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  1. We all know that cheating involves being dishonest with a partner when having sex with someone else. However, there seem to be a hazy line between cheating, cuckolding, and hotwifing that I'd like to be more cleared up for myself. For example, let's say a man knows that his wife is having sex with another man. They don't talk about and it she obviously avoids the subject when asked. Pretty clear cut that it's cheating, right? But let's say that he isn't angry about it but quite turned on. Does this turn into a cuckolding situation or does cuckolding require the element of knowing humiliation between both wife and husband? Thus, does that mean that hotwifing is a full disclosure of when the wife goes out and has sex with other men? Or does it just mean that the husband and wife both know that each other knows she does out, he finds it arousing, but there doesn't really have to be any communication about her escapades? Anyone willing to expand how they view these three situations?
  2. We're headed to St Maartin for vacation tomorrow and we were debating whether or not all naturalists were exhibitionists and if either were necessarily swingers...curious to have input. We'll be eyeballing people on the nude beaches and may wonder if they're swingers or not... Comments please....
  3. We have been with a few bi curious woman couples and every one of them would kiss, feel my wife up, let her feel up the bi curious one, even let my wife eat her but not return the favor. Then we have met the Bi curious lady who will do anything. Why do they call themselves bi curious? This really has us baffled
  4. I created a new sex game for my wife and I last week and part of the game was what was to be done with 'what' to 'what'. Anyway, we came to a bit of confusion on what to call her vagina. Vagina is simply too formal to use during sex. Now, I've always disliked some of the terms like, love hole, and hated some like, cunt. In writing I've tended to use pussy mostly but found out that my wife doesn't really like that either. I did some research and we agreed on the Swedish word, slida. Hey, it sounds so nice and slick, and I like slick. But, I'm curious, what do you folks prefer to call it?
  5. We are a swinging couple, in that we have foursomes and moresomes. But my wife also is a hotwife, in that we have MFM threesomes together and she sometimes solos without me. I got to wondering, how many other couples do stuff like this? And here’s the answer: In 61.7% of couples that swing the wife is also a hotwife. Now, before you go quoting that figure as gospel, or try to tell me I’m full of it, let me say that you should read this whole message. (Preview: It’s quite likely that the figure isn’t true.) So, how did I come to this figure? What I did was I analyzed 120 swinger profiles on SLS. I picked them from various locations, suburbs of large cities, made sure that the profiles were paid, and the couple said they did full swap. I sorted the profiles into three categories: 1) Couples that said they are as interested in single males as they are in swinging, 2) couples that said they like swinging more but they can get into single males, 3) couples that said they have no interest in single males. Category 1 was 37.5% of the profiles. Category 2 was 24.2% of the profiles. Category 3, couples that have no interest, is 38.3% Add Category 1 and Category 2 together, you get that 61.7% figure. So, while I was at it, I also analyzed the age of women who are in such couples. I was surprised to find that the percentage goes down as women get older, I thought it would be the other way around. Heres the table. Age 21-29, 80% 30-39, 60% 40-49, 70.8% 50-59, 52.5% 60 and up, 50% So, that’s my findings, based on analyzing profiles of couples on SLS. Is the study flawed? Hell, yes! • I only looked at couples who are paid members on SLS, maybe they’re not representative of the whole population of swingers. • I only looked at couples in the suburbs. If you go either into the inner city or out to rural areas, who knows what that would show. • The sample size of 120 couples is way too small. If I’d get up to 1,000 I’d feel a little more confident. 5,000, and I’d say yeah. I'm not going to spend that kind of time. • I trusted that what the couples said in their profiles is true. We all know that you can’t rely on it, ages in particular are misstated. If you have any questions about what I did, go ahead and ask. If you want to see the actual data, IM me with an email address and I'll send you the spreadsheet. Yeah, I’ve got way too much time on my hands.
