New Proposition - MFM with a co-worker

[Sir Dude]

I've become good friends with a co-worker. Recently I met his wife and we hit it off, she's a great girl. I never considered anything sexual towards her.

About a 2 weeks ago he mentioned that he and his wife are very open minded and that they've tried a threesome with another girl. They had fun but she says she has no desire to do it again. However, she wants to try a MFM.

After he told me this, he admitted that he would be fine with that. If it turns her on , he said it turns him on. That is when I admitted the same thing but did not mention that we had tried it.

The next day at work he asked if my wife would try a threesome with him, I laughed it off but he said to give him the word and we would do it. So I asked what his wife thought about it. That 's when he said that we should each have a threesome with both women. I must admit, that intrigued me. His wife was all for it. This boosted my ego ofcoarse, it was flattering and his wife is very attractive.

So that night I mentioned our conversation to her. She laughed about it and said she hardly knew him. I told her we could hang out sometime, she said sure she would try that for sure. Both women had met once before and seemed to enjoy each others company.

This excites me. We've discussed this a couple of times and it seems like it is a possibility. It's all up to my wife really. However, I have not slept with another woman since we first met. Then again, that don't even seem to be a concern to her.

I don't expect anything to happen any time soon but I'm all for it , if it do. We better be cautious though, this is new territory for us. We'll have to see how the friendships develope.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Sir Dude

The next day at work he asked if my wife would try a threesome with him, I laughed it off but he said to give him the word and we would do it. So I asked what his wife thought about it. That 's when he said that we should each have a threesome with both women. I must admit, that intrigued me. His wife was all for it. This boosted my ego ofcoarse, it was flattering and his wife is very attractive.

Did you hear his wife say she'd be all for it, or was this by way of her husband? I ask becasue he could be setting you up to get to your wife without his wife ever becoming a part of the picture. Even if his wife told you she'd be up for it, I have my reservations because they could be teaming up to draw your wife in for a MFM for her husband, once he gets to play with your wife it could end up that you'll never get a MFM with his wife. Or this guy could be looking for a solo play with your wife; your wife goes to meet "them" and finds his wife is unable to make it. What then?

Since he's a co-worker I would be very cautious to begin with and it has often been said "don't play with co-workers." Me, I'd probably nix the idea because of our work relationship.

If he wasn't your co-worker I'd still be wondering about his intent.

I suggest the four of you meet for drinks and discuss this, get a better read on this couple and if you decide to play start with a foursome. Once you get the feel for how you all play and respond to each other, then move on to MFM if you feel comfortable doing so.

LM

[BiloxiCouple]

to LikeMinds321

[bbarnsworth]

Me too ... to LikeMinds321

I'll add, though it's been said often in other threads and referenced here, there's no real reason to play with a co-worker and/or the co-worker's spouse. There's PLENTY of danger to be had from doing so. Your work is your income, and all sorts of bad things can happen. It's just not worth the risk, most especially since there's PLENTY of other opportunities in the swinging world without having to involve a co-worker to have some fun.

Regardless of how tantalizing this all is, back off and go find fun elsewhere.

You owe me $.02

[TNT]

So, if I'm reading this right...

He wants to come have a MFM threesome with you and your wife and wants you to go have a MFM threesome with him and his wife...did I get that right?

What's wrong with the four of you meeting and all four playing in the same room with each wife sitting out watching her husband in a threesome? That way, everyone is definitely on the same page if all are in the same room together.

I do however, think it's a bad idea to mix co-workers with playing but...should you decide to do this, communication between the four of you together is paramount.


Teresa

[Sir Dude]

Yes , you guys could be right. There are many dangers and uncertianties. Either way, it's a long way from happening. However, I must admit, it is very tempting. They're both nice people but we don't want to make a mess of things.

[LikeMinds321]

Left Out is a thread you might find interesting. It is one of the threads I've read where a couple teamed up to unfairly "play" another couple.

LM

[Sir Dude]

We have decided to end this before it goes further. We'll still be friends and nothing bad has happened but there are too many risks.

We considered a same room swap but my wife isn't comfortable with the same room thing. She says she don't know them well enough. She also said she isn't really attracted to the other guy but was willing to have some fun because she likes him and she wanted to try it for my benifit and she was flattered at first. Since I get turned on knowing she is turned on, I'd rather she didn't.

Anyway, maybe in the future. They're very nice people.

[ncmd_couple]

Sir Dude,

From what you just stated, you have made a wise decision. But remember, in the future what you have said will not have changed.

S

[Two4funinpa]

Great answer from like minds couldn't have said it better myself. Just have to add my 2 cents. In todays tough market for employment why run that risk. Also, what if someday you become his boss or he becomes yours? Could be very awkward down the road. Not everyone always remains the same after the deed is done. I would refrain from play with a co worker. Those are just wicked little fantasies to get you through the dull drums of work.

[Cpl2share]

Just doing a Troll check here: in the original post: First you state that you and your wife have tried a threesome. Then you state that you have not been with another woman since you met your wife, then you say that this is all new ground for you. If you were just jumbled in the original post I accept that, and agree that you have made the correct decision not to persue this especially if, as you say, your wife was just going to take one for the team.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Cpl2share

Just doing a Troll check here: in the original post: First you state that you and your wife have tried a threesome. Then you state that you have not been with another woman since you met your wife, then you say that this is all new ground for you...

As I understood SirDude, he is saying that he and his wife had a threesome with another man joining them, however, SirDude has never been the sole male to join another couple in a MFM threesome, which explains why he's never been with another woman since he met his wife.

If he were to join a couple, alone, for a MFM it would be "new ground" for him and I'm guessing considering doing this with a co-worker would also be new ground.

LM

[Sir Dude]

lol - I should make myself more clear next time.
We have only had experienced a threesome with a friend of ours. Other than that, for the most part, we have no experience with anything else.

If I were to engage in a thressome without my wife, it would be a new experience. I have never once, had sex with anyone except my wife since we started dating.

Strip poker and skinnydipping is as close as I have been to another woman.

As far as the troll thing goes....I come to this site because it is the number 1 resource that I know of to read about the lifestyle and ask any questions. I don't even consider myself or my wife swingers. We are far too inexperienced.

[ncmd_couple]

Sir Dude,

Yes, you are correct, this is the best site on the internet for swinging issues, but at the same time, posts get confused. I understood that you had experienced a MFM threesome before. I'm glad to see that you are coming back.

S