Would you make the call?

[cplnuswing]

If this were real life, not TV, and you were in Trina's position, when you called the hotel room to find the party going on and Tom having stepped out for a minute, would you call back? What would you say?

[two42lovers]

The whole scene with Trina and Tom has become pretty unrealistic.

As for us, we would have talked about expectations long before the actual situation came up. Either Tom has permission to play with his "crew friends" or not. The idea he started these Tokoyo flights without discussing it seems like a writer's construct, and very far from any reality we can imagine for a real swinger couple.

As for calling back. Yes. Of course. (She was calling her husband, she didn't reach him but was told he'd be right back. Why wouldn't she call back?)

[socolais]

International phone calls were expensive as hell!! And the sound quality totally sucked. I think the phone call scene was very unrealistic - the sound was good and she didn't have to yell. Remember how folks used to have to yell even on domestic long distance phone calls. Then there was a noticable time delay after you spoke before it reached the other end. It probably would have taken her at least an hour to make a Tokyo phone connection. That's half way around the world and it's daylight in both locations at the same time.

[knb2004]

Well, I would have just called him on his cell. Course, as a straight male, if I wake up to find I have a husband, I'll have other things to worry about than parties in hotel rooms.

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by two42lovers

As for calling back. Yes. Of course. (She was calling her husband, she didn't reach him but was told he'd be right back. Why wouldn't she call back?)

Well, maybe "y'all were partying (vanilla, not swinging), I knew it would be hard to talk, just thought we would talk later." That's plausible, we've done it ourselves. Also, Socolais point about calling long distance in those days is true.

So, given those things and Trina's concerns, would you call back and what would you say? Would you confront them directly about your worries, would you casually try to confirm or disprove what you think may be happening so as not to imply you didn't trust them, or would you just push the worry out of your mind and not call back?

[two42lovers]

Well, since we would've already talked about playing seperately, playing while he was away wouldn't be an issue. I would try calling back later. When we talked I would talk about loving him and what we would do when were together. I'd also ask about the party and if he was having fun.

If Trina suddenly asked Tom to not play while he was away, it's a whole different discussion. If Trina told Tom she didn't want him playing on his Tokoyo lay-overs, it would be a change, since the playing had been an on-going thing. Remember, it was why Tom was put on the Tokoyo route in the first place.

The previous episodes kinda implied Trina & Tom had a well established relationship, and were very comfortable in the swing lifestyle. The last episode burst that bubble, and portrayed them as having much poorer comunication. The decision to take a break from the lifestyle and work on their relationship was right on.

[JustAskJulie]

I think the issue of him partying in Tokyo should have been addressed very directly after the first time he did it. Granted he didn't play that night but Trina had tried to call him previoulsy and couldn't reach him because Rex had brought the party to Tom's room.

I found the scene a bit unrealistic as she was obvioulsy bothered by the chick answering the phone but chose to not do anything about it at that point. Based on the previous party, I would have been hesitant to assume that just because she answered, there was obviously more than just her there, that something was going on between them.

That said, to answer the question. Given the time and issues already mentioned with long-distance, if he was coming home the next day probably not. There was obviously a party going on and the likelihood of catching him later was probably not good.

If it were today given the technology advancements, still probably not for the same reason. There was obviously a party going on. Trying back later it would have still been noisy and difficult to talk. Although at least with cell phones I could ask him to go out in the hall and talk to me. But he would have been distracted and really not the best circumstances to talk. Calling even later would have probably caught him asleep post-party. I would have done what Trina did and waited to talk to him till he got home.