  6. This is the wife half asking this question. Am I correct in the definition of a poly in the fact that it means you believe you can love more than one person at the same time? If so, I am a little confused on how that can be. I guess I always felt that if you are truly in love your heart and soul is to that one person. How can you love more than one person at once and still feel that it is really love to both or either person? Please don’t take my question as a negative one, I am just very curious and would love to learn about how it works. I have only recently learned or heard about the lifestyle of polyamores, so I am intrigued and curious to learn a bit more on it. Also how then do you feel that you have met your soulmate, or do you believe there is no such thing or even possibly more than one soulmate for you? Thank you for any replies that may help me to understand this better.
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    One Word / Sentence I Hate?

    One Word / Sentence I Hate? Been reading a lot of profiles / messages of late and I have discovered I really don't like the word “Discreet” I hate it in fact. I mean what does even mean? Does it mean you won't tell anyone? Does it mean your going to sneak in my house under the cover of darkness? Does it just mean your cheating? Does it mean you have a really high flying job? Does it mean your paranoid? Are you going to wear a disguise? You know the only explanation you get is..... Discreet. Secondly I have also come to dislike the sentence, or question. What you looking for then? What you into? Well I'm looking to win the lottery thanks and I'm fairly into eating ice cream. You know like I'm on a swingers site for sex, what do you think I'm here for to make balloon animals. I think that's what I'm going to do, when someone asks what I'm into / what I'm looking for then I'm just go give the crazies answer possible, you know I'm here to learn about naked jam making, or that I'm a test pilot for Viagra's new secret drug Any words.... Questions..... Sentences that annoy the hell out of you in this lifestyle? An please don't say Sun & Moon.... Of Cliffy!
  8. Flamekasters signature line made me think of something that happened several years ago and I wonder if this might be where their signature line comes from as well.... and perhaps there are others who have turned funny situations into whole new words. Many years ago I was playing with some good friends of mine and it must have been one of the first time that I had given this guy head to completion because as he's getting close he yells "Julie I'm Gonna Cum" and I just kept going. I let him know later that I didn't need a warning (but that was rather polite of him). There was a room full of our friends when this occured and just the way that it happened was rather funny and resulted in a new term amongst our friends "JIGC" (or Julie I'm Gonna Come). ---- FlameKasters Signature: BOHICA (Bend Over Here it Comes Again). So after seeing FlameKasters signature line it reminded me of that story and I wondered if perhaps their term came from a similar funny experience... and wondered if perhaps others had coined their own terms after something funny happened or was said in a swinging situation.
  9. What do all those swinger profile acronyms mean? Here you will find your answers. 420 - refers to marijuana use. AC/DC - Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity (see BI; BISEXUAL). ADULT - Euphemism for pornographic. AFF -Refers to the website Adult Friend Finder ALL CULTURES - Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE). AMERICAN CULTURE - Man on top, the missionary position. ANAL SEX - Anal intercourse (see GREEK; GREEK CULTURE). ANALINGUS - Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other. ANIMAL TRAINING / ANIMALS - Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women (see BEASTIALITY) ARTS - Euphemism for fetishes (see CULTURE). B&D or B/D -Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave" (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM). BBC - Big Black Cock. BBW - Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their “ideal” weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are. BDSM - A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power. BEASTIALITY - (see ANIMAL TRAINING). BI - Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC). BI-COMFORTABLE - A Male or Female who is open to bi-sexual activities within swinging, but does not consider themselves bi-sexual or attracted to the same sex. (see also HETERO-FLEXIBLE and SOCIALLY BI). BI-CURIOUS - A Male or Female who has some level of interest in trying same-sex activities. BIZARRE - Unusual sexual desires. BONDAGE - A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive." BUKKAKE - a Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male. BYOB - Used to indicate that visitors must supply their own alcohol, common practice at clubs where local ordinances may prevent the sale of alcohol. However, they will usually provide "mixers" (i.e. sodas, juices, ice) (See also MIXERS PROVIDED). CAN ENTERTAIN / CAN HOST – Swinger willing to invite others to their home for swinging. CAN TRAVEL /WILL TRAVEL- Swinger willing to travel to your home to swing. CANING - A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood. CHEATING - Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent. CLEAN - Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases. CLOSED DOOR - (see CLOSED SWINGING). CLOSED SWINGING - Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy. CLOSET SWINGER - A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger (see DISCREET). COUGAR - Name for an older woman who is seen to be aggressive in pursuing younger men. COUPLE - In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on-going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes. CPL - (see COUPLE). CUCKOLD - While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition. CULTURE - Euphemism for Fetish or Arts. CUNNILINGUS - Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE) D/D FREE - Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is STD free and does not use drugs. DILDO - An artificial penis, usually made of rubber, glass, or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus. HALL PASS - 1. A permission given to one married partner by the other to independently find and engage in sexual play. 2. A permission to play away from home without the presence of the other married partner. DIRECTOR - The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager. DISCIPLINE - A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings. DISCREET OR DISCRETION - Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity. DOCILE - Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE). DOGGING - Dogging is a British euphemism for engaging in sexual acts in a semi-public place (typically a secluded car park or a movie theater) or watching others doing so. Frequently, there are more than two participants; group sex and sometimes even gang bangs can occur. Observation is encouraged, thus voyeurism and exhibitionism are closely associated with dogging. The two sets of people involved often meet either randomly or (increasingly) arrange to meet-up beforehand over the internet. DOMESTIC TRAINING - Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature. DOUBLE PENETRATION - Being penetrated in two orifices at the same time (usually refers to anal and vaginal, may also include oral). DP - Double Penetration. DOMINANT - A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner. ENGLISH CULTURE - Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning. ENTERTAIN - (see CAN ENTERTAIN). EUROPEAN STYLE CLUB - One that requires clothing to be removed (sometimes after a certain time of night). EXHIBITIONIST - Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched. F – Female. FELLATIO - Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth. FETISH - Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy. FFM or FMF - Threesome involving two women and one man (see THREESOME). FFM sometimes refers to a threesome that is female-centric, where the women play more with each other. FLAGELLATION - Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking. FRENCH CULTURE - Oral-genital sexual activity (see FELLATIO; CUNNILINGUS). FRIENDS FIRST - Interested in developing some level of friendship prior to sexual play (see INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP). FULL SWAP - Two couples exchanging partners for all sexual activities including intercourse. FUN AND GAMES - Euphemism for sexual activity. GAY - A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian. GBM - Gay Black Male. GENEROUS - Refers to money for sex. GIRL-GIRL - The girls will play while the guys watch. GOLDEN SHOWER - Refers to urine play (see WATERSPORTS). GREEK CULTURE - Anal-penile intercourse. GROUP ROOM - Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. GROUP SEX - Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people. GWM - Gay White Male. HARD CORE - A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected. HARD SWINGING - (see HARD CORE). HEAD - Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see FRENCH CULTURE; FELLATIO; CUNNILINGUS). HEDONIST - Someone who lives for pleasure; used by some as euphemism for a swinger. HETERO-FLEXIBLE - (see BI-COMFORTABLE). HETEROSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex. HOMOSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to members of the same sex (see GAY). HORNY - Sexually tense; in need of sexual pleasure. HUNG - Refers to a man with a large penis. HWP - Height-Weight Proportionate; someone who is at their ideal body weight. INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP - Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values (see FRIENDS FIRST). IR – Interracial. IRL - In Real Life; used in ads or online chat. ISO - In Search Of; used in ads, example: MWC ISO Single Female. LEATHER - A fetish; sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments. LESBIAN - A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women (see GAY; HOMOSEXUAL). LTR - Long Term Relationship. M – Male. MARITAL AIDS - Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others. MASOCHISM - Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. MASTER/SLAVE - Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship (see B&D; BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM). MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM - (see GROUP ROOM). MBC - Married Black Couple. MBiC - Married Bisexual Couple. MEET & GREET (M&G) - A swinger event, usually held in a public place, for the purpose of meeting other swingers. MEET FOR PLEASURE - Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity. MENAGE A TROIS - Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction (see THREESOME, TRIAD). MFM or MMF - Threesome involving two men and one woman (see THREESOME). MFM may but not always refers to two straight males and a female, while MMF refers to two bi-males and a female. MILF - "Mom I'd Like to Fuck" - used to refer to older women that are attractive. MIXERS PROVIDED - Used to indicate that the club/party will provide mixers (juice, sodas, ice) for those in attendance but you will need to bring your own alcohol (see BYOB). MORESOMES - More than three people in a swinging interaction (see GROUP SEX). MWC - Married White Couple. NASCA - The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. NEWBIES - New people