Are you swinging or swapping?

[northindycpl]

And does it matter?

We have recently been somewhat bombarded by swingers who want nothing more than to swap partners. Same room and for the most part same bed, but swapping, completion and end the night.

Is swapping really swinging? To me swinging is more about the added play between the couples, especially and specifically where bi-women are involved. I have been pretty confused about the swapping for the sake of fucking play. I guess I have just assumed that straight women play this way in a couples situation and bi-women don't. Am I wrong?

What are your experiences with just swapping and not playing?

[Jamie&Kieth]

I think you are over analyzing the situation. Keep it simple and have some fun.

Swinging = sex
Swapping = sex
sex = fun

As far females playing amongst themselves ... hey some do and some don't

What about males playing amongst themselves ... or is that too gross?

[two4youinswva]

We're with ya on this one NIC.

We much prefer a "four-car pileup" to straight swapping.
---Or a six-car pileup. Six is good too! Lots of added combinations! facelick

Not knocking straight swapping here. To each their own and more power to you!

Originally Posted by Jamie&Kieth

What about males playing amongst themselves ... or is that too gross?

Once again, "To each their own". I envy those that are bi all around. They have even more combinations available than we do!

But, in the words Popeye; "I yam what I yam". So I'll just have to settle with screwing Mrs othercouple while she goes down on Mrs two4you who's giving Mr othercouple a BJ. (It's tough, but I'll work through it)

[VegasLee]

Remember KISS?

Keep
It
Simple
Sexy



Don't keep thinking to much about all this. Get naked and have fun.

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

We're with ya on this one NIC.

We much prefer a "four-car pileup" to straight swapping.
---Or a six-car pileup. Six is good too! Lots of added combinations! facelick

Not knocking straight swapping here. To each their own and more power to you!


Once again, "To each their own". I envy those that are bi all around. They have even more combinations available than we do!

But, in the words Popeye; "I yam what I yam". So I'll just have to settle with screwing Mrs othercouple while she goes down on Mrs two4you who's giving Mr othercouple a BJ. (It's tough, but I'll work through it)

If there we're little dancing smilies holding up ditto signs: We'd place them here! lol....Well, except that we do get the added benefit of both being bi, and when we can find all bi playmates: It's a blast! Nothing wrong with straight people going at it though....Not sure that you could do any other combination than swapping??? Why would you if everyone is straight? That's what's fun for them and that's what it's about!

[DBL D]

We have no problem with the straight couple vs. straight couple routine. Fem D will be bi with the right lady and may even be surprised to find a "straight" lady that is interested in her. It's all fun though. My thought is that she'd rather be with at least a bi-curious lady instead of a straight one, but she says that it isn't a problem.

Personally I love the idea of spending an entire day with a couple and seeing and helping how things turn out. We get to know each other a bit, and that makes it seem a lot less like swapping for sex and something that friends like us do. See what I mean?

Have you been going to a lot of clubs lately? That seems like an atmosphere where you would most likely "swap". We've been trying to spend an afternoon or evening with a couple and have fun throughout and staying away from the clubs. [I guess that would answer the question as to what we'd do if one of our clubs were under attack (they aren't)...we'd just find another way to spend our play time... ]

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Good luck to you northindycpl...I hope you find the right combination that will feel right for you soon.

Male D

[dave1234]

Swinging is NOT swapping!

Swapping means you really want to hose or get hosed by someone who is not your life partner. Swinging is about sharing your combined sexuality with others.

[VegasLee]

Originally Posted by dave1234

Swinging is NOT swapping!

Swapping means you really want to hose or get hosed by someone who is not your life partner. Swinging is about sharing your combined sexuality with others.

Does this mean that Laura and I have to have sex with the same person for us to be swinging?

[Greg & Sheryl]

Swapping is definitiely swinging, but swinging does not necessarily include swapping. There are many facets to the swinging lifestyle, but swapping partners is only one of them. But these definitions really don't matter as long as you're having fun.

Originally Posted by northindycpl

I have been pretty confused about the swapping for the sake of fucking play. I guess I have just assumed that straight women play this way in a couples situation and bi-women don't.

If the ladies are bi, it just provides more possible combinations for the couples.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by northindycpl

And does it matter?

Nope, not one bit.


Teresa

[beaverz]

Mr. ignorant here,

I am confused.

I thought swinging was essentially a couple choosing to have sex with others, and that swinging could take many forms: could be a threesome, another couple or a group of people (with or without bi play). And swapping was just a form of swinging.

Is there more to swapping?

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by beaverz

Mr. ignorant here,

I am confused.

Is there more to swapping?

Well atleast from my experience, it seems that swapping is a term that mean just screwing each others partners.

I think that swapping is part of swinging, but atleast IMHO, I want a bit more.

I, too, have been confused recently after meeting a couple at the club. They asked what we were into and I said well we are a 'full swap' couple and so forth. The woman looked at me oddly and said they don't swap they swing.

I probed her a bit more and she meant that they do not pair off with eachothers spouses, and in her opinion swapping was more of 1 on 1 activity that was done alone.

I then started to think about past play sessions and noticed that it does seem like a lot of couples (yes at the club) swap and run off to fuck, while there are not so many couples that all play together.

That is what prompted this thread... I am really curious to hear others answers!

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by dave1234

Swinging is NOT swapping!

Wow!
You could have posted this on Spoo's Random Attacks thread and got a good run out of it!

Originally Posted by VegasLee

Does this mean that Laura and I have to have sex with the same person for us to be swinging?

VegasLee, you've got so much "credibility" with us, that if you said "driving on the wrong side of the road is swinging", we'd believe you, and probably try it.

Mr two4you
--(Still on the right side of the road.... for now)

[northindycpl]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

VegasLee, you've got so much "credibility" with us, that if you said "driving on the wrong side of the road is swinging", we'd believe you, and probably try it.

Mr two4you
--(Still on the right side of the road.... for now)

ROFL well heck, if that is all it takes then I have it on good authority that Lee wants you to send the Indy's a check for a million bucks, cause that is swinging!

[CB_n_Red]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

VegasLee, you've got so much "credibility" with us, that if you said "driving on the wrong side of the road is swinging", we'd believe you, and probably try it.

Mr two4you
--(Still on the right side of the road.... for now)

Knowing that the majority of you are in North America, that has some interesting implications for us Brits!

As for the swap/swing distinction - I've never heard anyone here make such a distinction. It's all just good clean fun! facelick

CB