentioned the concept of "class" and not "finances". Many Professionals do not make all that much money, but because of education and bearing are considered to have "class"

If it was solely based on finances, well my neighbour who is a plumber (and we live in an very upper middle class neighbourhood) makes a lot more money than my doctor and lawyer neighbours! The Brick Layer around the corner isn't doing too bad either

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by ANGEDKY(mr)

...........................I just have to ask, I've never heard this term before other than being from Bohemia (as in U.S.S.R.)

Here ya go!

"Bohemia" is actually in the Czech Republic.

[Botcpl]

A professional is someone who gets paid for it. I am afraid it is being used as a class distinction and not properly so.

I am a carpenter by trade. Through my trade I became a construction expert. That lead me to being part of a real estate development team that includes accountants, lawyers and engineers. Last night they told me how glad they are to have me on their team because they would have been lost without me. In act, one keeps saying, "...and you learned all of this by being a carpenter?" "A..yeah."

I think we all have to be discrete wheather you are a brain surgeon or a taxi driver, we all have the right to privacy.

As far as class distinction goes, the content of you heart is more important than the content of your bank account.

Several years ago I was at a social function and wound up at a table where this guy let me know that he was better than me because he was a lawyer and a professional and I was only a contractor. Later he was talking to me about remodeling his kitchen and I had to let him know, "Sorry, I don't work for attorneys, they work for me."

P