in swinging; First-timers. NSA - No Strings Attached. Sex without any expectations beyond that encounter. OFF-PREMISE - No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers. ON-PREMISE - A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play. OPEN DOOR - (see OPEN SWINGING). OPEN RELATIONSHIP - A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage. OPEN SWINGING - A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy. ORGY Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex. PARTY - Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging. PARTY CLOTHES - Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play. PARTY HOUSE - A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. PASSIVE - Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging (see DISCIPLINE). PASSIVELY BI - A male or female that will accept same sex touch/ attention but will not return it (i.e. you can go down on me, but I don't go down on you). PHOTOGRAPHY - Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs. PLAYDAR - That internal feeling you get that another couple may also be swingers (think Gaydar for swingers). POLYAMORY - A love relationship involving more than two people. P/P - Photo and phone number (used in personal ads). PRO - Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts. RECREATIONAL SWINGER - A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long-term friendship or emotional attachment. RESTRAINT - Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments. ROMAN - Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc. (see ROMAN CULTURE). ROMAN CULTURE - Sexual orgies. RUBBER - Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D. SAFE - Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile. SAME ROOM - Refers to playing together in the same room. May include soft swinging or full-swap. SAME ROOM SWAP - Refers to swapping partners in the same room. As opposed to SEPARATE ROOM. SBF - Single Black Female. SBiF - Single Bisexual Female. SBM - Single Black Male. SEPARATE ROOM - Couples will split up and go into separate rooms to swap partners. SGL - Single (see SINGLE). S&M or S/M - Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM; MASOCHISM; BDSM). SCAT - refers to the sexual use or excitement by excrement/fecal matter. SDC - refers to the website Swingers Date Club. SINGLE - A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status. SLS - refers to SwingLifestyle.com, one of the more popular swinger ad sites. SOCIAL - A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social. SOCIAL SWING CLUB - A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important. SOCIALLY BI - (see BI-COMFORTABLE). SODOMY - Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner. SOFT SWINGERS - Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse. SOFT SWAP - Two couples exchanging partners for certain types of sexual activity (defined by the couples involved); if intercourse takes place it is only between primary partners (see FULL SWAP). SOFT SWINGING - The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE). SRS - Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING). STD - Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem. STI – (see STD). STR or STR8 - straight (see STRAIGHT). STRAIGHT - Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or a person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people. SUBMISSIVE - Passive, wishes to be dominated (see PASSIVE). SWAP PICS - Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others. SWAPPING - Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity (see SOFT SWAP; FULL SWAP). SWEDISH CULTURE - Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another. SWF - Single White Female. SWM - Single White Male. SWING MAGAZINE – How swingers connected pre-internet. A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community. SWINGING - An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved. SWINGING LIFESTYLE - Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships. SWINGING MARRIAGE - Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals. SWM - Single White Male. THREESOME - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter (see MENAGE A TROIS). TICKET - A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing. TOYS - Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS). TRANSGENDERED - Individual who does not identify with his/her biologically assigned sex. Not related to sexual orientation. TRANSSEXUAL - Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion. TRANSVESTITE - A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual. TRAVEL - (see CAN TRAVEL). TRIAD - Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome. TRIOLISM - Used in personal ads to indicate desire for sexual threesomes but is not the same as TRIAD. TUBAL LIGATION - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the Fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation. UNICORN - a single female, bisexual or straight, who is willing to have sex with a couple. To some, that seems mythical. Hence, the name/title. UTOPIAN SWINGER - A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals. VANILLA - Typically refers to non-swingers (i.e. "vanilla friends"). VASECTOMY - Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male. VERSATILE - Bisexual (see AC/DC). VIBRATOR - Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another. VOLUPTUOUS - Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips. VOYEUR - A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts. VOYEURISM - Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity. WATERSPORTS - Typically refers to urine play (see GOLDEN SHOWER). WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS - Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.
  10. It's pretty accepted that the term for a lady who wants to join a couple in a threesome is 'Unicorn' because they're so rare. I just had a thought about what a male who wants to be with a swinger couple could be called, especially here in Florida... Python, because there are way too many! LOL!
  11. Please stop saying "her preference" in your personals ad. It’s understood. Besides, you sound ridiculous, redundant, and PC when you do. Kinda like the people who continue talking after saying “it goes without saying”. Try it next time, you won’t offend me. I’m not PC.
  12. Vegas Lee posted a few days ago regarding the difference between Swinging and being in "The Lifestyle", meaning that there are those who look at swinging as a full on lifestyle and they live it day to day, and there are those who occasionally swap partners. I would be interested to read others thoughts and to see whether or not you consider swinging a Lifestyle or just a Hobby.
  13. Ok, I do not consider myself Bi but maybe I am. Here's why: I find it extremely HOT to give a girl oral while another guy is doing her. Also like giving oral after he does her. No creampie eating. Just licking her out after good hard fucking or while he's fucking her. I also like to kiss her after she has sucked me and him off. I find a penis very attractive when it's handled by a woman. But in no way do I find being solo with a man attractive at all. I can't even think about anal giving or receiving with another guy, even with a woman present. But I have thought about licking his cock while he is doing her. Just to taste her on him...I have had a long long time ago a gay encounter and I'm 100% sure I'm not gay. I love woman and pleasing a woman or another couple. I'm not arrogant about it, it's just what turns me on. So what am I?? Help!!!
  14. "Friends with benefits" seems like one of those terms that means a lot of different things to different people. We've run into folks who use it to mean everything from "people we like enough to have sex with, but that's all we ever do together" to "we hang out all the time and occasionally have sex together". I'm curious to hear what you guys think when you see that particular phrase, and how you mean it if you use it.
  15. Hello Everyone. My wife and I have specialized in threesomes (fmf & mfm). My wife's ultimate fantasy is a gangbang. We organized one once, some guys didn't show up and we ended up having a mfm (again) with the only guy that was there. Then, (not related to the event) we decided to have a baby and stopped any sex meeting for about a year and half now. We will start meeting people again in a few months. Question (1) would be: Are we swingers by doing only threesomes? We talk a lot about my wife's fantasy and she'd love to be with 4 or 5 guys around her always, when we meet people from now on. We will also be meeting girls for fmf. I wouldn't mind to try 3 girls around me, but single women are so much harder to find! We love the energy of one person in the middle surrounded by the opposite sex. Question (2): Is Gangbang swinging? Hope to get that answered. Thanks!
  16. From a swingers' hook-up Web site, we receive this message from a couple saying that they seek a polyamorous relationship and ask, would we be interested. This makes me wonder how many different meanings do people carry around in their heads. I am fairly certain that it is not a goal but rather something that might develop; something four people might fall into without knowing even that it is happening until they wake up one day to a realization that it has become a fact. Analogous to two people "falling in love" except more than two people are involved. Am I correct?
  17. I'm just wondering why each swingers site has different terms for Bi-sexual play. Bi-friendly, Bi-curious, open minded, Bi-comfortable, etc, etc. Seems to me that three terms, Bi-active, Bi-passive and Bi-closed say it all. If a man or woman says they are B-active that would mean they're open to being the Bi initiator with a same sex partner. A woman or man who isn't strictly Bi could say Bi-passive meaning they'd be OK receiving the attention of a Bi-active same sex partner, right? Bi-closed means no Bi play at all. Three terms no ambiguity or am I missing something? What's your take on this?
  18. Words, words, words; talk, talk talk. I am beginning to believe that my wife and I get along better if we try not to classify ourselves. But what are we going to do. Sometimes friends and prospective friends want to know. And how do we tell them without writing a book. We fall back onto the well-worn but often-misunderstood two-word descriptions. What do these suggest to you? * swing separately * open marriage
  19. If a husband (or wife) sits home while his/her spouse goes out and gets laid, is this a part of swinging? Why?
  20. I don't like the term progressive used with swinging. It does suggest somehow more enlightened or better.
  21. I've been having this discussion with friends and I thought I'd bring it here. The discussion is regarding the meaning of the use "open-minded" in swinger ads. I've long seen it as a cliche term in swinger ads, with the thought that all swingers are "open minded", to a degree, when it comes to sex. Describing yourselves as open-minded is like saying you are "attractive" or that you don't want "drama". They are all subjective terms, that often get thrown around in ads simply because everyone else uses them. New couple sees terminology in 80% of other ads out there and comes to identify with it so they use it in their own ad, and so on without ever really stopping to think about what it actually means. However, it was recently pointed out that for some "open minded" or at least "sexually open minded" is really just a euphemism for saying that they are into male-male bisexuality. I know Chicup has said that here in the past in a tongue-in-cheek way under thread of "what people mean when they really say...", but now I'm wondering if that is the underlying "meaning" for those "in the know" (ie. other couples who are open to male-male play but not willing to be straight-forward about it). And, if so, where does that leave all the poor innocent folks who are just using the term thinking it means they are open to new ideas.... Thoughts? What does it mean to you when you read "open minded? Or better yet, what are you trying to convey when you use the term in your ad?
  22. My wife and I were invited to a fondue party by a couple that have an open relationship. We met them once through another couple at a regular bar. Question is what are the chances of this being a swing party? Do people still disguise swing parties for something else? Or are we worried for nothing? My wife and I have never swung but she does like women. We are not into swinging but are willing to play in other ways. We haven't even soft played before. No matter what my wife says she is trimming down below and I said same here. She replied that we both should. lol Yikes.
  23. A lot of people really get worked up with fear they might be "bi" or labeled "Bi". Most of this grief and heartache is unnecessary, simply the result of it being poorly defined. The standard definition of bisexual is anyone that has had sex with both genders or all genders but then it's tri-sexual try-sexual or whatever. But I digress. I think for the sake of swingfolk, who are on the cutting edge of human sexuality in my opinion, the definition needs to be your sexual preference is completely based on the gender you could fall in love with not who you can have sex with. Most guys can have sex with anyone or anything without an emotional component. Therefore if you have pleasured your share of men during parties or whatever but there is no way you are ever going to fall in love with another man I say you are not even Bi sexual. If you could have an emotional commitment to either gender then you are Bi-sexual and if you withhold your emotional self for those of the same gender you are homo-sexual. Agree or disagree why?
  24. I have seen this 'BULL' term tossed around in a few places. Is this just a twist to make some of these couples feel more comfortable when dealing with a Dom, with separation from BDSM? I've yet to find someone who knows what the slang means.
  25. Polyandry - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia In social anthropology and sociobiology, polyandry (Greek: poly many, andros man) means a female forming a stable sexual union with more than one male. The form of polyandry in which two (or more) brothers marry the same woman is known as fraternal polyandry, and it is believed by many anthropologists to be the most frequently encountered form. I'm surpised no one mentioned this before.. I know it is probably very uncommon since most swingers are a couple , but I thought it was interesting!
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